Inqubo yokukhwabanisa yindoda ihlukile futhi ayikho ngaphansi kweyethu, owesifazane. Noma yiyiphi insizwa emi futhi eqinisekisiwe ingaba lula futhi ingaphazanyiswa, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ngesikhathi esifushane (ukuthi kufanele sithole ukuthi kanjani?) Ukuziveza njengomuntu ofanelekile ukugcwalisa izigaba zethu zabathandi. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi lolu hlobo lwabantu abanobulili obunamandla luzobukeka lufana namaphesenti angu-100, noma ngamaphesenti angamakhulu amabili, futhi ngenxa yalokhu, kungenzeka ukuthi uzoba ngowokuqala ukuphuma esixukwini bese uthola amehlo ensimini. Ungamhlangabeza ngokuphelele kunoma yiluphi iqembu, ibha, cafe, ngoba isakhi sakhe siyisiphumuzi futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo siqhuba ukwazi. Ngezinye izikhathi, Yebo, kungaba umhlangano ongalindelekile epakini noma ngisho nokuma. Into eyinhloko ukuthi uzoqiniseka ukuthi awusheshe futhi kule mizuzu emihlanu, uzochitha, ethola impendulo enhle, ngakwesokunene sakho. Ake sihambe, ngqo, kumngane wethu. Isibonelo sesimo: nayizimpelasonto esilinde isikhathi eside futhi wena kanye nabangani bakho-nabangane bakho (futhi nami), nganquma ukuvakashela esinye sezikhungo ezibalulwe ngenhla futhi nje niphumule emva kwesimiso esibucayi esibuhlungu. Futhi-ke, wambona, ekhangayo, ehlotshiswe kahle futhi, ekuboneni kuqala, umfana onesibindi obuye wakuqaphela. Ngokuqinisekile uzozizwa uzibheke. Buza kuphi nokuthi kungani? Ukhohliwe ukuthi intukuthelo yowesifazane ingubani, ngokuqinisekile ngeke ikuvumele. Mhlawumbe wena, ngaphandle kokuqaphela ukuthi nhlobo, uzodlula izikhathi eziningana naye ngezindlebe, qaphela ukumomotheka kwakhe okuthakazelisayo, kodwa, cishe, ungathinti noma yikuphi ukubaluleka kuwo. Kodwa, yena, kholwa mina, usuvele uke waphawula futhi ngisho, ufunde kahle. Indoda, njalo ekhetha into yakhe yokuzwelana - owesifazane, isikhathi eside futhi ngaphandle kokusheshisa noma kuphi, angambuka, ebuka ngokuziphatha kwakhe, imikhuba kanye nezenzo. Futhi ngisho nalokho akukhetha ukukwenza kusuka kwimenyu. Noma kunjalo, ulinde isikhathi esikahle, uzoshukumisela ukuba uhambe endleleni yakho, ngenkathi ethatha uhlobo oluthile lwamathuluzi: ibhodlela le-champagne, izimbali noma i-cocktail. Kodwa usuvele unesiqalo, esizoyibiza igama, yona kanye i-PR ngokuphana kwayo kanye nokukhwabanisa. Inqubo yahamba ngokuqondile. Ngakho-ke unakho konke, konke, kukhona okunye, okungaphezulu, hhayi okungaphansi, kodwa imizuzu emihlanu ukukujabulisa, unkosikazi wenhliziyo yakhe. Kuthiwani emaminithini amahlanu amadoda angayenza ukuze ajabule abesifazane? Ngalesi sikhathi, u-chevalier wakho omusha kufanele ashiye umbono omuhle ngaye, ngokunamathela emigodini eyisisekelo yokuphola okulungile. Futhi lokhu, okokuqala, kuyisethulo ngekhanda neyingqayizivele (isethulo sayo singasetshenziswa ngokuphepha), ngokushintshwa okubushelelezi, ngokuqondile, engxoxweni ngokwayo futhi, ekugcineni, ukuhlanganisa owaziyo ngezenzo ezilandelayo neziphetho.
Phakathi "nomzuzu omhlanu" wokuthandana nomuntu, angasho ngokuphepha ukuthi uyakuthanda. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, bonke bazibonise bona, kuyo yonke inkazimulo yayo, ukuba banesithakazelo kulo wesifazane futhi bamnakekele yena ngokwakhe, ukuthi uzovele ezwe. Futhi mhlawumbe, ngisho, kabusha. Uma engakutsheli, angakwenza ngalokhu ngendlela yonke, ngokusebenzisa izincomo ezinamandla ekhelini lakho noma indlela yokuxhumana eqhubekayo. Kodwa, ngenye indlela, kumele abambelele ngokucacile emgomweni owenzelwe yena. Nganquma ukunqoba, ngakho ake kwenzeke. Kungakanani okungeke kudingeke ukuba asebenzise kuyo, ubuhle bakhe kanye nenhle. Futhi ungikholelwe, uzokwenza konke lokhu, ngoba ukuzibonakalisa futhi ukuthi yena, ngempela, ukunqoba ngempumelelo kwezinhliziyo zabesifazane yiyona eyinhloko yabantu bonke. Futhi, isisekelo salo, lo muntu futhi uthatha isinyathelo sokuqala sokuzijwayeza.
Ukukunqoba emaminithini amahlanu, indoda kuzodingeka yenza kahle kakhulu. Ukwenza lokhu, angakubheka ngothando oluhle, ezama ukuveza izindaba ezehlukene nezindaba ngaye, egcizelela isithunzi sakhe nempumelelo yakhe empilweni, futhi abonise nokuhleleka kwakhe. Uma engabonakali kakhulu, futhi uyazi ngalokhu, khona-ke ingxoxo eyakhiwe kahle nawe iyoba ikhadi lakhe. Futhi, uzobonisa ukuhlekisa kwakhe ngokuphakama kwayo, ngoba wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi siyazisa kanjani lesi sici kuzo. Ngamagama, emizuzwini emihlanu indoda akumele ibonise kuphela, kodwa iphinde iqinisekise wena ukuthi uyikuphi, ubukhulu nobuntu. Ukuthi wena, ngokuqondile, uqinisekile ngalokhu, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka okuncane kokungabaza futhi awubuyelanga kulezi ziqinisekiso noma yini. Kulezi zici eziyisisekelo, sibona ukubonakala kwalowo ozokhethwa kuzo. Ngakho-ke, uma uqaphele ngalesi sikhathi ukuthi wayekwazi ukuzwakalisa ngokugcwele, wayengekho ohlambalaza futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ngokuphikelela, ngobuhlungu futhi ekhulile, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, wazizwa usondelene naye ngokuphepha nangenhlanhla. Ngakho, emva kwakho konke, waphumelela emizuzwini emihlanu, njengawe.
Impendulo yombuzo: "Yini okufanele umfana akwenze emaminithini ambalwa ukujabulisa intombazane eyayibambelela" ihluke kakhulu, kodwa kukhona iphuzu elilodwa eliyinhloko. Khumbula ukuthi lapho umfana ekwazi ukutshela ngaye konke okwakudingeka kuye kulesi simo, ukuveza izimfanelo zakhe ezinhle ngesikhathi esifushane ngaphandle kokusebenzisa izindaba eziphelele kanye nezindlovu ezingapheli lonke lobusuku, ungumuntu wangempela indoda. Futhi, ngezinye izikhathi, ukuthi kungokwanele imizuzu emihlanu kuphela ukuqonda kahle.