Bathi ukuphikisa kuheha. Ngokuvamile amadoda akhetha okungafani nawo ngokuphelele emshadweni. Abathengisi bezingane bathatha amantombazane emakhaya avela ngakwesokudla, imindeni ehlakaniphile, futhi abafana abathandekayo nabanesizotha bakhetha izindlovukazi zabo zeqembu kanye nezinkampani zezingonyama zezwe zabafazi babo.
Kodwa okokuqala amadoda ashada nalabo besifazane abanokusekelwa okuthembekile kumuntu ongakwazi ukwakha ubuhlobo obuqotho nokuhlonipha ngempela, umndeni wangempela.
Kodwa-ke, singazihlanganisa kanjani nezibalo, ngokusho ukuthi imishado engu-10 kwengu-100 kuphela ephethwe ngothando. Ukukhetha umkakhe nomama wezingane zakhe zesikhathi esizayo, umuntu uzenzele izinqubo eziningana okumelwe zifanane nomfazi wakhe wesikhathi esizayo. Ngokuvamile lowo abathandayo akwazi ukudala ukungcola, akafuni izingane, azi ukuthi kufanele zihlwanyele kanjani, njalonjalo njalonjalo. Okusho ukuthi owesifazane othandekayo akahambisani nesithombe somfazi nomama omuhle. Lapha ezimweni ezinjalo, amanye amadoda ashada nabesifazane abafanelana nomsebenzi wabo. Njengoba bethi, zithembele - ziyobathandana.
Amadoda amaningi abathandana nomoya afuna ukulungela isikhathi eside. Kodwa ayikho imigomo kuleli zwe. Futhi kufanele ngishade nalabo bantu abangenathemba kulabo abaqhathanisa ngokufanayo futhi bahambisane nalokho okuhle kakhulu.
Esikhathini sethu, ngokuvamile abesifazane abashadile abashada ngokubala, kodwa futhi amadoda ashada ngenxa yesizathu esifanayo. Ukubalwa kungaba imali, nokusebenza, nokubala kokuthandwa nodumo emphakathini. Lolu hlu alunamkhawulo. Ezimweni ezinjalo, indoda iyashada ukuze ithole inzuzo ethile ngendlela yalesi sibalo. Futhi hhayi ngempela owesifazane oshade naye, thandani, into esemqoka ukumenza akholwe noma ambonise izinzuzo nezinzuzo azithola kulo mshado. Akumangalisi ukuthi kukhona inkulumo ethi: "Ngesikhathi sokuqala bashada ngothando, okwesibili kube lula, okwesithathu umkhuba".
Amadoda amaningi ashada nomfazi wokuqala onesizungu emgwaqweni ngoba isikhathi sesifikile futhi bonke abangane nabazali basho ngokubambisana ukuthi kufanele bashade. Bonke abangane abakuzungezile baye bathola imindeni, kanti wena ungumuntu ongu-bachelor ofuna i-ghostly ekahle. Lapha, futhi uqala ukukala indlela yokuphila ye-bachelor kanye nokucindezelwa kwabanye.
Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani amadoda eshada abesifazane besinye uhlobo noma omunye. Lokhu ukukhulelwa kowesifazane ovela kulo muntu, nokwesaba kwakhe isizungu ekugugeni, nokucindezelwa kwabazali, nokungaqiniseki kokuphila kanye nesifiso sokushintsha okuthile ekuphileni, ukuzama into entsha, impilo yomndeni kuleso simo. Konke lokhu kungakha umndeni omuhle emphakathini, ukubonakala komndeni, kodwa emndenini onjalo ngeke kube khona uthando. Ukuphakama okungenzeka emshadweni onjalo kunenhlonipho nokukhathalela futhi kuphela ngesifiso sobabili bomshado kulokhu.
Kodwa kunoma yikuphi abesifazane abashadile, sithemba ukuthi bayokushada ngothando olukhulu. Ungaziphiki uthando, vula kuye. Futhi-ke nguwe ozobonisa ukuthi ungumfazi oshade naye ngothando olulodwa. Ungazami ukusebenzisa izindlela ezingenhla ukushada nendoda oyithandayo. Akukho okuhle okuzovela kuwo. Lindela uthando lwakho kanye nalowo muntu ongashadile. Konke kunesikhathi saso, njengoba besho.