Wake wahlangana no-egoists wezocansi? Njengoba kunjalo, abesifazane abangaphezu kuka-60% bajwayelene nabantu abanjalo. Kodwa-ke, okokuqala ake sibone ukuthi ungubani, empeleni, okunjalo.
Ngencazelo yabesifazane, u-sexist egoist uyindoda lapho ubulili benza izenzo ezihlose ukuzithokozisa yena, ngokungacabangi neze imizwa yomlingani. Yilokho, empeleni, umuntu onjalo wenza isenzo sesilwane sokuqala sokuzineliseka ngosizo lomzimba wesifazane.
Ngenxa yokuzijabulisa kwami nokuzijabulisa kwami, impilo yami yonke yaba khona ukuze abangane bami nabajwayele bahlale bejabule ukuhlanganyela nami ngezinkinga zabo zobulili nezinkinga, ngibheka ukuthi nginokuhlangenwe nakho futhi nginomusa kule nsimu. Isihloko se-egoism yobulili sesiphindaphindiwe ezingxoxweni zethu ngendebe yekhofi. Sifinyelele esiphethweni sokuthi cishe bonke abesifazane besimweni sethu babhekene ne-egoists ngokocansi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, sithole ukuthi abanye besifazane abafuni nje ukubona ukuthi u-egoism wabo umlingani ngenxa yothando lwabo ngaye, noma abafuni ukuzivuma bona nabanye ukuthi umlingani wabo ocansi ugoqela embhedeni. Kukhona, nakanjani, esinye isigaba samantombazane, ngenxa yokungakwazi kwabo, abakwazi ukuthola ukuthi u-egoist uhlale embhedeni wabo.
Indlela yokuhlonza u-sexist egoist?
Okokuqala, u-egoist ozocansi ngeke abuze ukuthi uthanda ukukwenza kanjani, noma ukuhamba kwakho okuthandayo noma izindawo zakho eziyingozi kuzomthakazelisa. Okwesibili, uzokukhathalela ukuthi ungenzenjani embhedeni (oral sex, uma uyayithanda, anal). Cishe, uma uthi awuthandi into ayithandayo embhedeni, uzoyeka ukuxhumana, noma uzozama ukukukwenza.
Ngokuyinhloko, i-egoists yezocansi ikholelwa ukuthi abesifazane bathola ama-orgasms njalo ngesikhathi socansi, kodwa iningi labo alicabangi ngombuzo we-female orgasm nhlobo, ngakho-ke bangama-egoists. Embhedeni, ngokuvamile baziphatha ngendlela ejwayele ukuba yi-egoists: ababuki ubuso bomlingani, ngoba imizwelo yakhe ayibajabulisi, ungazami ukubamba isisindo se-orgasm esondelayo, ungalayela, utshele indlela okufanele ulale ngayo noma ube.
Ungagwema kanjani ubugovu bobulili?
Okubaluleke nakakhulu, ngombono wami - umuntu kufanele afunde ukuvuleka nokukhululekile, ukuze afunde ukungabi namahloni okutshela umuntu ngesifiso sakhe futhi okokuqala ukuzithanda. Ukuthola empilweni yami akuyona into encane yabantu, ngathuthukisa indlela yami yokuqeda ubugovu embhedeni. Uma ubuhlobo besivele bukhona ngesikhathi sokuxoxisana ngocansi oluzayo, ngibeka phambili umbono wami wobudlelwane obuvumelanayo. Ngikhuluma ngendlela engiphatha ngayo ubulili njengobuciko, ukuthi ngingakwazi ukuletha injabulo engaqondakali kumuntu, kodwa kuphela uma ngibona futhi ngizwa sengathi umuntu uzama ukungijabulisa. Ngokuvamile isebenza ngokungenasici: ukugijima okuvame ukugijima, ukwesaba ubulili kanye nami, namadoda anezibonakaliso ze-sexist egoist zama ukulandela inkolelo yami. Uma, emva kwakho konke, ngangilala embhedeni nomuntu ongeke aphunyuke futhi okungazange ngikuvelele, ingabe angesabi ukumemezela ngenqubo yesenzo engingathandi into ethile, angesabi ngisho nokuphazamisa lesi senzo, ngoba nginombono wokuthi kungcono ukuthi angabi nobulili kunokulala nobulili ne-egoist.
Okumangalisa kakhulu ukuthi abesifazane abaningi balungele ukubekezelela ubugovu, ngaphandle kokucabanga ngemiphumela yawo. Bachaza i-orgasm, ngoba besaba ukubonakala efubeni emehlweni omlingani. Abesifazane abangatholi i-orgasm evela kumlingani oziqhenya ngokuvamile bafuna inkinga ngokwabo, futhi lokhu kungaholela ezinkingeni eziningi futhi ukungakwazi ukuthola i-orgasm evela kumthandi omuhle. Ngokufanayo, ngokomzimba, ubulili ngaphandle kwe-orgasm kuyingozi.
