Umyeni wami ungu-Lovelace

Ubani, empeleni, abafazi abanjalo? Ngokusho komqondo jikelele, laba bangamadoda, okuvela kuwo inqwaba yabantu besifazane abakuzungezile. Futhi akudingekile nakanjani ukuthi uyoba mnandi ngokumangalisayo. Kunalokho, uyoba mnandi kakhulu, ehlakaniphile futhi ehleka kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, u-Lovelace akanamahloni futhi akavali lapho ekhuluma nabantu abangabazi, ekwazi ngothando lwakhe futhi alisebenzise ngokuzenzekelayo, kalula wenza abangane abasha. Ngokuvamile inani lamanoveli adlule kuwo lilinganiselwa emininingwaneni, futhi linqobe noma yimuphi owesifazane - umsebenzi wabo ungaphezu kokulula.
Yini okufanele uyenze uma Lovelace eba umyeni wakho? Empeleni, kungcono ukungavumeli lokhu. Kuyinto engazinzile, emoyeni, ukwethenjelwa kwayo kuhamba kancane, kepha isifiso sokunqoba nokufeza, ukuba sisetshenziswe - njalo, ngendlela engavamile, iqinisekisa. Ngamadoda anjalo akulula isikhathi eside ukugcina ubuhlobo obuseduze, futhi nje ukuphumula futhi uzizwe uthanda, ungakhohlwa ngokuphelele. Yebo, kungcono ukungashadi umuntu onjalo.

Kodwa-ke, yini okufanele uyenze uma usuthandana futhi usuvele ushade naye, noma uma ucabangela uhlamvu lwakhe kuphela emva komshado (futhi kwenzeka kanjalo), ngokujwayelekile - uma usengasho kakade ngawe: "Yebo, umyeni wami uyindodakazi"?
Kulokhu, khumbula ukuthi ubuhlobo besikhathi eside nomuntu onjalo kunzima ukulondoloza, kodwa kungenzeka, uma uhambisana nemithetho ethile.

Ungabonisi umyeni wakho, Lovelace, ukuthi ungowakho - ukukhanya okuwukuphela kwefasitela, ikakhulukazi ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Xoxa nabangani, uye emsebenzini futhi ngivumele naye ngezinye izikhathi amncintisane, akukhumbuze ukuthi ungumuntu okhethekile okhangayo futhi othakazelisayo. Kuphela akusikho icala elingaliqedi - umhawu yisikhali esinamandla kakhulu, kulula kakhulu ukugoba induku. Futhi emva kokuqhuma komhawu wakhe, hamboza othandekayo ngokunakekelwa nokukhathalela, ukuxhumana naye ngomusa, bonisa ukuthi uyamthanda kanjani.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, njalo ubonise umyeni wakho-omama ukuthi uthole izici ezintsha ezinhle kuye, njengoba ufunda. Bhala ububele bakhe, amandla akhe nengqondo, ngakho-ke, ukuthi uhola kanjani ngobuchwepheshe umnotho, ibhizinisi lakhe, ngokuvamile, khuluma ngangokunokwenzeka kokuncoma. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukuncoma kuyigugu kuphela uma kulungile - akudingeki ukuthi utshele amanga. Ngisho noma umuntu othanda kakhulu ngeke akholelwe udumo uma umnika, ngokunembile futhi njalo ekunika inkokhelo futhi ungalokothi ubonise iphunga esitolo, uzokuthi uthanda kangakanani ikhono lakhe lokuhola umndeni. Kodwa ukwesaba ukweqisa izimfanelo ezinhle ezikhona, ukuncoma umyeni wakhe, Lovelace, akudingekile - ukuzwa amazwi amnandi nsuku zonke, uzama ukuzama ukuwafanisa. Noma kunjalo, ngisho lapha kukhona ingozi yokudlula induku. Ukuzwa ukudumisa okunamandla, indoda yamadoda inganquma ukuthi ufanelwe isiphetho esingcono kunokuba ube ngumyeni wakho, ngoba wena ngokwakho umdumisa kanjalo. Futhi ukubhubhisa umuntu onjalo kuyindlela ngqo, mhlawumbe, isimo esingathandeki kakhulu sobudlelwano bakho obuseduze-ngokwesibonelo, uzokushiya ngokuqhubekayo ukuze afune inhloso yakhe ehambelana naye-enhle kangaka, noma ukushintsha nje ngakwesokunxele nangesobunxele, kungekho penny ebeka imizwa yakho kanye nemizwelo.

Ngakho-ke, dumisani umyeni wakho u-Lovelace, umnikezele ukuncoma, ungazifaki uma ekhona ngempela, kodwa ungamdumisi; ahlale ekhangayo futhi efiselekayo kwamanye amadoda, futhi makabone (kepha ungashintshi nhlobo), yibani nomusa, umthande futhi unakekele, kodwa ungakhohlwa ngezinto ozifunayo kanye nezenzo zokuzilibazisa - okwakubonakala sengathi akunakwenzeka - ukwakha umndeni oqinile futhi ujabule no-Lovelace - ukuthi uzophumelela.