Ngingumfana webukeka obubanzi futhi ngimdala wokuphila okukhululekile. Kodwa maduzane, ngavuma ukuthi ngibe ngumkami futhi ngizochaza ukuthi kungani ngingenzanga lokhu ngaphambili. Angizange ngimangele kunokuba ngizibandakanye ngoDisemba ngonyaka odlule. Ngiye ngazi umyeni wami konke ukuphila kwami: siye esikoleni ndawonye, eminyakeni eyishumi nesishiyagalolunye edlule sathola lonke ihlobo, kodwa ke wonke umuntu wahamba ngendlela yakhe. Lapho abangane bami bethola ukuthi sichitha yonke le minyaka ngokwehlukana noGosha, baqala ukukhala ngokuthi baphila ngokugcwele. Kodwa ngokwami, ngicabanga ukuthi lena yimi iminyaka yami - ingcebo yami. U-Gosh, ngiyaqiniseka, akazisoli noma ngabe ...
"Umbongolo uyisisekelo, indlu eqinile, nokuthi yini eqondakalayo ngobunzima, ngakho-ke siyigugu kakhulu," kusho omunye obala. Wayazi ukuthi udlala ngani: imidlalo enhle idinga inkululeko enkulu. Basivumela futhi ukuba siqongelele okuhlangenwe nakho kwezingxabano, okuvikela ukuzama ukuqonda okuhle nokubi ngakwesokunxele kwendawo yomndeni. Ngemuva kokuhlaziya okuhlangenwe nakho kwami nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabangane bami abayishumi nambili, ngifinyelele esiphethweni sokuthi kumele kube nezindawo ezingu-10 zokuguqula empilweni yabo bonke abesifazane. Futhi, nje ngaphambi kokuba anqume ukuthi "yebo" kumuntu ofanele bese ugcina izwi lakhe. Lezi zikhathi yimithetho yegolide ezosiza empilweni yomuntu ngamunye. Bangisiza kanjani kanye.
1. KUKHULULEKA UKUKHUBA NOKUBHUMANA.
Umngane wami u-Anne uneminyaka engu-28 ubudala, futhi ungowesifazane onengqondo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukholelwa ukuthi ukuhamba ngezinhlungu kuyinto ebalulekile othandweni. Eminyakeni emihlanu eyedlule, u-Anna wahlangana nomfana, owayemthandayo naphezu kokuthi ikhanda lakhe lishaya ubhaliso "kuzoba nezinkinga". Ngobunye ubusuku ebhodini ayiphakamise kuye. Futhi wavuma ngaphansi kokuthwala utshwala namahlo akhe ahlabayo. Kodwa ezinyangeni ezimbili ngaphambi komshado, washintsha umqondo wakhe wavala lo mcimbi. Kungani? "Esikhundleni sokuhamba nohambo lwami oluthandana naye, waxoshela uPeter ukuba athole iqembu elibhekene necala lokuphila, lokho angitshela khona ngeposi." U-Anna akazange aphendule le ncwadi, njengoba engazange athathe izinkinga ukubuyisela indandatho ayeyitholile emcimbini. Ohambweni lwakhe, wahamba wedwa futhi wafaka imali enhle ngemali etholakele esitolo segolide. Egwini, wahlangana noTolik, hhayi nhlobo utshwala futhi akusikho konke okwenziwe yi-screech. Kwasayina izinyanga ezimbalwa - ngaphandle komsindo owedlulele kanye nodaka lwe-diamond.
2. Ungalokothi uzame ukuzama okusha.
Esixukwini sabangane bami u-Alice, oneminyaka engu-27, ohamba phambili kakhulu. Ngisho nama jeans ahlanzekile-ahlanzekile. Futhi le fifa ithi umlingani wakhe ulethe enye yalezi zinzuzo, lapho usuku ngalunye lonyaka linconywa khona nge-acrobatic pose. Umkhwenyana wagcizelela "isondo lokugaya" (lona wesifazane uphakamisa izandla zakhe phansi, futhi umlingani uphakamisa imilenze). "Angizange ngijabule kakhulu ukuba ngingu-raskoryachivatsya ngaphambi kokuthandekayo wakho, okwamanje kufanele angenzele isipho futhi aqambe iminyaka yakhe. Kodwa ilukuluku lwalukhona. Futhi angizange ngizisole! "Umkhwenyana naye wayethanda lezi zivivinyo - futhi umnikelo awuzange ulinde, kodwa u-Alisa uchitha isikhathi. Kusabonakala kuye ukuthi ekamelweni lomshado akulula kakhulu ukuphenduka ekamelweni lokunambitha. Futhi umkhwenyana uzama. Ukuphoqa.
