Uhlangana naye - omuhle, onesibindi, ohlakaniphileyo, ngezwi elilodwa okungcono kakhulu (okungenani, manje ucabanga kanjalo). Futhi inhliziyo yakho ibetha ngokushesha kusuka ekucabangeni kwayo nje. Ufuna ukusondelana naye ngangokunokwenzeka, ukuxhumana naye, ukuhamba, ukuphila impilo yakhe. Kodwa kuze kube manje, ngeshwa, awusakazi futhi angakwazi, ngisho ngokuphelele futhi akusoze wonke umuntu osolwa mayelana nemizwa yakho ngaye. Umbuzo wakho oyinhloko kuleso simo, ingabe ungaqala kanjani ingxoxo nomfana omthandayo?
Khumbula, konke ukuxhumana kuqala ngesimiso esisodwa esimisiwe. Lokhu kusungulwa koxhumana naye (imisho yokuqala ukuqala ingxoxo), isethulo sakho (khumbula, awusoze waba nelungelo lesibili lokwenza umbono wokuqala ukuthi uzozibeka kanjani kuqala, ngakho uzobona). Okulandelayo, lokhu kuyinkulumo ngokwayo (izihloko ezithakazelisayo, imibuzo - izobonwa ngenkathi yokuxhumana) futhi ngokushesha ingxoxo kufanele ibe nefomu eligcwalisiwe ngeziphetho zomuntu siqu (ezivela zombili izinhlangothi) kanye nezinhlelo zokuthuthukiswa kokuxhumana kwakho (ukushintshaniswa kwezinombolo zocingo, umhlangano olandelayo). Abaningi bethu, ngokungahle kubonakale sengathi kubonakala sengathi, banqikaza kakhulu, beza futhi bazi owokuqala ngenhloso yokudumisa. Ngakho-ke, amantombazane amaningi akwazi ngisho nokuthi ungaqala kanjani ingxoxo nomfana omthandayo.
Konke kusendaweni yokuqala, ngenxa yemizwelo yakho, okuhlangenwe nakho kanye nesimo sakho sengqondo esiphezulu ngokuqondene nalomuntu. Shintsha isimo sakho sengqondo kuye. Okwamanje, lo mfana ubonakala kuwe ephakeme kakhulu, engatholakali ngakho-ke wena, intombazane evamile ejwayelekile, uyesaba ukuza nokuhlangana. Uyesaba ngenxa yebanga elingokomzwelo phakathi kwakho. Kulesi simo, kuyadingeka ukunciphisa leli banga ngesikhumbuzo sakho. Beka lo muntu ezingeni lakho, uziqinisekise ukuthi "ufana nawe". Futhi ngenxa yalokhu udinga ukugxilisa ukubaluleka kwalo, ukuveza ngendlela ehlukile, kwezinye imibala yokuqonda kwakho ngokomzwelo. Uma usuqaphela lokhu, ngokuqinisekile uzoqonda ukuthi ukwenza isinyathelo sokuqala futhi wazi kangcono kuyoba lula kuwe.
