Umbono ophikisanayo wokuthi ukuqala ubudlelwane, nomfazi omdala, abafana abancane ngokuvamile baphishekela imigomo yobugovu, akuhambisani ngaso sonke isikhathi neqiniso. Ngokuvamile, ubuhlobo obunjalo busekelwe emizwa elula, engenabugovu. Futhi ngokufanele, ezimweni eziningi, ngisho nokuhleleka komshado olandelayo akukhipha. Futhi kungani kungenjalo. Indoda eneminyaka yobudala enesoka elinjalo uzizwa isencane kakhulu, ngoba yaziwa ukuthi owesifazane ohlukanisa nentsha kunzima kunamadoda. Ngakho-ke ufuna ukuzwa kanjalo, futhi ube eduze kwabakhethiweyo abasha. Futhi-ke, lo mfana uzizwa eqiniseka kakhulu ngoba okuhlangenwe nakho kokuphila komngane kumvumela ukuba amnike imizwa yangempela nokukhathalela. Ngezinye izikhathi angalindeli kubangane babo. Le ntombazane, osemncane kakhulu, ngemva kokuzwa le nkinga, ivele ilahle, futhi ihleka - odala uzoqonda ukuhluleka okwesikhashana, uzohlala exhasa. Lokhu kusebenza nakwabantu abakhathele kakhulu nge-nomadism "kusukela komunye kuya komunye" futhi bafuna ubudlelwane obunzima. Ngokuqondene nabesifazane abadala, bavame ukulahlekelwa ithemba kubantu besigaba sabo seminyaka futhi bazame ukuqonda ubuhlobo babo namadoda amancane. Futhi abafana abakubo ababonanga kuphela umngane wokuphila, kodwa kaningi umama wesibili, ozohlala elula isandla. Ngakho-ke, singasho ngokuphepha ukuthi iningi lalabo buhlobo libhekisela ngokwalo njengesibonakaliso sokuthi "ujabule". Noma kunjalo, hlobo luni lwabafana abavame ukukhanga kwabesifazane abadala? Okokuqala, laba yizinsizwa ezinenkinga ebonakalayo ekukhulumeni nabangane babo, ikakhulukazi amantombazane. Bazibheka njengeziqhenya futhi bazibeka ekuthuthukiseni kwabo kwengqondo, ngokuvamile ezingaphezu kweminyaka yobudala. Ngakho-ke, nje ukuthola ulimi oluvamile nabo. Okwesibili, ngokuvamile, laba bafana abakhulela ngaphandle komama (kusukela emndenini ongaphelele). Kodwa-ke, kungase kube khona inkinga ebucayi obuseduze. Uhlotshaniswa neqiniso lokuthi ngokusesha okungaqondakali owesifazane, lapho, okokuqala, umfana uzobeka isidingo sakhe somama - akakwazi nje ukumbona njengomlingani wezocansi. Isizathu sesithathu sihlobene nezinsizwa ezithandwa kakhulu ngabazali (ikakhulukazi amadodana amancane). Ngokuqondene nalezi zinsuku, amadodana abazali babo abaqaphele ngokweqile, ezingeni labo lokucabanga kwengqondo, besaba ukulahlekelwa yisitoreji ekuphileni kwabo kamuva. Ngakho-ke, bakholelwa ukuthi oontanga abakwazi ukubenza baqiniseke futhi bafake amahlombe abo endaweni embi. Futhi, ngokuzithoba kwabo, bazobe bekhululekile kakhulu nomuntu ongakwazi ukufaka ukunakekelwa komzali.
Ngomfazi ovuthiwe kuphela laba bantu bazizwa bephephile ngokuphelele ezinkingeni nezinkinga zokuphila. Lokhu kungenye yezinkomba ezicacile, ezibalulekile, lapho umfana efuna ukuthola owesifazane omdala kunabo. Yileyo ndlela umlingani omdala aqala ngayo ukuphila kwabo okuhlanganyene nalabafana abasha.
