Indodana ikhula ngokuhlukumeza
Indodana yami eneminyaka engu-1,5 ilokhu ilwa ebaleni lokudlala, ithatha into evela kubantwana, ibaxosha, mhlawumbe ibetha. Ngivame ukukhuluma naye, kodwa akayeki. Kodwa emndenini sinobudlelwane obumnene, obuhle. Uvelaphi? Futhi yini engingayenza?
Ngengane engaphansi kweminyaka emibili, umhlaba wonke uqukethe kuphela izifiso zakhe! Uqinisile akaqondi ukuthi abanye abantu banesifiso, izidingo zabo, futhi bazizwa okuthile. Ngakho-ke, izinyane likwazi ukuphatha abantu ngendlela efanayo nebheyi yokudlala-push, phonsa. Akaqondi ukuthi kungani ungammangaleli ngebheyi, kodwa ujezise u-Dima, owamcindezela. Uqinisile, kumele senze ingane ibheke, sichaze indlela yokuziphatha ngayo. Futhi ukuhlukanisa abafighters abancane enkantolo kuyadingeka. Kodwa ukulinda imiphumela ngokushesha akufanelekile: konke kunesikhathi saso. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ingane izoqonda ukuthi awukwazi ukushaya abanye.
Lapho umntwana etshela iphupho
Indodana yami ineminyaka engu-4 ubudala. Muva nje waqala ukukhuluma ukuthi uphupha amaphupho amabi, waqala ukwesaba ubumnyama. Angazi ukuthi ngingabenza kanjani, ngishiya ubusuku bonke ubusuku bonke? Noma ukuphoqa indodana yakhe ukuba inqobe ukwesaba kwakhe ubumnyama?
Ukwesaba kwezingane kubonakala kaningi, futhi kuyisihawu ukuthi abazali abafaki ukubaluleka ngaso sonke isikhathi kubo. Ukwesaba akuveli ndawo: mhlawumbe kukhona okuphazamisayo, okwesabisa, okweqisayo, okamangalisa ingane, futhi walungisa lo mcimbi ngokungalungile, wanikeza umlingiswa ongajwayelekile, umfashini? Kungaba njengezinkinga zokuphila - izingxabano zabazali, amahlazo, ukushonelwa nokulahlekelwa, kanye nemicimbi evamile kanye nezimo ezivamile engqondweni yomuntu omdala - uhambo lokuphumula, i-dacha, i-movie eyabonwa ngumntwana. Khumbula, indodana ayikwazi yini ukuzwa wena nomyeni wakho ukuthi niya ocansini? Lokhu futhi, kungathinta ukwesaba kwengane. Buza indodana yakho ukuthi yini eyimkhathazayo. Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuba uthole ukuthi ukuphi ukwesaba kuvela futhi kusize indodana yakho ukuba ihlukane nayo. Yenza umkhuba wokulala, vula ukukhanya ebusuku, utshele ingane ingane indaba yezingane ebusuku, umgcobe, ake ulale ngokuthula eceleni kwakho. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzokwesaba ukwesaba kwakhe kwasebuntwaneni.
Ikati kuzodingeka ilale ...
Sinekati isikhathi eside, futhi indodakazi iyayikhumbula kusukela ekuzalweni. Isifuyo sesivele sikhulile, sigula kakhulu, udokotela wezilwane wameluleka ukuba ambulale. Kodwa ungatshela kanjani indodakazi yakho ngalokhu? Mhlawumbe kungcono ukusho ukuthi ikati libalekile?
Kungcono ukutshela iqiniso lonke ngesifo nokulala kwekati. Ngendlela, izingane ngokuvamile azibheki njengokufa njengalokhu thina, abadala. Lezi zindaba zingabangela izinyembezi, ukuhlaselwa, ukuzihlukanisa noma ukungabikho kokuphendula kwangaphandle. Kodwa into eyinhloko ukuthi usekela indodakazi yakho ngesikhathi sokulahleka. Kubalulekile ukuthi wadabuka ngokukhululekile phezu kwekati, wakhala nawe. Ngempela, ngenxa yokuhlupheka, ukulahlekelwa kubalulekile ukungagcini, hhayi ukungena ngaphakathi.
Lokho kungcolile!
Indodakazi, eneminyaka engu-11 ubudala, yaqala ukuhlakaza konke okuzungezile ekamelweni - izingubo, ama-candy wrappers kusuka kumaswidi. Wayejwayele ukuziphatha ngendlela enjalo! Ungaba kanjani?
Lokhu kuziphatha kujwayelekile kubantu abasha - lokhu kungenye yezinhlobo zokubhikisha, ukungalaleli. Khumbuza indodakazi yakho ukuthi ayihlali yodwa endlini, kodwa wonke umndeni, futhi okungenani, umuntu kumele ahlale ehlanzekile. Hlela, yiziphi izinsuku zokuhlanza endlini yakho kuyoba impendulo yendodakazi, futhi nini-wena. Futhi usho ukuthi yiziphi izinyathelo ozothatha uma isivumelwano siphulwa yindodakazi. Kodwa wena ngokwakho kuzodingeka uhlale uhlanzekile! Njengoba ehlukanise le "nsimu", indodakazi izozuza lokho kuzimela, okuyinto intsha ephupha ngakho.
