Ukuguqulwa kocansi kwenziwe umsebenzi walo, futhi manje akuyona into ehlazo ukukhuluma ngezintshisekelo zakho esiteshini esiseduze. Akekho oyomangala ngendaba mayelana nokuzibandakanya ngokobulili okungavumelani, ukuhlubuka okuhlukahlukene kobulili, manje okubhekwa "okucebile kumaphupho." Ukwengeza, abantu bakondliwa ngobulili obujwayelekile futhi baqala ukuqhuba ezinye izinhlobo zezilwane, basebenzisa lezi zingxenye zomzimba, hhayi ezihloswe ngokocansi.
Uma ubuza amadoda angamanje mayelana nezintandokazi zabo embhedeni, khona-ke ukuthandwa okuningi, okungaqondakali, ubulili obudala. Futhi labo abangazange bafunde ukuphupha ngalokhu. Yini eheha abantu besilisa abanjalo? Ngaphambi kokuba uphendule lo mbuzo obalulekile, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ngokuvamile kusho ukuthini "ubulili obudala".
Igama kuma-sexologists
Igama elithi "sex anal" kufanele liqondwe njengokulala ngokobulili ngokuletha igciwane le-dildo noma lesilisa ngokocansi emgqeni ongemuva. Njengabanye izinhlobo zobulili, lolu hlobo lwaklanyelwe ukuthola ukwaneliseka ngokocansi.
Esikhathini esidlule, lesi senzakalo senzeke phakathi kwamabili womabili oyedwa. Ukubheka umsebenzi wokuhluka kobulili okunjalo kwakuhlotshaniswa nokuqedwa komqondo wobulili njengengxenye yobudlelwane bokuthandana. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, imingcele iye yaphazamiseka, futhi manje wonke umuntu wesithathu "ngokulandela" umlingani wakhe.
Njengoba njalo, inabasekeli bayo kanye nabaphikisi. Okokuqala, kuyadingeka sicabange ngezizathu zokuthi kungani amadoda ethandana ngokocansi. Phakathi kwabo, kufanele sikwazi ukuhlukanisa amaqembu amabili asemqoka-ezomzimba nezingokwengqondo.
Ukuzwela ngokomzimba
Uma kuqhathaniswa nobulili besifazane, isilwane asinalo izinzuzo eziningi zomzimba.
Okokuqala kwalokhu ukuthi ukuvula okuncane kunesiqiniseko sokunika lo muntu injabulo. Ubulili besifazane buyakwazi ukwelula isikhathi, futhi emva kokukhulelwa kuyobekwa kalula kalula "intonga yamandla" wesilisa. Yiqiniso, konke lokhu kulungiswa ngosizo lwezivivinyo ezikhethekile zemisipha yangaphakathi. Kodwa kungani ulinde kuze kube yilapho owesifazane ecubungula imisipha yamagciwane, uma ungakwazi ukungena ngemuva kwendima encane?
Futhi, lezi zimbobo ezimbili ziyahlukahluka esakhiweni sangaphakathi. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, ngesikhathi senjabulo ejwayelekile yesikhathi socansi kuphela "ekungeneni" kuphela, futhi nomlingani womlingani uthola injabulo, ehamba nje ngobude bonke be-rectum.
Ngomunye umuntu, inzuzo engenakuphikwa ukuthi ukujula kuyenzeka ngaphakathi, okukuvumela ukuthi ungaphazamisi ukuzwa okuthandekayo ekuphakameni kwawo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akukho ngozi yokuthi umlingani emva kwalokhu uzokhulelwa.
Kusobala ukuthi ngokusho kobulili obucabangela umzimba akusilo phansi kocansi. Kodwa nokho uthando lwalolu hlobo lwenjabulo lujulile kakhulu - ezingeni lezingqondo.
Umbono wengqondo ngesimo
Ingxenye yengqondo ye-anal vidasseksa inikeza indoda egcwele ukwaneliseka ngokomzwelo nangokomoya.
Uma owesifazane ethatha isinqumo sokuba nobulili obuyisiliva, lokhu kubonakala ngendoda njengesibonakaliso sezinga eliphakeme lokuthembela. Lokhu kufana nesiteji esisha ebuhlotsheni kanye nesinye isiqiniseko sokuthi umlingani ulungele okuningi ngenxa yabathandekayo bakhe.
Kodwa ukunquma ngesilingo esilinganiselwe embhedeni engxenyeni yendoda kuthathwa njengesibonakaliso sokuthandana okuqinile kowesifazane. Uyakuthanda, ngakho-ke yonke iseli lomzimba wakhe.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, abanye abameleli besilisa besilisa bacabanga ngesondo sangasese njengamandla phezu kowesifazane. Yiqiniso, edolobheni elithile le ndoda izoba yilapho ephethe kakhulu kulokhu, kodwa kufanelekile ukucabanga njengesiyaluyalu, njengesiyaluyalu. Amageyimu amahle angaba nobuhlungu kubesifazane, ngesikhathi esifanayo nanjengomlingani kungaba mnandi ukuletha ubuhlungu babo "besisulu". Udinga ukuba uhlale uqaphile.