3. KUFANELE UZIQONDE UKUHLOLA.
O, yebo, lokhu kungumthetho wegolide ngempela. Ngaphansi kancane kunyangeni edlule, isoka lami u-Gosh wangithatha esitolo ukuze athathe idesksi. Ngithande lowo, ngehhashi elimhlophe, "ngathi. "Nakuba umlenze ongcono ..." U-Gosh wahleka: "Ngombono wami, awukwazi ukwenza izinqumo nhlobo." Ngaze ngathukuthela, futhi waqhubeka emomotheka kuze kube yilapho ngifika khona - kuhle, uqinisile! Lesi yisikhathi lapho uthula ngokuzithoba futhi uzivuma ngokuzithoba wena futhi ukuthi ngezindlela ezithile usabuthakathaka, futhi usho ukuthi izingcezu ze-smalt zenzelwe iphethini elula futhi enhle - lonke elilodwa. Ukuziqaphela njengento ebuthakathaka akulula, kodwa kuyadingeka. Ubuhlungu bokuqaphela ukwehluleka kwakho akuhlali okwedlula ubuhlungu obuvela ku-depilation. Kodwa injabulo yokuqiniseka ukuthi uyakwazi futhi ikuqonda kahle, uyaphilisa umphefumulo wakho konke ukuphila kwakho.
4. FUNDA UKUHLELA.
Umngani wami uSasha, oneminyaka engu-25, uqinisekile ukuthi ukulwa nezinyembezi nokuhlukunyezwa kuye kwashintsha ukuphila kwakhe. Konke kwaqala ngeqiniso lokuthi uSasha owawungumqashi omncane waqala ukudlala ngothando emgodini nesoka lakhe langaphambili nesoka likaSasha manje. Wathukuthela, umngane wami - naye. "Ngangithukuthele! Kodwa ngaqaphela ukuthi uma singasichazi, khona-ke sizobe siphula kuze kube phakade. Kwadingeka ngivume ukuthi lokhu kushayisana kwakuhle kunami. Kodwa njengoba sasivumelanisa! "Empeleni, lapha isimo sasisindiswe ngokulingana okufanayo nokubona ubuthakathaka babo. Futhi ikhono lokunciphisa. Futhi ngaphandle kwalokhu empilweni yomndeni - nje kuphela.
5. Ungadingi ukuthumela iSOS SIGNAL.
Asivamile ukubonisa ubuthakathaka bethu kubantu. Ngaphandle kwalokho, njengoba umngane wami u-Evgenia etholakele. 26. "Ngake nginquma ukuthi ngizolengisa izincwadi zesikole," kukhumbula owesifazane ozimele ozimele. - Kwaze kwaba yimpumelelo kimi - kwaze kwafika isikhukhula futhi ukwakhiwa konke kwaqala kimi. Ngamemeza, wagijima wabamba lo mbuso. Futhi wathi: "Akuyona ibhizinisi le-tsar, futhi ngokuqinisekile akusilo lona wesifazane. Awufuni ukubuza? Futhi mina, ngiyajabula ukugcwalisa noma yikuphi kwezicelo zakho. " Ukuziphatha: uthando - yamukela usizo lwakhe. Futhi esihogweni ngokukhululeka!
6. FUNDA UKUQALA IZIMPILO.
Ukulandela lo mthetho wegolide, into esemqoka akufanele iphuze ngeziphetho. Eminyakeni embalwa edlule isoka elinomusa laphenduka kimi: elihle, elicebile futhi elincane - angangivumeli ukuthi ngikubelethe. Kodwa lapho kwakudingeka siye kwenye indawo, ngazizwa ngingakhululekile. Wayengumuntu onesihluku futhi ehlaziya emphakathini mayelana nangaphandle. Ekugcineni wayeka ukungibiza, futhi ... kwangenza ngazizwa ngingcono. Ukufuna indoda ngokwehlu lokubaluleka kungukuchitha isikhathi. Ngokuvamile, mina, lapho ngiqalile igama elithi "imali", wabhala "amahlaya" avela ngenhla. Futhi ukuphila kuyamomotheka kimi kuze kube yilolu suku.
