Uma umuntu ekuphonsa wena - usizo lwezingqondo kuwe kungaba usizo kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma kubonakala kuwe ukuthi izwe lonke lilahlekelwe ukubaluleka kwalo, konke sekuphendukile futhi kungathandeki, kwaguquka kuwe, kwavala ubuso bakho. Ayikho intshiseko, kukhona ukunganakwa okuphelele, nomphefumulo kanye nemicabango ihlale ihamba ngezinkumbulo zesikhathi esidlule, ibuyele izikhathi lapho uhlangene, ufuna amaphutha angalungile, futhi ulokhu upheqa amakhanda abo ... Ucabanga ukuthi: ngoba konke kungalungiswa, uma ngingenzanga ... Khona-ke ngabe bekanye nami, bebengabeke baphinde baphakamise isandla sami, bebengabe besangisongela futhi babuke ngeso lengqondo elibukhali, ngabe bekungowami. Nansi umthetho wokuqala: ungazitshali. Kwenzekani, kwenzeka, awukwazi ukuyibuyisela. Ngokuvamile, sizibeka ngokweqile ngalokho okungafaneleki, futhi lokhu kungabangela ubunzima obungokwengqondo, kungakhathazeki futhi silahlekelwa ukuthula kwengqondo. Ngisho noma ngabe wenze amaphutha okukhadikhadi, thatha isayensi ukuze esikhathini esizayo lobu buhlobo bungabonwa. Kuzo zonke izinto zokuphila, umuntu kufanele alwele ukulungela, ukuzifunela kuleli zwe, ukulungisa amaphutha ethu. Ngemuva kwalokho, kuphezu kwalokho esikufunda kakhulu. Futhi enani elikhulu kunazo zonke lamacala, akekho ozosola ukuthi ubuhlobo budlulile noma ushiywa umuntu. Kuvele nje ukuthi ubuhlobo buphelile, uthando seluhambe noma kwenzeka ukuthi awuyena nje uhlobo lwabantu abadinga omunye nomunye. Thatha kalula, futhi uphathe izindaba ngokuzithoba: emva kwakho konke, kuvame ukuthi kwenzeka ukuthi insizwa ayikugxothanga ngoba unecala, kodwa ngoba isinyathelo esithile, futhi ekuqaleni saqaphela ukuthi akukho lutho oluzovela kulo mbunyano . Kungcono ukufuna othile omusha, ukuqala impilo entsha, kunokuba ahlupheke futhi abuke amaphutha ebuhlotsheni obudala, ngaphandle kokuthola injabulo kubo.
Izazi zengqondo zeluleka esikhathini sokuqala lapho uphonsa khona umuntu, ungagodli imizwelo emibi bese ubavumela ukuba baphume. Vumela ukhale, uma uthanda, ungagodli, ngoba izinyembezi zithwala imisebenzi eminingi yomzimba, kuhlanganise nokusizwa kwengqondo, ukuphumula ngokomzwelo, okudingayo. Amahora ambalwa okuqala ngemva kokuphuka kuyisihlungu kakhulu. Kukhona umphumela wemicabango emibi, umuntu ozwa izindaba azizwile, ugxilile, kamuva ucabanga ngakho konke okwakungaphambili, afune izindlela zokushintsha okuthile, ucabange ngalokho okufanele akwenze ngokulandelayo.
Intombazane ngayinye iphendula ngendlela yakhe yokuthi iphonsa indoda. Kuxhomeke ekutheni ubumnene, ukunamathela kwabathandekayo, isimo sengqondo ngesikhathi sokuhlukanisa, isimo sengqondo sensizwa, ukuthi uthanda kangakanani le nsizwa. Futhi indima yakhe iyinyaka yakhe, isipiliyoni kanye nokuzethemba kwakhe.
