Ingabe kufanele ngijezise ingane? Kungenzeka yini ukuthi umfundise njengomuntu omuhle futhi ophumelelayo futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ahlukanise ngokuphelele izijeziso? Futhi yimuphi umphumela lapho isijeziso somuntu singaba khona ekukhulisweni kwezingane? Le mibuzo ikhathazeka cishe bonke abazali, futhi njengoba ukuphila ngokwabo kuyiphendula ngokungahambisani kakhulu, sanquma ukwethemba umbono ohlosiwe wothisha nabachwepheshe bezengqondo.
Abazali abaningi kakhulu, bakholelwa ukuthi imfundo ngaphandle kokujeziswa "yizincwadi eziyiziwula ezingahlangene nokuphila kwangempela", ziqinisa imibono yazo ngokuphikisana okulula: izingane zijeziswe ngezikhathi zonke, okusho ukuthi kulungile futhi kuyadingeka. Kodwa ake sibone.
Izingane ezijezisa kuyisiko?
Abaxhasi bemfundo ngokusebenzisa isijeziso somuntu onjengoba babhekisela emthonjeni ongenakuphikwa futhi ohloniphekile njengeBhayibheli: lapho, emakhasini eTestamente Elidala, encwadini yomfanekiso weNkosi uSolomoni, kunezinkulumo eziningi kulokhu. Eqoqwe ndawonye, lawa macaphuno, alas, akhiqiza umbono ocindezelayo. Njengoba wena, isibonelo, lokhu: "Gwema indodana yakho, kuyilapho kukhona ithemba, futhi ungathukutheli ukukhala kwakhe." Noma lokhu: "Ungashiyi insizwa ngaphandle kokujeziswa: uma umjezisa ngenduku, akayikufa." Kungenxa yokuthi igazi ligijima lisuka kuleso seluleko. Futhi kungenjalo: emva kwakho konke, bavele ngesikhathi abantu abaningi beyizigqila lapho kungekho muntu ocabanga ngamalungelo abantu, futhi ubulungisa bekwenziwa ngokusebenzisa ukubulawa kwebarbar nokuhlukunyezwa. Ingabe singakuxoxa ngokujulile ngalokhu osukwini lwethu? Ngokuvamile, namuhla ezweni lakubo uSolomoni uSolomoni (okungukuthi, esifundeni samanje sakwa-Israyeli) amalungelo abantwana avikelwe ngumthetho okhethekile: wonke umntwana, uma abazali befaka isicelo sokujeziswa ngokomzimba, bangakhononda emaphoyiseni bawafaka etilongweni ngokushaya.
Indlela izaqathe kanye nokunamathela
Endaweni ethile esiyizwile kakade - indlela yesanqante nentonga. Yonke into ilula futhi isekelwe ezimfundisweni zami. Pavlov ngezimo ezinengqondo: wenza umyalo owamukele ukudla kahle, wenza kabi-washaywa yisibhamu. Ekugcineni, isilwane sikhumbula indlela yokuziphatha ngayo. Ngomnikazi. Futhi ngaphandle kwalo? Maye, cha!
Ingane, yebo, akuyona isilwane. Ngisho noma encane kakhulu, konke kungachazwa ngendlela eqonda ngayo. Khona-ke uzokwenza ngokufanele njalo, hhayi kuphela lapho eqondiswa "iziphathimandla eziphakeme". Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi ikhono lokucabanga ngekhanda lakho. Uma uhlale ulawula ingane, lapho ekhula futhi ephula "i-cage" yakho, angakwazi ukuphuka futhi enze okuningi okungenangqondo. Kuyaziwa ukuthi izigebengu, njengombuso, zikhulela emindenini lapho izingane zijeziswa khona noma zilalele nje.
Awunecala lutho!
Njengoba wazi, ingane izalwa engenacala. Into yokuqala ayibonayo nokuthi yini ayifunayo ngokuyisisekelo kubazali bakhe. Ngakho-ke, zonke izici nemikhuba ayenayo ngeminyaka yobudala - yonke imfanelo yabababa nabamama. Khumbula, njengokuthi "ku-Alice in Wonderland": "Uma i-piglet ikhala, uyabizwa kusukela emkhunjini, i-bayushki-bai! Ngisho nezingane ezinomusa kakhulu zikhula zibe ingulube esikhathini esizayo! "Ezinye izazi zengqondo ngokuvamile zikholelwa ukuthi akudingekile ukufundisa ingane ngokuqondile (ukusebenzisa noma iyiphi indlela yokufundisa): uma abazali beziphatha ngendlela efanele, ingane izokhula kahle, ivele ilandele. Wena uthi, empilweni akukwenzeki? Ngakho, uyavuma ukuthi awuphelele. Futhi labo abavuma ukuthi akuyona into ekahle, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi kuzo zonke izikhala ezingekho emthethweni zezingane zethu thina kufanele sizibekwe icala.
Ungajezisi? Futhi yini engingayenza?
