Futhi ukhathazekile kakhulu ukuthi "isihloko" semicabango yakhe asikaqapheli ngokuphindaphindiwe. Futhi ngaphinde ngacabanga: hlobo luni lwamakhosikazi afana namadoda angempela?
Kuyaziwa kahle ukuthi imibono yobuhle ihluke kakhulu emazweni ahlukene nakwezinye izikhathi ezihlukene, lawo maantombazane abesilisa ocansini emashumini eminyaka edlule manje abhekwa njengabantu abangenangqondo. Futhi kuyaziwa kahle ukuthi ubuhle abuqapheli isithakazelo samadoda. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi ubuhle obukhethekile buhlala bodwa, futhi "igundane elimpunga" elingavamile lijabule emndenini futhi lizungezwe ngendoda. I-reputation "90-60-90" idonsela ukubuka imibono yamadoda, kodwa isabisa izinhloso ezinkulu.
Uma ubheka amantombazane amnandi ezinkampanini ezinomsindo, ungase ucabange ukuthi abesifazane abanjalo bathanda amadoda. Kodwa ukuphila kuphikisa lo mbono. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuyacaca ukuthi nalabo bantu abaphukile abafana "bathola ulwazi". Futhi ushade, njengombuso, ngokuphelele kwabanye.
Ngakho hlobo luni lwabesifazane abaheha ngempela amadoda? Kubantu abangokoqobo abathandekayo kithi, amantombazane amantombazane amancane nobukhulu obuphakathi. Nokho, ukuqala ngakho kuyadingeka ukuqonda ukuthi sisho ukuthini "indoda yangempela". Ekwahlulela ngemiphumela yezinhlobonhlobo zocwaningo (nabesifazane nabesilisa), le ndoda:
- ukuphumelela nokuzethemba;
- uyakwazi ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo nokwenza izinqumo;
- unombono wawo, uzama ukuphelela;
- enenjongo, uyakwazi ukusetha imisebenzi nokuyifeza;
- uhlakaniphile, uqaphele, unamandla.
Ubumnandi ngesikhathi esifanayo kwakunokugcina ohlwini, futhi akukho nhlobo nhlobo. Futhi uma ngomqondo wendoda yangempela yonke into yacaca, ihlala ifuna ukuthola ukuqonda kwabo "owesifazane wangempela".
Ucwaningo oluningi luye lwabonisa ukuthi amadoda angempela abheka abesifazane abafana nabo. Bathanda abesifazane abahle, ukuzethemba okuzenzekelayo, abakhuthele nabahlakaniphile. Izifiso zangempela ezikwazi ukuba umlingani weqiniso kunoma yiliphi ibhizinisi zizimele futhi azidingi ukunakekelwa okukhulu kwamadoda. Abesifazane abanjalo bangokwemvelo, abazibonakali ngokwabo noma ukukhathazeka, ukudabuka, i-hysteria ne-infantilism.
Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo owesifazane kufanele ahlale owesifazane. Indoda idinga ukuzizwa ilinamandla, ukuba umholi. Lesi siko sesikhathi esidala asishintshiwe. Yingakho kungekho ukukhangwa kwangempela ngendwangu ozama ukucindezela umngane wakho. Ngisho noma owesifazane uphumelele ebhizinisini, indima yomkayo nomama kulindeleke kuye emndenini: umgcini ozinakekelayo. Amadoda angempela afana nabomdipathili besifazane abangaziphatha ngokuvumelana nesimo. Bayakwazi ukuba yizigqila ukuze bafeze umgomo, banjengebhizinisi futhi behlakaniphile emsebenzini wabo, kodwa ekhaya bazinikela ilungelo lokuvota kumyeni othandekayo. Ukuze abe yinto enhle kangaka, owesifazane udinga ukubekezela nokuhlakanipha.
Ngokusobala, izimfanelo ezinjalo zihambisana nobudala kanye nesipiliyoni. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi amantombazane amancane alahlekelwa ngabesifazane abavuthiwe. Ubuntombi, ubuhle bokushesha, ukuvumelana kwangaphakathi nokuvuleka, okuhambisana nesifiso sokuzikhukhumeza, kuyisihluthulelo sempumelelo. Ngakho-ke, noma ngabe uyintombazana encane, usengakwazi ukujezisa izinhliziyo zabantu kunabesifazane abadala.
Futhi ukwazi ukuthi ungowesifazane onjani njengamadoda wangempela kuzosiza ekukhetheni isiqondiso sokuthuthukisa.