Yini okufanele ibe ngowesifazane okahle?

Mhlawumbe, ngamunye wethu okungenani kanye empilweni yami wazibuza lo mbuzo: "Ngimangala ukuthi yini okufanele ibe ngowesifazane ongcono?" Lesi sihloko sinesithakazelo, futhi sanquma ukuqhuba inhlolovo encane phakathi kwamadoda. Njengoba amadoda, ezimweni eziningi, azibheka ngokweqile kunomqondo ongaphezu komzimba obuthakathaka, akumangalisi ukuthi iningi lalabo abaxoxwa nge-grin babike ukuthi akakho nhlobo. Akunabesifazane abahle emvelo, ngakho-ke akukho lutho oluzokwazi ngisho nokuphupha ngalo. Kodwa yilokho esikwazi ukukuthola kusuka kubantu abathandanayo nabangaphuziyo. Njengoba kuboniswe ngophenyo, babiza ukuthi owesifazane ohlakaniphile uyazi kahle ukuthi uyazi ukuthi yini amadoda ayifunayo ukuthi ayibone futhi aziphathe ngendlela efanele. Futhi yileyo ndlela esizokutshela ngayo manje.

Ngakho-ke owesifazane ofanelekayo ngowesifazane owenza lokhu:
1. Ungalokothi uzame ukukhombisa ngokuqondile futhi ngokusobala okungaphezu kwendoda futhi ufuna ukumisa ukubusa phezu kwakhe.
2. Kumelwe ukuba njalo ngezikhathi ezithile ukuze kube okungenasisekelo (ngokuqinisekile ngokulinganisela!).
3. Ukwazi ukushintsha nokuvumelanisa nezidingo ezishintshayo zamadoda.
4. Ngokweqile futhi ekhululiwe ngokocansi.
5. Uyakwazi ukudlala ngothando nokwakha amehlo.
6. Ukuthuthukisa njalo amakhono ekukhohliseni nasekugcineni amadoda.

Kusukela kuningi lokuhlola kwezenhlalakahle kutholakale nokuthi iphuzu lokubuka labesilisa abashadile nabangashadile kule ndaba lihlukile. Into ewukuthi inokuqala okuhlukile mayelana namantombazane nabesifazane. Yini okufanele ibe abesifazane abahle, ngokusho kwamadoda ashadile? Okokuqala, ezomnotho, ezisebenzayo nezibucayi maqondana nabo nezinkinga zabo. Yilezi zimfanelo abheka izici ezinhle zomfazi wangempela, futhi bakhumbula ngobuhle kakhulu kaningi. Engashadile ngokumelene nokushada, iningi lomuntu owesifazane uyakwazisa ubuhle bakhe, ubuhlobo bakhe, ubufazi, kanye nokuzwela kanye nokukwazi ukujabulisa indoda.

Lokhu kwaba umbono wabamvikeli bethu, kodwa yini abesifazane abacabanga ngalokhu? Yini okufanele ibe ngowesifazane okahle ekuboneni kwabo? Amapolisi abonisa ukuthi abesifazane besendaweni yokuqala, izimfanelo ezifana nobuhle, ubuntu obukhanyayo, ubulili nesitayela zibalulekile.

Futhi umbono othandwayo uthini ngendima yabesifazane ekukhulisweni kwezingane? Lapha, umbono wesilisa nabesifazane abaningi uguqukela. Abesifazane basheshe futhi banomdlandla kunamadoda, ngakho-ke, indima eholayo ekukhuliseni kwabo kungabokubo.

Esimweni sengqondo, owesifazane ofanelekayo kufanele kuqala abe nokuthuthukiswa futhi ahlale ethuthukisa umzimba nangokwengqondo. Nokho, njengendoda.