Lesi siko esibonakala singasebenzi , kancane kancane, sishiya izwe lethu elibucayi. Abantu, ikakhulukazi besifazane, bakhululwa, futhi abafuni ukuboshwa umshado. Uma umshado wangaphambili wawuyijoka entanyeni yamadoda, ezweni lanamuhla abesifazane abaningi bathambekele kulo mbono. Akunakusho ukuthi lokhu kubi, abantu bajwayele isimo esiphezulu sezenhlalakahle, balwela ukuzibona bona, ukwenza umsebenzi, bese banakekela impilo yabo. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bangaki abesifazane abenqaba ukugubha imikhosi, beba mnandi ngosuku olunjalo olukhunjulwayo, wonke umakoti ufuna. Futhi ungavumeli kube khona ukugqoka komshado we-chic ngesitimela, umshado, i-limousine. Kodwa kuyoba khona inkumbulo yosuku oluqhakazile, olungeke luphinde luphinde lube khona. Kumelwe sikwenze kungenakulibaleka, hhayi ukubonisa, kodwa thina ngokwethu. Eyishumi, iminyaka engamashumi amabili ubheka izithombe namavidiyo, futhi ukumamatheka, ukukhumbula usuku lwakho olujabulisayo kakhulu.
Ukubeka indandatho emunwe wakho ehhovisi lokubhalisa akusona umuzwa wokuthi kufanele uzizwe ngaleso sikhathi. Futhi amazwi omkhosi ohola ukuthi kufanele ube ndawonye ngokudabukisayo nangenjabulo awunalutho. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela, indandatho ngomunwe, lokhu akuyona ikolishi, kodwa uxhumano olungabonakali kodwa olunomsoco nomngane wakho womshado. Manje unesifo esisodwa, usizi, izinkinga, ukwehluleka, izifo, konke kuhlukaniswe kabili. Kodwa uthando luyonqoba konke nenjabulo, injabulo, kuyoba endlini yakho indebe egcwele.
Umshado uyisinyathelo lapho abantu abaqiniseka ngothando lwabo bexazululwa. Ukulungele ukuhlala impilo yakho yonke nokwesekwa ngesikhathi esibucayi, uqonde, uthethelele, uhloniphe futhi uzuzise. Kunzima ukuphikisana neqiniso lokuthi kunezimo lapho owesifazane noma indoda evuma ukushada kwezisusa zezimoto (imali, amandla, isikhala esiphilayo), futhi yibo bantu abaphendulela umkhosi ongaqondakali endaweni enkulu. Kungenxa yezibonelo zabo ukuthi imibhangqwana eminingi manje isihlukanisile, izizathu ezinjengokuthi "azizange zihlangane nezinhlamvu", ayikwazi ukubangela isinyathelo esinzima kangaka. Manje konke kuxazululwa kalula futhi nje, impikiswano isho isehlukaniso. Akekho ocabanga ukuthi, mhlawumbe uma umuntu oyedwa ehlaselwa, isehlukaniso singagwemeka.
Umshado uyisiko esadluliswa phakathi kwecala leminyaka elidala . Isakramente yesifungo esinikezwa othandweni lwaphakade. Ukuphonsa amagama, kusho ukwehlisa yonke imibono, futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umshado awukwenzi, unikeza isithembiso kuwe. Njengoba ukhethe umlingani wakho empilweni, ubopha omunye ngomshado, futhi ungafaki ikhola entanyeni yakho. Wena ngokwakho ukhethe lo muntu. Ngakho-ke, akufanele ukhononde ngokuphila. Futhi ukukhala kubangani esivumelwaneni mayelana nesiphetho sabo. Ngesinye isikhathi, isizathu sokudumazeka singabi nomona. Nangu umngane kungcono, futhi ngifuna kanjalo.
Lungiselela umshado kufanele uqaphele kakhulu , hhayi nje kuphela edilini. Kudingeka silungiselele ngokwengqondo, silinganise konke futhi siqaphele. Uma lokhu kungumuntu "wakho", ngesibindi ungene endleleni elula kodwa ejabulisayo yokuphila, ebizwa ngokuthi umndeni. Kodwa uma kunokungabaza, kungcono ukuhlehlisa umkhosi, hlola imizwa yakho, ukulungele impilo ndawonye. Ngisho noma uhlala ndawonye, lokhu akusona isizathu sokuqiniseka ngokuqinisekile ukuthi wenze isinqumo esifanele. Kusukela ukuhlangana, ukuhlala ndawonye, nokuphila komndeni, lezizinto izinto ezintathu ezihluke ngokuphelele.