Uma ukuhlukana kwakho kwakubuhlungu ikakhulukazi (ukunganaki, ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, ukungabi nesifiso sokudla, ingozi yokuzibulala, ukulala), kungcono ukuxhumana nomqondo wezengqondo noma isifo sengqondo sokusiza kwengqondo. Abantu abanjalo bangabachwepheshe emkhakheni wabo futhi bazokusiza ukuba ususe into yakho yothando ngokushesha futhi ngempumelelo ngangokunokwenzeka. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo ngeke sikunike iseluleko njengezintombi noma umama wakho, ukuphikisana ngokomzwelo nangokweqile. Uzokusiza ukuthi uziqonde wena, uchaze izinkinga zakho futhi akusize ukuxazulula lesi simo. Uma uqaphela ukuthi izimpawu zivezwa kakhulu, futhi zingaba nokucindezeleka - kungcono ukuya emtholampilo ukubona udokotela.
Ukuze ungabonakali emicabangweni engathandeki futhi uphulukise ngokushesha amanxeba okuhlukanisa, qaphela ibhizinisi lakho ozithandayo, cabanga ingqondo yakho engavamile. Zizinakekele, hamba ezitolo, ubhalisele ukudansa noma ezemidlalo, zikhethele ukuzijabulisa okuthile okusha. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuba ungaphazanyiswa kuphela emicabangweni emibi, kodwa futhi ukwenza abangane abasha, abangani abasha abazokunika ukusekelwa kwengqondo nokusizwa.
Uma uqhubeka udinga ukusizwa kwengqondo, uzikhethele ngaphakathi, zibuze, yini oyidingayo? Mhlawumbe, futhi eshahleni bese ufihla izikhalazo ezindala, amagama umuntu ongakaze awakhulume naye, futhi owephula naye. Mhlawumbe zikhona izimo ezingacacile ebuhlotsheni, izithembiso ezingaziniki ukuthula futhi okudingeka ukuthi ziqonde futhi ziqonde ukuthi ziyini. Uma kunjalo, ungakhuluma nomuntu owakuphonsa, noma, uma lokhu kungenakwenzeka, ngesazi sengqondo, umama noma umngane. Khuluma nomuntu omethembayo, hlaziya ngesikhathi esifanayo kuwe bese uhlaziya isimo. Mhlawumbe, u-interlocutor wakho uzokusiza ukuba uqonde amanye amaphuzu owakhathalelayo ngawo.
Ungazivumeli uzizwe udabukile, uphazamise imicabango engalungile - lokhu kuyisizo esiyinhloko esingokwengqondo lapho noma yiluphi uchwepheshe eyokukwazisa. Okubaluleke kakhulu - ungangabazi, futhi ungavumeli ukuzethemba kwakho kwehle. Abaningi besifazane babe nolwazi lwezimo ezinjalo, kodwa balwela kanzima. Futhi baphuma njengabaholi, bebhekana nokudabuka kwabo. Kungani ungakwazi? Ungalokothi uzibuze ukuthi uqobo lwakho ufanele futhi wena. Iqiniso lokuthi uphonsa indoda, hhayi isizathu sokulenga impumulo yakho. Thatha isimo njengoba nsuku zonke, sibhekane nemizwelo yakho, qhubeka uthanda futhi uzikhandle, uzenzele ezitolo ezithengisayo, uxhumane nabantu abathandekayo futhi ukhohlwe ngokushesha ukuhluleka kwakho. Kuzobalulekile ukukhipha kuphela okuwusizo: ukuthola ulwazi oluthe xaxa ebuhlotsheni bobudlelwane, ukuqaphela amaphutha akho, ukutadisha izimo ezahlukene nokuphila ngokwayo.
Uma umuntu ekuphonsa, uyakwazi ukukunikeza usizo oluyisisekelo lokusebenza kwengqondo. Ungazibopheli embi, engabonakali emicabangweni emibi nemizwa, thatha izimo ezinjengokuhlangenwe nakho okuwusizo - futhi uzophumelela. Ngokushesha, ungakhohlwa ukuvulela abantu abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo, futhi, mhlawumbe, ngothando olusha oluzokusiza ukuba uqonde ukuthi konke okuzayo kungcono kakhulu futhi okusemandleni.