Futhi lokhu kujwayelene kakhulu. Wena wanqoba ukwesaba kwakho, ukuhlazeka, ukuziqhenya futhi waya kuye kuqala. Ekuqaleni, kulolu cala, khetha isikhathi esikahle, ukuthi umfana angeke agijime kuphi, angalindelanga noma ubani, kodwa usekubalekeni kwamahhala. Isibonelo, funda okuningi ngangokunokwenzeka ngaye, izintshisekelo zakhe, izindawo zokuphumula. Ukukufunde lokhu nakuzo zonke amakhadi ezandleni. Indawo yakhe yokuphumula idinga ukujwayela kuqala. Kanjani, uqale ingxoxo uqobo? Ungakhohlwa ukuthi abantu ngokuvamile baningi amathuba okukhuluma nabobulili obuhlukile kunamantombazane, ngakho akudingekile ukuthi asungulwe noma yini engaphezu kwemvelo. Qala ngombhalo ojwayelekile: "hello", bese ungase uhlabe noma ufike ngento ethile eyayiyomthakazelisa. Kungcono ukuthi umfana acele umbuzo, futhi owodwa awukwazi ukuphendulwa ngegama elilodwa. Yiqiniso, ukukhetha okuhle, uma lolu daba luzohambisana nomzuzwana noma indawo lapho kwenzeka khona konke. Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukumomotheka - isici esiyinhloko sentombazane ekukhohliseni ubulili obuqinile. Uma kufanelekile, ngesikhathi yengxoxo, ungenza umfana amancoma ambalwa. Bonke abantu bathanda ukukhuluma ngabo (ikakhulukazi abafana). Thatha isithakazelo ezintweni zokuzilibazisa, izinto ezithandwayo, ukuthanda izinto. Okuvamile, noma yizintambo, izingqikithi zisiza njalo. Ukwenza kube lula kumfana ukuziveza, ungatshela, isibonelo, uhlobo lomculo owuthandayo, bese ubuza mayelana nokuthandayo. Buza ukuthi uthanda ukuphumula kanjani. Yiphi indawo edolobheni ethanda kakhulu. Khuluma ngalokho okukuzungezile, futhi izihloko zizothola futhi uzokutshela ngokushesha ukuthi ingxoxo yakho izoqala kanjani eyedwa. Uma ulahlekelwa ngokuphelele futhi ungazi ukuthi ungathini, cela kuye okuthile okujwayelekile okuvela ekuphileni kwansuku zonke (ungafunda ngefilimu noma ifilimu yokugcina inzwa), kusuka empendulo yakhe uthole imininingwane futhi ubuze ngakho. Nasi isihloko sezingxoxo zakho zokuqala. Ngicabanga, ngakho ingxoxo yakho izodlula emkhakheni wezintshisekelo zakhe. Lapha into esemqoka ukukhombisa ukuthi umlaleli olalela futhi othokoza kangakanani, ngubani owazi ukucabanga ngombono wakhe. Ngendlela, akuyona into engafanele ukukhumbula ukuthi ukuziphatha kwengxoxo kuyindaba yabaxhumanisi ababili. Ngakho ungazami ukubonisa amandla akho. Ukubiza amantombazane - balalele futhi kuncane ngangokunokwenzeka ukuphazamisa umfana.
Ukuhlanganiswa okukhulu nokuzijwayeza kuyoba ikhono lakho lokwenza okulungile ukuqala kuqala. Kuzoxhomeka ngesifiso sakhe sokukwazi kangcono. Kodwa-ke, ungakhohlwa, uyintombazane futhi kufanele uhlale uhlambalaza, ungazivuli amaphesenti angamakhulu. Amantombazane athande amantombazane - amapuzzles futhi ahlale efuna ukwazi kangcono ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngendlela, ngokumthakazelisayo, uzokwazi ukuqondisa ubuhlobo bakho ngokwakho njengoba ufuna yona. Ukuthuthukiswa komlando wakho "wokubambisana" ngaphesheya futhi kuvuselele ngokuqondile, kusukela ekukhulumisaneni kwakho kokuqala, emva kwalokho umthandi wakho ozozikhethela yena ngokwakhe, uhlobo luni lobudlelwane angathanda nawe. Ngakho-ke, faka yonke into enhle, ingqondo, ukuhlekisa, ukuhlakanipha kanye nenhle, ukuze okhethiweyo akho abe nesithakazelo kuwe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokoqobo kusuka kumuntu wokuqala wokuphola ngokushesha kumele azi kahle (futhi ungacabangi), iyiphi indima kulo mhlobo omsinikezayo. Yiqiniso, ukumemeza ngokucacile ngemizwa yabo akusilo neze, kodwa ukushaya ngokungafani kuyinto ehlukile.
Futhi ekugcineni, ngifuna ukusho, nguwe oyisiqalo - wena futhi wakhe. Futhi uzama ukuba ngumvelo, uqotho, ujabule. Yiba nawe lo mfana omthandayo kakhulu. Yenza kanjalo ukuthi ngesikhathi sokuthandana nomfana onomuzwa wokuthi ukhululekile futhi ukhululekile. Zibonise ngokusemandleni akho, futhi ngokuqinisekile uzothola umfana omthandayo.