Umzala wami wahlinzwa kakhulu emaqanda amaqanda, waqala ukuqoqa ama-cyst kanye noketshezi. Lapho ephendukela kudokotela ngombuzo: ukuthi i-cyst ingavelaphi, udokotela wathi lokhu kunganeliseki ngokocansi. Ukuvukela ngokocansi kufanele kuphele ngokukhipha, i-orgasm, ngaphandle kwalokho ama-ovari ahlupheka. Futhi udadewethu waqaphela inkinga yakhe: iminyaka emibili nengxenye wahlangana nomfana futhi wayehlala njalo elala naye, ngaphandle kokujabula. Ngaphandle, lo mfana wayekhangayo kakhulu, kunokuba amjabulise ukuthuthumela emzimbeni, kodwa isenzo socansi naye sasikhona njalo: ukunyakaza kwakhe kwakushesha kakhulu futhi kunesigqi, i-orgasm yayimhlasela ngemuva komzuzu nengxenye. Udadewethu wayengazange abe nesikhathi nale nqubo futhi ngesikhathi esifushane ukuze uthole i-orgasm. Impela, iminyaka emibili nesigamu yokunganeliseki ngokocansi kwamholela esibhedlela sama-ovari.
Ngabuza abangani bami ngokuphindaphindiwe umbuzo - kungani behlangana noma behlala nendoda, kusukela ocansi abangatholi injabulo? Abaningi besaba nje ukuhlala bodwa, abanye bakholelwa ukuthi bathanda indoda, abangane abaningana bacabanga ukuthi banecala lokuntuleka kwe-orgasm.
Enye yezintombi zami ikhanya kakhulu futhi i-sexy, eyayihlale inenkampani yamadoda, ngonyaka odlule wangivuma ukuthi unabangane abangamatshumi amathathu nesishiyagalombili kwezocansi empilweni yakhe kanti kuphela abayisithupha kubo bakwazi ukuthola i-orgasm! Ngangethuka, angikaze ngicabange ukuthi angase abe nezinkinga zalolu hlobo, kodwa njalo wayelokhu ethi kumuntu ongazange amthande embhedeni, ubuhlobo abukhambanga futhi buyakwazi ukuwuphonsa emva kokulala ngokobulili okungaphumelelanga kokuqala. Muva nje ngahlangana naye, futhi saphinda sathinta ngalesi sihloko. Wangitshela ukuthi, kuvela ukuthi, isizathu sasikhona kuye, kodwa hhayi emzimbeni wakhe, kodwa esengqondweni. Ezinyangeni ezintathu ezedlule wahlangana nendoda eyaba ngumthandi omkhulu. Engathandeki ngaphandle, waqaphela iqiniso lokuthi anganqoba owesifazane, abe ngumlingani omuhle wezocansi, alalele izifiso zowesifazane. Wafundisa intombi yami ukuba angabi namahloni ngaye embhedeni, hhayi ukuba namahloni ukukhuluma ngezifiso zakhe, ukuthi kuzoba mnandi nokuthi uma kudingeka yini amanye ama-caresses. Ngesizathu esithile baqhekeka, kodwa ngemuva kwalokho intombazane yathi ingathola i-orgasm kunoma yimuphi umuntu, ngoba ivulekile futhi ikhululekile embhedeni, inganqikazi ukusho ukuthi lo mlingani wenza okuthile okungalungile.
Lokho umngane wami angitshele khona kwangenza ngacabanga ngezinto eziningi, futhi ngabona ukuthi yibo abesifazane okufanele babe yikosikazi yeso simo ebuhlotsheni obuseduze nabesilisa, ngoba amadoda ngesikhathi se-orgasm athola i-orgasm emazweni angama-80 avela kwekhulu, nabesifazane ema-40 amacala ikhulu. Kuvela ukuthi ukuzicabangela kocansi kunganqotshwa noma kuwulahle kumlingani wakho ngaphandle kokuhlazeka uma ukhuluma ngokuqondile ngalesi sihloko.
Ngokuvamile, sesaba ukwamukela umlingani esingenalo i-orgasm, kodwa silingise nje, ngaleyo ndlela simxoshe ekuziphatheni okuzigoqela embhedeni, okungukuthi, kufanele kube khona obala futhi evulekile. Emva kwakho konke, uma ungenamahloni okulala nomuntu olele embhedeni, khona-ke uzizwe ukhululekile ukutshela indoda ukuthi uthanda ukukwenza kanjani, kodwa kunganjani-nje nje ngobuwula. Yebo, futhi indoda kaningi ayinakuqagela ngezifiso zethu futhi siziphathe njengendoda egoist. Ukukhuluma ngokweqile kuyisihluthulelo socansi oluphumelelayo ukuze ugweme ubugovu bobulili. Futhi kudingeka ufunde ukuthi ungazithanda kanjani, ungesabi izifiso zakho, ungabi namahloni ngawe embhedeni nomuntu, bese uthola injabulo eningi ngokuya ocansini. Futhi akukho bugovu!