- Zama, isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka ukulibazisa isikhathi futhi ungangeni ekuxhumeni kwesihlungi nomlingani omusha. Khumbula ukuthi ukuphepha okugcwele kubhekwe ubulili obungapheli, nokuzigwema kuzo kuze kube kuhle ngangokunokwenzeka ungamqapheli umuntu.
- Kubalulekile ukukhawulela inani labalingani bocansi. Khumbula, inomboro encane yabo, ingozi enkulu yokubamba isifo esithathelwanayo.
- Ngokuzibandakanya ebuhlotsheni bobulili, uyazigwema ngokugcwele uhlangothi oluyingozi. Okokuqala, kubonisa ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho niya ocansini kuphela nomunye futhi obani ngaphezulu. Ngendlela, kusuka kulokhu kulandela iphethini evunyelwe ngokujwayelekile: uma ungumthwali wokutheleleka, ngakho-ke kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlobo lwezenzo zocansi, awukwazi ukugula.
- Udinga ukwazi okuningi ngangokunokwenzeka mayelana nomlingani wakho ongakghona. Ngendlela, nje ungamceli imibuzo eminingi yemvelo ehlukile emehlweni. Ukuzisola okukhulu, ukufaka ucwaningo, abantu bavame ukufihla inombolo ngqo yabalingani bobulili ababephila kuzo. Njengoba kuboniswe ngenye yezifundo - 42% wezocansi ezifanele futhi 47% wabameleli abaqinile babiza inombolo encane yabalingani kunalokho eqinisweni. Ngokomcwaningi ofanayo, baqamba amanga ngokuphathelene nobulili nezifebe kanye nemizwa yabo ngokuthanda kobulili obufanayo kanye nezenzo zocansi endaweni yokudakwa ngokweqile noma ngokweqile.
- Akudingeki ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukholelwa ukuthi amazwi akhulunywa ngumuntu ngokuphathelene nesimo sakhe socansi (ubungqingili noma abesilisa nabesifazane). Ngokusho kokubheka, okungaphezu kuka-30% kwesigaba esiqine kunazo zonke zesintu, vumela kanye kuphela, kodwa babe nesimo sengqingili. Futhi uma sikholelwa ngaleso sikhathi lezi zincwadi ezintathu ezenzelwe umphakathi phakathi kwabantu abesilisa nabangqingili, cishe u-80% wabo babe nobuhlobo obuseduze bobulili obuhlukile. Imibuzo emine eyimfihlo yasitshela ukuthi ama-15-25% wabungqingili banemindeni egcwele. Kodwa ukucwaninga kwakamuva, okwenziwe ososayensi abavela e-Kinzi Institute, kubonise ukuthi cishe amaphesenti angaba ngu-75 abaneminyaka eyishumi nambili ubudala abaneminyaka engu-18 kuphela, kodwa bahlangene ngobulili. Yingakho ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kulandela yonke le datha eshicilelwe, akudingekile ukuba ucabange ngokuzenzakalelayo ukuthi owesifazane noma umlingani wesilisa ungokwesigaba esinezinga eliphansi noma elingenalo ubungqingili.
- Gwema njalo ukuziphatha okubi ngokocansi kuze kube yilapho ungaqiniseki ukuthi umlingani wakho omusha ocansini awunayo igciwane lesandulela ngculazi. Kulula nakakhulu ukuzibandakanya kwezocansi ngaphandle kokusebenzisa izinyathelo zokuqapha (ikhondomu). Ngomlingani omusha ongalwazi oluncane okudingekayo, ekuqaleni kokulala ngokobulili kungcono ukugwema ubulili ngomlomo nangokwesibindi. Ngamanye amazwi, kunconywa ukuba ugweme zonke izinhlobo zocansi, okuhlobene ngqo noxhumana nabo nge-sperm, igazi kanye nezinye izinto ezikhishwayo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi i-AIDS kanye nazo zonke ezinye izinambuzane ezidluliselwa ngocansi zingangena emzimbeni ngokusebenzisa i-membrane yamangqamu emphinjeni, isisu noma i-rectum ngisho nangemibhobho encane ebusweni lesikhumba.
- Uma unesifiso sokuzama ubulili obudala, kunconywa ukuthi usebenzise ikhondomu nge-spermicides, ebonakala engxenyeni yabagqugquzeli ezivela ezinengi ezifweni ezihlukahlukene. Ngesikhathi sokulala ngokobulili, ukuchohloka okungafuneki esikhumbeni kungakha futhi lokhu kuzokwandisa kakhulu ingozi yokubamba isifo. Odokotela batusa ngokuqinile ukusetshenziswa kwamakhemikhali okwenziwa ngamanzi.