Kungani ebambelele esikhwameni sikanina?
Indodakazi yami eneminyaka engu-4 ayivumeli ngihambe isinyathelo. Angiye emakilasini athuthukayo ngaphandle kwami, ngikhala, ngithi ngiyesaba, futhi othisha baphikisana nokukhona kwami eqenjini. Yini okufanele ngiyenze?
Intombazane ixhumana nabanye abantu ngaphandle kwakho kangaki? Cishe akunjalo. Mhlawumbe yingakho elahlekile eqenjini lezingane, ufuna ukwesekwa kwakho. Ngaphandle kwalokho, zama ukuziqonda, usulungele ukuvumela ingane ukuba ihambe? Ingabe ingane yakho ikhombisa ukwesaba kwakho? Izingane zisithanda kakhulu kangangokuthi zizama ukuveza imizwelo yethu. Futhi uyamethemba uthisha onendodakazi? Uma kunjalo, lalela iseluleko sothisha: hlala ngaphansi komnyango bese ufika ocingweni lokuqala.
Ugogo nomkhulu
Abazali bami bahlala ngaphandle kwedolobha futhi bavame ukuthatha abazukulu ngezimpelasonto namaholidi. Angicabangi, kodwa ngemva kokubuya kogogo nomkhulu, abafana bami ababili eminyakeni emithathu nesishiyagalombili bangalawuleki: ama-whims, amahlaya, intukuthelo kimi. Yini okufanele ngiyenze?
Mhlawumbe izingane zihamba kakhulu ngokushintsha indawo: ukuhlukana kokuqala kuwe, besehlukana nogogo nomkhulu. Ngokusobala, lokhu kuyinkinga enkulu kubo, nakuba bengazi lokhu. Isimo cishe siphuthunyiswa yiqiniso lokuthi labo ababili, kanye nengxabano abangayidlulisela komunye nomunye. Iyini ikhambi? Iya kubantu asebekhulile nabantwana bakho. Noma vumela abazali ukuba bakuvakashele. Ngendodana endala ungavele uzame ukukhuluma ngenhliziyo: uzizwa kanjani lapho ehamba, ukuthi uchitha isikhathi kanjani, uyakusihlwa? Yini eyenza akhathazeke ngawe? Ngakho uzomkhombisa ukuthi kunezinye izindlela zokunciphisa ukucindezeleka, okungenzeka ukuthi kuvela ngokuhlukanisa.
Vikela indodana yakho kusuka ... uthisha!
Indodana yami yayingathandwa uthisha. Ngikholelwa ukuthi uyangcwisisa ngokuqondile ukuhlolwa kwakhe, uthola iphutha ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Yiya kuye ukuze uqonde? Noma ukhononda ngokushesha uthisha oyinhloko noma umqondisi?
Umsebenzi wakho ongcwele kule mibuthano yokukhuliswa kwezingane ezincane ukuxhasa izithakazelo zomntwana. Yiqiniso, kumelwe sihambe esikoleni. Yiqiniso, ukuphathwa kwesikole kungase kungaboni isimo nhlobo, futhi kuzothatha isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba kuphume. Futhi-ke, cishe, ekuqaleni kokubambisana kombuthano ubuholi buzobamba uthisha. Ngakho-ke kungcono ukukhuluma nguthisha kuqala ngalokho okungajabuli ngalokhu: ukuziphatha, ulwazi? Masike izibonelo eziphathekayo zokuziphatha okubi futhi athi umfundi ophumelelayo kufanele azi namuhla. Ngale ndlela uzomtshengisa ukuthi isimo sikhathazeka wena, ukuthi ngeke umvumele ahambe yena ngokwakhe, nokuthi usulungele izenzo ezihlanganyelwe ngumzali wothisha ukusiza ingane ukuba iphumelele imiphumela emihle. Vumela uthisha atusa izincwadi, azobeka isikhathi sokubuyisela umsebenzi. Kodwa uma ungasifisi isifiso sothisha ukusebenzisana nawe, bese uthintana nokuphathwa kwesikole bese uzama ukuxazulula inkinga kuleli zinga.
Angiye enkulisa!
Indodakazi yami iya enkulisa. Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi akazange aqaphele: unengqondo, ulele ngokulala, ehlala ekhala. Uthi "Angifuni ukungena engadini!" Yini okufanele ngiyenze?
Izimpawu ozibhalise emabhandlwini ekukhuliseni izingane ezincane ziyisici sokuziphatha kwengane esimweni sokucindezeleka. Zama ukushintsha iqembu, inkulisa, ungadluliseli indodakazi yakho lapho isikhashana. Engadini kufanele kube nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esisiza ukujwayela ukuqala. Hlanganisa ngaleyo ndlela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ingane izojwayela engadini, thola abangane lapho.