I-psychology enhle njengesiqondiso

Ukuphila kwethu kunemizwa emibi: ukuphikisana nezihlobo nabangane, izinkinga emsebenzini, ukungavikeleki esikhathini esizayo, abathengisi be-hamovatye, ukugula kwengane nezinye izinto eziningi nsuku zonke kusisusa, kusenza sibe nesaba futhi sikhathazeke. Ngenxa yomphikiswano omude nomuntu oseduze, ukugxeka ubuholi, umzamo wokuchaza ingane ukuthi lokhu ngeke kwenzeke, silahlekelwa ukulawula phezu kwethu, amangqamuzana omzimba, kukhona ukubhujiswa okungokomoya, ukungakhululeki, siqala ukuzisola ngalokho esikwenzile, futhi sizizwe sikhathele.

Ungakufunda kanjani ukugwema ama-scandals, ama-scuffles nezingxoxo ezinzima? Indlela yokwenza abantu bakulalele ngokushesha, osebenza nabo bahlonishwa, futhi umyeni wakhe uyakwazisa? Kunesimo sengqondo esihle esingakusiza ukuba ugweme ukuhlukunyezwa namaphutha okwenziwa izakhamuzi eziningi zanamuhla zamamitha. Kwanele ukuthi ufunde imithetho embalwa elula, futhi impilo izokhanya, ibe mnandi futhi ibe mnandi!

Ukuhlukahluka kwezwe nabantu.

Iplanethi yethu inabantu abayizigidi eziningana, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ihlukile! Bobabili ngaphandle nangaphakathi, kokubili endleleni yokucabanga nokubona kwezwe lonke. Uma wawuthanda umculo futhi uzibonele esiteji owenza phambi kwezilaleli eziningi, akusho ukuthi ingane yakho kufanele iphande futhi ithande umculo nokucula. Umuntu ohamba ngezinyathelo zakho futhi akazange axolise, hhayi ngempela ibhola, ungacabanga kanjani. Konke lokhu kusho ukuthi abantu abaseduze kwethu bahlukile, babheka izinto ngendlela yabo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi abantu kudingeka baqondwe njengoba bekhona, hhayi ukuba bafune ukuthi babe njengawe. Ungazami ukulungisa ingane yakho noma umyeni wakho, ungafaki imibono yakho, njengeyona yodwa yeqiniso. "Angisoze ngakwenza lokho!" Ingabe iphutha elikhulu kakhulu. Ungaphindi!

Futhi yini esiyilwela?

Kubalulekile ukuqonda nokuqonda lokho okulwela nokuvikela amalungelo akho. Uma uqiniseka ukuthi indoda kufanele ibe namandla kakhulu futhi icebile, futhi umngane wakho akahlangabezani nezilindelo zakho, isimiso esibizwa kanjalo sohlelo lokufaka amafomu kufakiwe. Lokhu kungukuthi, unamathisela ukubaluleka okubaluleke kakhulu kokuthile, futhi uma ungayitholi, uthola ukukhathazeka. Lapho isimo sothando sidlula, futhi ubona ukuthi indoda eduze kwakho "ayiyona hero yeveli yakho", iqala ukuthukuthela futhi ikucasule. Ukubukwa kwansuku zonke kuqala: "awufisi", "awukwenzi lutho" njalo njalo.

Ungadala izinkolelo, yakha umoya wokukhiya. Ukuyiqiniso akude nezwe lomcabango wakho. Uma lokhu kuqondwa ngakho-ke, ngeke ubulawe kumacebo namaphupho angaziwa. Yamukela futhi uthethelele umuntu ngokungabi yilokho okumbona ekhanda lakho kuwumsebenzi onzima, kodwa uma uxazulula, uzokwenza isinyathelo esikhulu endleleni yokucabanga okuhle. Ucabanga ukuthi lokhu ngeke kusebenze? Futhi uzobe usucasuliwe ukuhluleka komyeni emsebenzini noma isisu sakhe sagging? Futhi uzama futhi uqiniseke!

Ubudlelwano nabathandekayo.

Kubalulekile ukuba wonke umuntu azi futhi aqonde ukuthi kukhona abantu abaseduze naye ozokwamukela, baqonde futhi bamsekele kunoma yisiphi isimo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wenzeni. Uma unenkinga noma ukungqubuzana nezihlobo zakho, thola isizathu futhi uyixazulule! Cabanga, mhlawumbe uzama ukubuyisela umuntu futhi, kodwa uyayiphikisa? Noma ingabe wayenombono wezenzo zakhe, imicabango, ukubukeka? Kubalulekile ukuxolisa futhi ushintshe imodeli yokuziphatha kwakho kube lula nokunciphisa.

Ukuphila ngumdlalo!

Jabulela zonke izinsuku ezintsha, ujabulele izinto ezilula, ubuke umhlaba ngokuthe xaxa futhi uzokuphendula okufanayo! Ungathukutheli futhi ungene ekuphelelwe ithemba okukhulu ngenxa yezinkinga, zizodlula futhi konke kuzosebenza!

Ama-Scandals, ukucacisa ubuhlobo, ukuhlambalazana okungahambi kahle akuholeli kwisisombululo esakhayo, bathatha amandla amaningi, imizwelo emihle. Ngenxa yesikrini, uthola okungalungile nokukhungatheka. Zama ukungathinti ngokungathí sina amazwi akhulunywa ngokushisa kwentukuthelo. Cabanga ukuthi usemidlalo yaseshashalazini futhi ubuke i-movie embi. Ungathathi i-akhawunti yakho yonke izinkinga nezinkathazo. Akufanelekile!

Isimo sengqondo esihle, isimo sengqondo esihle, ukubukeka kwesibindi esikhathini esizayo kuyokusiza ukuba ube umuntu onobungane nomnandi emndenini wakho, emsebenzini, phakathi kozakwethu, abangane nezihlobo.