7. UNGAKHUMBI UKUYA EMHLABENI.
Bathi umuntu owaziwa kakhulu eholidini. Umngane wami uJulia, oneminyaka engu-25 ubudala, wathi ngemuva kokuya eBurma, ubuhlobo bakhe bomshado obuneminyaka emibili noMarik buvele buthule. Ngelinye ilanga umqondisi wabahola waya entabeni lapho unyawo lendoda yaseWestern okuthiwa aluhambanga. "Asikaze senze ngokungathí sina ngokuvakasha," kusho uJulia. - Futhi umzila wawubekiwe cishe emadwaleni. Izinzwa zizinikezelwa, futhi ukuze zingawi phansi, kunesilingo esikhulu sokuwa kulowo oseduze. Nokho, lokhu akuzange kwenzeke - uMarik, hhayi uhlobo olubhebhethekisa kakhulu emhlabeni, wabonakala eqinile futhi engenabugovu. Futhi ngaqaphela: uma nginomuntu onjalo ngiphakamisile intaba futhi ngiphuma ngiyaphila futhi ngingalimazi, khona-ke sidinga ukugijima kanye nezithiyo eduze nethafa lokuhlala ndawonye. " Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi basebenza: ndawonye futhi abaphumelelanga.
8. I-HAPPY ENCOUNTER.
Sekuyiminyaka siye sigxekeza umuntu wethu, futhi akekho ukwelashwa kangcono kulokhu ukuzonda kunomuntu osithandayo sonke ngaphandle kokulandelela. Umngani wami, u-Ira, oneminyaka engu-30, usitshela ngomyeni wakhe: "Sekuyisikhathi eside sihlangene, kodwa uma ngigxila, usengenakunenjabulo. Ngenxa yomdlandla wakhe, ngiyaqiniseka ngobulili bami nangamandla ebuhlobo bethu. " Yini engingayengeza lapha ...
9. I-SMELL TO EXPERIENCE COOLING.
Ubulili bobulili bomshado buyingqayizivele. Lona i-axiom. Kodwa ngemuva kwama-frosts asondelene kukhona okuqinisekisiwe ukuthi abe ithambile elijabulisayo nokushisa okubusayo - ngokuvumelana nayo yonke imithetho yendawo yonke. Okubalulekile omunye: isifiso sokwazi, naphezu kwakho konke, umuntu ngaphambi kokuphela kwezinsuku ozilahlile.
10. I-SMOOTH UKUQALA IZIMBUZO.
Vumela eyodwa kuphela, kodwa nginayo eyodwa. Ingabe kufanele ngikutshele? Amanani. Khona-ke yena kanye nemfihlo, ukuze angabonakali imininingwane. Kulungile, ngizosikisela: kwakuseCuba ngaphansi kwezintendeni. Lezi zinkumbulo engiziphethe njengenhliziyo yesibili, ngizwa ukushaya engikulahlekelwa yinhloko yami. Ukuba khona kwezimfihlo kubonisa ukuthi ukuphila okwamanje akuzange kudlule. Futhi ziyadingeka, kangangokuthi eminyakeni engu-95 esihlalweni sokuqhaqhaza siseseyimfihlakalo ngomuntu oweqa eceleni.
Yiqiniso, amaphuzu angaba ngu-10 empilweni yabo bonke abesifazane angase abe yisikhathi eside ukuphikisana. Omunye unezinto eziningi noma ezingaphansi - akubalulekile kakhulu. Into eyinhloko ukuhamba nabo ngaphambi kokwenza isinqumo esibaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Hamba ngemithetho yegolide ezosiza empilweni. Ukuze ukwazi ukuziqonda wena. Yamukela wena. Futhi konke kuzovela, futhi kuzoxazululwa, futhi kuzofakwa emashalofini, futhi ngeke ihlukane nodonga lwezinkinga ze-banal. Ungalokothi.