- Ngaphambi kwesandulela ngculaza kuhlale kunesidingo ukusebenzisa amakhondomu kanye ne-spermicides efanayo. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ikhondomu ayikwazi ukusiza uma zonke izindawo ezinegciwane zingavaliwe (isibonelo, ezitholakala kwi-scrotum ye-herpes).
- Ngesikhathi se-fallatio (oral sex), ikhondomu inikeza ukuvikeleka okuthembekile ngisho noma umlingani esulelekile. Ngakho-ke, ngezinye izikhathi akulimazi uma uthinta izindebe noma ulimi lwakho ezifweni zobulili ukuze ubeke ikhondomu.
- Uma kwenzeka uzama ukuzama i-cunnilingus, isilinganiso esingcono kakhulu sokuzivikela singaba igesi elikhethekile elincane le-rubber, elivame ukusetshenziswa ngamazinyo, ezama usizo ngovivinyo olugulayo ukuba lingene ku-drooling.
- Indlela engcono kakhulu engathuthukisa ukuvuselela ngokuvamile ibhekwa njengokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa nezinye izinsiza zokuzijabulisa zobulili. Ngendlela, le ndlela ingaba yindlela ephephile yemisebenzi ngayinye yomsebenzi futhi ithole injabulo. Kuhlale kudingekile ukuba ukhumbule ngobungcwele nokuvimbela ukugcoba ekusetshenzisweni kwentukuthelo.
- Ubulili ngaphandle komsebenzi we-oral-genital, kanye nokufakelwa kocansi noma okulinganayo (ukubetha) nakho kuyingozi kakhulu. Inzuzo yayo yukuthi isibalo kanye nayo yonke enye i-excreta ayikwazi ukungena kwigobolondo le-nasliznye noma isikhumba esonakalisiwe. Kodwa lapha kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuhlanzwa kwezandla zombili bozakwethu.
- Ungalisebenzisi kabi ngokocansi ezindaweni ezikhuthele kakhulu, lapho kungaba khona inani elikhulu lemikhakhazane (indlu yangasese yomphakathi, amaphiko, izitolo, elwandle, amakamelo amahhotela angabizi, njll).
- Ukuziphatha ngokocansi kungashintshwa ngokuvunyelwa ngokuhlanganyela komphefumulo noma wewashi - kuyingozi kakhulu futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo kuphephile. Kodwa udinga kuphela ukuqiniseka ukuthi umlingani wakho noma awunayo izifo zesikhumba.
- Awuqinisekile mayelana nomlingani - zikhawulele ezilula. Lokhu nakho kuhle futhi ngeke kuhlukanise lo muntu futhi uhlale naye ubuhlobo uma nje ungawuqiniseli ngokugcwele.
- Isici esibaluleke kakhulu kwezocansi oluphephile yizingxoxo ezingenangqondo ezihlokweni eziseduze. Ungafihli kumlingani wakho zonke izinkinga zakho zocansi noma lokho ongakuthandi ngobudlelwane bakho bocansi. Abaningi bayamahloni ukuxoxa ngezihloko ezinjalo nomuntu omusha, kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi uma unquma ukuthuthela kuleli zinga elisha lobuhlobo nalo muntu, kufanele ufunde ukuvula futhi ngaleyo ndlela uqhubekele kuye into efanayo.
Futhi ekugcineni ufuna ukwengeza, khumbula ukuthi uze ubonise ubudlelwane bakho nomlingani omusha ozobe ususelwe ekuthembekeni okukhethekile kanye nobuqotho bezocansi, kufanele uthathe umthwalo wemfanelo hhayi kuphela ngenxa yocansi, kodwa nangenxa yezempilo yakhe yezocansi. Ngakho uma kubonakala umngane noma intombi entsha, konke, okokuqala, kufanele siqale ngento yokugcina yalolu hlu bese uhamba kancane, kodwa ngokuqiniseka, ngendlela efanele.
Futhi enye into - ungaqali ngaso sonke isikhathi ubuhlobo nobulili, ngezinye izikhathi ukufaka esikhundleni esihle kocansi kungase kube ukucabanga kwakho okuhlangene noma ukusikhipha. Lezi zindlela zingaphinde zilethe izinjabulo eziningi futhi zihlanganise inkomo ukulungiselela ukuziphatha ngokobulili bobabili bobulili.
Abaningi bangase bamangale, kepha ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwano bocansi okubizwa ngokuthi "i-tortoise" kunezici eziningi ezinhle, futhi kuphela ukulala ngokobulili kuholela ekuxhumaneni kaningana kocansi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma ungazisoli isikhathi esinikezwe sokuthola okuthandwa ngumlingani omusha, ngokungangabazeki ungathola okuningi okujabulisayo kusuka ocansini uqobo.