Kukhona uhlobo olunjalo lwamaduna njengama-dandians an anal. Kubo, kuyoba mnandi kakhulu inqubo ngokwalo, njengokungathi ukukholelwa owesifazane ukuvumelana nesenzo esinamandla kangaka. Kusobala ukuthi ngokushesha nje lapho umgomo ufezekile, enye imbongolokazi enqobile iyolahlekelwa yinani kubo. Futhi bayohamba bafune "abathandekayo" abasha.
Esinye isizathu sengqondo sisezinjabulo zokuzijabulisa. Kubantu, ukubukwa kwangemuva nakho kunikeza injabulo yokubukwa.
Ekugcineni, ubulili bobulili obudala - indlela enhle yokuthatha impilo ebuseduze kulabo asebehlala isikhathi eside bebanjwe ngababili futhi behlelwe yizifo ezinzima.
Isitha siphendula kanjani?
Abathandi bezocansi zangasese ezweni lanamuhla, yebo, kuningi labo abaphikisana nalo. Kodwa akukho okungajabulisi futhi okuwusizo kuyoba ulwazi lokuthi kungani abanye bengakamukeli ucansi.
Napha futhi, izizathu ezingokwengqondo ziye zadlala indima. Abantu, okusho ukuthi, "ukufutheka okudala" akunakwenzeka ukuba ahambe kulolu hlelo lokuhlola uthando. Akumangazi lapho eminyakeni embalwa eyedlule konke lokhu kwakubhekwa njengokonakala kwezinga eliphakeme kakhulu.
Uhlangothi olubi lwezocansi zangasese ngukuthi umlingani angase abe nokuzwa okungajabulisi ngesikhathi sokungena. Yiqiniso, ukuvulwa kwesilwane sowesifazane kuyomunye wezigaba eziyingozi, kodwa ngokungafani nesiswini kudinga ukugcoba okwengeziwe. Ubuhlungu bungancishiswa ngosizo lwamakhemikhali akhethekile athengwa ekhemisi, esitolo socansi noma ukhilimu wezingane ezivamile.
Futhi, mhlawumbe, ukutholakala okungathandeki kunazo zonke ezithandwayo zokuzilibazisa kwe-anal kuyoba yiqiniso lokuthi i-rectum, njenganoma iyiphi enye imvelo yangaphakathi yomzimba, igcwele ama-microbes futhi ingaba yindawo yokuhlola yokusakazwa kwezifo zocansi. Zonke lezi zikhathi zingagwenywa, besebenzisa izindlela zokuqala zokuvikela. Kodwa akukhona neze abantu abazokushintshanisa ithuba lokuzwa ukuthi imisipha yangaphakathi yowesifazane ibamba kanjani isiqu sayo, izinyathelo zokulondeka ngendlela yokudonsa ikhondomu.
Ngokuyinhloko i-squeamish, futhi, akunakwenzeka ukuba "inamathele" endaweni enjalo, ngoba isiqiniseko sokuthi umlingani ulungiselelwe kahle ukuqhuma kwesiteshi futhi indoda izokhipha "umngane" wayo ohlanzekile, ayifanele.
Zonke lezi, ngisho ezincane, kodwa hhayi ezimnandi kakhulu, imininingwane ingagwenywa, ngokulandela amathiphu alandelayo. Futhi abathandi bangabonga ubuhle bezocansi zangasese.
Khohlwa ngezinkinga. Kanjani?
Imithetho ehlanzekile yokuhlanzeka izokuzivikela ezimweni ezingenangqondo, ikakhulukazi amantombazane angafuni ukuthi umthandi wabo athole imfucuza epulazini lakhe ngokuzumayo. Mayelana nokuthi kungenzeka kanjani ukuhlanza i-rectum, kunezihloko eziningi ezise-Intanethi. Indlela evamile kakhulu nge-enema ngamanzi afudumele. Ukuzama ukwenza konke ngezandla zakho - indlela ayilona embi, kodwa engavamile futhi engakhululekile.
Iphuzu lesibili lokunakekelwa kwe-muzhchinam.Daby hhayi ukuletha imizwa yakho ebuhlungu oyintandokazi, kungcono ukuthola i-lubricant ekhethekile kusengaphambili. Ngenhla sitshele ukuthi ungathenga izibani. Kulezi zimo ukulungiswa ukusebenzisa okungenani ukhilimu ovamile.
Futhi iphuzu lokugcina: ungakhohlwa ngokuvikelwa! Yiqiniso, uma umbhangqwana unomlando omude wenkonzo, ukwethemba okuphelele nempilo enamandla ezinkomba zezokwelapha, ungathatha ingozi enjalo. Zonke ezinye zinconywa ngokuqinile ukugqoka ikhondomu.
Khumbula ukuthi ngaphandle kwempilo ebuseduze yezinkinga ezincane, abalingani bazokwazi ukuqonda ngempela ubuhlobo kunoma yikuphi ukubonakaliswa kwabo futhi bathole ukuwaneliseka ngokomzimba nangokomoya.