Iphuzu elibalulekile ukuthi owesifazane osekhulile, ngendlela yokuphila kwakhe, usevele utshele okuningi, ubhekene nolwazi olunemibandela yokuphila. Ngakho-ke, ukuvulela abakhethiweyo bakhe abasha, ama-horizons amasha kolwazi lobuhlobo bangempela futhi ngezinye izikhathi naye ngokwakhe. Ngelinye igama, unesithakazelo kuye kuphela. Umane uthanda iseluleko sakhe, imibono, imibono. Ngokuphathelene nobudlelwane obuseduze bobudlelwane babo, owesifazane onjalo ubuye ahlangane nakho, othandana naye, isethenda kanye nesenzo.
Owesifazane oneminyaka yakhe unesimo somuntu okwenzekile, uhlale eqiniseka futhi uyazi ukuthi ufuna ukuthini. Akazicabangeli yena kuphela, kodwa ngomlingani wakhe, njengombuso, unesimo sengqondo, ngaso sonke isikhathi unesibopho samagama nezenzo zakhe. Lokhu kuyisici esibalulekile sobudlelwane obungalingani. Lapha ungasho ngokuphepha ukuthi ngokungena ebuhlotsheni obunjalo, lo mfana uhlangabezana nezidingo zakhe ezingokwengqondo, uzizwa kudingekile futhi kudingekile. Phela, indoda ethile noma yinoma iyiphi inyaka iyajabula lapho idinga futhi yathi ingxenye yakhe yesibili.
Ngokuvamile, laba besifazane base beshadile kakade, lapho bacabanga ukuthi abahlonishwa futhi bahlonishwa ngokwanele. Futhi ngekhanda eliwela ezandleni zomfana osemusha, okuzokwenza konke kube okuhlukile kuye, kubonakala sengathi uyisipho sekusasa. Phela, lo mlingane omncane uthanda ngobuqotho umlingani wakhe ovuthiwe, akapheli impilo, kulula ukummangaza, ngaleyo ndlela amenze ajabule. Futhi kulula ukuzithoba (ngomqondo omuhle wezwi) futhi ngeke akhubeke nhlobo. Kuye ungakhohlwa ngaye, ukhule futhi ikhanda lakhe lithengele esimweni senjabulo.
Kwenzeka futhi, ukuthi umfana osemusha ukhumbuza owesifazane osekhulile othandweni lwakhe lokuqala, intsha, eminyakeni yekolishi. Le nsizwa idala owesifazane ukukhohliswa kokubuyela ekukhuleni. Ngendlela, kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi lolu hlobo lobuhlobo luvame ukwakhiwa ngabesifazane abancane (nakuba kungenjalo wonke umuntu uyavuma ukuthi leli gama lizosetshenziselwa ubulili besifazane), noma ngubani oneminyaka yobudala azama ukuba ngumncane ngomphefumulo wakhe nasemhlabeni wangaphakathi. Bayakwazi ukuqonda le nsizwa encane futhi abe naye ngaso sonke isikhathi ezingeni futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukumhlonipha, ukuvikela ukusekela.
Futhi njengesiphetho, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi omama omdala njalo bayazi ukuthi yini abayifunayo empilweni, banolwazi lwansuku zonke, bangenakubekezelelana kwezinkinga zansuku zonke, banokuphila okuhle okuthile. Sikulungele ukubeletha izingane futhi asifuni ukugijima kuma-discos. Nakhu, i-magnetism, eyenza umfana akhethe ukukhetha umngane osekhulile. Futhi namanje, kumuntu oyedwa umfana ubona kokubili umama, nkosikazi, kanye nothisha. Futhi imishado inamandla kakhulu, uma wonke umuntu ephakamisa futhi efanelana nomuntu wonke. Kuyinto ehlazo kuphela ukuthi abafana abasibi kakhulu kulobu buhlobo, njengabesifazane abadala.