Indlela yokukhulisa izingane ngaphandle kwesijeziso somuntu? Kulula kakhulu! Ungazama ukuhlela konke ukuze ingane ingabi nesizathu sokujezisa. Kodwa uma kungasebenzi futhi ukuphikisana kuphakama, kunezindlela ezifakazelwe zethonya, hhayi ezihlobene nobudlova noma ukuxhaphazwa.
Uma ingane yenqaba ukwenza okuthile (isibonelo, umcele ukuthi ayibeke emgodini wezingane), mtshele ukuthi kufanele ukwenze ngokwakho futhi ngeke ube nesikhathi sokufunda le ncwadi ngaphambi kokulala.
Uma ingane yenza okuthile okungalungile, khuluma naye ngenhliziyo enhliziyweni: khumbula ubuntwana bakho bese utshela indaba mayelana nokuthi wenze kanjani iphutha elifanayo, bese uphenduka futhi ulungisa (khona-ke ingane iyoba lula ukuvuma amaphutha akhe ngaphandle kokwesaba ngezijeziso).
Sebenzisa indlela yokugcina isikhathi. Okubalulekile ukuthi ngesikhathi esithile esinqunyiwe (ukulwa, amahlaya, amahloni) ingane ngaphandle kokukhamuluka nokukhuleka kuhoxiswa (noma kwenziwe) kusuka ekuhlosweni kwezenzakalo futhi ihlukaniswe isikhathi esithile kwenye ikamelo. Isikhathi sokuphuma (okungukuthi, isikhashana) sincike eminyakeni yobudala. Kukholelwa ukuthi ukushiya ingane eyodwa ilandela ukubala "iminithi eyodwa ngonyaka owodwa wokuphila", isb. iminyaka emithathu - imizuzu emithathu, iminyaka emine-yezine, njll. Into eyinhloko ukuthi akayithathi njengesijeziso.
Ekugcineni, ungakwazi "ukucasula" ingane bese isikhashana imvimbela indlela yakhe evamile, emnandi kakhulu ukukhulumisana, eshiya kuphela "ezidingekayo" ezisemthethweni ". Okuyinhloko ukuthi ngalesi sikhathi ingane ingalahlekelwa ukholo othandweni lwakho.
4 izimbangela zokuziphatha okubi komntwana:
Isizathu | Yini eboniswayo | Iyini iphutha labazali? | Indlela yokuxazulula isimo | Yini okufanele uyenze ngokulandelayo |
Ukungabi nalutho | Ingane ihambisana nemibuzo ecasulayo | Ingane inikwe ukunakekelwa okuncane kakhulu | Xoxa ngokukhululekile naye icala bese uveza ukungajabuli kwakho | Nika isikhathi phakathi nosuku lokuxhumana nengane |
Ukulwa kwamandla | Ingane ivame ukuphikisa futhi ikhombise ukucindezela (okulimazayo), kaningi amanga | Ingane ilawulwa kakhulu (i-psychologically imcindezela kuye) | Ngenisa, zama ukunikeza ukuyekethisa | Ungazami ukunqoba, unikeze ukukhetha |
Buyisela | Ingane inesihluku, inonya kubantu ababuthakathaka, abaphanga izinto | Ukuthotshiswa okuncane okungavamile ("Shiya, usencane!") | Hlola imbangela yocingo elilahliwe | Ungabuyiseli kuye, zama ukuxhumana naye |
Ukugwema | Ingane yenqaba noma yikuphi ukusikisela, ayifuni ukubamba iqhaza kunoma yini | Ukunakekelwa ngokweqile, abazali benza konke ingane | Phakamisa isisombululo sokwehlisa | Khuthaza futhi udumise ingane ngaso sonke isikhathi |
Ingabe sidinga ukugqugquzela?
Ososayensi baqhuba ukuhlolwa: izinkawu zanikezwa indlu enzima kakhulu - emva kwemizamo ende wavula. Khona-ke wanikezwa enye ilokhi - akazange ahlale phansi kuze kube yilapho ekwazi kahle. Futhi izikhathi eziningi: le monkey yafeza umgomo wayo futhi yajabula kakhulu. Kwaze kwaba yilapho esebenza ngokuphumelelayo enqabeni, ngokungazelelwe wanikwa ibhanana. Kulokhu yonke injabulo ye-monkey yayiphelile: manje esebenza enqabeni kuphela uma eboniswa ibhanana, futhi akazange azizwe enelisekile.
Imfihlo iyacaca
Uma ingane ijeziswa kakhulu futhi ihlaselwa ekhaya, iyoba khona kakhulu emidlalweni yabantwana bayo, nangesikhathi esizayo - nasebudlelwaneni nabangane. I-"trace" engokwengqondo ye-coral coral ekukhulisweni kwezingane ihlala impilo. Okokuqala, uzobashaqisa abantu abazungezile ngokushaya amathoyizi akhe, khona-ke uzoya esikoleni, bese emndenini wakhe (noma kunjalo, ngeke akwazi ukukhulisa izingane zakhe ngokuhlukile). Uma wena ngokwakho ungumntwana onjalo, cabanga: mhlawumbe yisikhathi sokuphazamisa isimo somndeni?