Unomsebenzi omuhle nabangane abaningi. Ungumuntu okhangayo futhi owedlula. Ngelinye igama uphumelele kukho konke. Yini ongayiphutha empilweni yakho? Uthando? Kungani kungenjalo kuphela ongathanda ukuhlala ukuphila naye? Ngabe kuphi nokuthi ungatholaphi umlingani wakho womphefumulo?
Ake sizame ukuthola ukuthi iyiphi inkinga. Futhi kungaba nezizathu eziningana zalesi simo.
1. Abangani bakho bahamba nawe yonke indawo.
Uzizwa ungakhululekile ezindaweni ezingajwayelekile noma izindawo ezigcwele kakhulu. Yiqiniso, kuyancipha uma kukhona abangane abambalwa abasondelene nabo. Kodwa-ke kufanele wazi ukuthi ukutholakala kwabo ngokunciphisa kunciphise amathuba okuba nomngane othakazelisayo. Yebo, abangani bangaba mnandi kakhulu kunomfana, kodwa lokho akuyona iphuzu. Akuwona wonke umuntu ozokwazi ukujwayela intombazane engaphansi kombono womuntu. Kuhlale kungathandeki ukukhishwa emphakathini, ngoba akawazi kusengaphambili ukuthi ingxoxo yakho izokhula kanjani.
Ngakho isisombululo esihle kunazo zonke ukuya eqenjini ngaphandle kwezintombi zakho noma uzama ukuchitha isikhathi esingaphandle komphakathi wabo.
2. Uhlukile ekukhethweni kwezindawo zokuzilibazisa.
Ingabe uyayithanda le cafe ekhoneni, kepha kuleli club lihlale liyimculo engcono kakhulu? Ngakho ufuna ukubuyela ezindaweni zakho ozithandayo, futhi nakanjani uzoya lapho enkampanini yabangani bakho abakhulu. Kodwa ngeke ukwazi ukuhlangana nabantu abasha, uvakashele izikhungo ezifanayo njalo.
Uma ufuna ukwandisa umbuthano wokuxhumana, yandisa ububanzi bezintshisekelo zakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi imidanso yaseLatin America, i-origami noma i-rock climbing, noma yikuphi ukuzilibazisa okusha kuzokuletha inani elikhulu labantu ababajwayele.
3. Unzima kakhulu kubantu.
Ukhononda ukuthi awukwazi ukuthola umfana ofanelekayo, kodwa akekho abalungile ababesele. Uyazibona wena? Uma kunjalo, kungcono ukuthi ucabangele isimo sakho sengqondo kubantu. Abaningi bazama kanzima ukugcizelela ukuthi baphatha kabi futhi baziphathe ngendlela engavamile, ngobuqili noma ngokweqile kakhulu. Ungahluleli ngombono wokuqala, unike le nsizwa ithuba lokuzibonakalisa.
Ungalinganisanga indawo noma indlela yokuphola, ungazishiyi emingceleni eqinile. Indawo lapho uhlangabezana khona ne-destiny yakho ingase ibe yinto engalindelekile, futhi isikhathi asiyona into engalungile.
4. Ubonisa intshiseko enkulu.
Intombazane kumele isebenze. Yebo, kuyiqiniso, ungahlali futhi ulinde isikhulu sakho. Kodwa zibuke ngokwakho emehlweni omuntu. Ingabe izifiso zakho namaphupho akho nazo zibonakala kuye? Ungabheki okweqile, ukhululekile emshadweni okhethekile, uzama ukukuthola? Ngisho noma uyamthanda futhi ekuqaleni wabona ukuthi nguye kuphela, ungafaki ngokushesha wonke amakhadi etafuleni.
Kufanele uthathe umoya ojulile, okwesikhathi esithile ukuba uphonsa ikhanda lakho yonke imicabango mayelana nekusasa lakho elijabulisayo ndawonye futhi nje ujabulele ukuxhumana.
Kodwa mhlawumbe ungomunye wabantu okukhona abanye ubunzima obunzima endleleni eya enjabulweni yakho. Uyabona umfana okhangayo futhi engacabangi ukumazi kangcono. Kodwa ungenza kanjani abangane? Ungaqala kanjani ingxoxo, ukuthi ungamthakazelisa kanjani? Imishwana yokuqala kufanele ibe engavamile ngokwanele ukumthakazelisa, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo i-unobtrusive futhi ingakubopheli ukuba uqhubeke nengxoxo, uma ngokungazelelwe uthathe isinqumo sokuthatha umhlalaphansi. Kukhona amasu ambalwa avivinywe futhi ahlolwe, futhi ungawasebenzisa ngaphandle kwe-conscience ye-conscience kuze kube yilapho usuqalile ngokwakho.
Ngakho-ke, kusuka ngaphesheya ukuya kuphi into.
1. Zama ukuxoxa naye ngomcimbi okhona kuwo.
Ingabe ingumbukiso noma umkhosi wezobuciko besikhathi samanje? Veza umbono wakho emisebenzini yomlobi. Uma uhlangana ekhonsathini, xoxani ukusebenza kwabaculi. Unayo endaweni efanayo, okusho ukuthi usuvele unesithakazelo esifanayo futhi, ngokufanele, izihloko ezingenamkhawulo zengxoxo.
Ungesabi uma kuvela ukuthi unamandla kakhulu ngesihloko sengxoxo yakho. Buza imibuzo, ulalele ngokucophelela, uzozizwa eqiniseka kakhulu futhi lokhu, cishe, kuzokunikeza ngokushesha indawo yakhe. Futhi uma sekuphathelene "izingqungquthela" zamadoda, khona-ke ungaba slukavit, wenze sengathi i-dilettante bese ucela iseluleko.
2. Mnikeze ukuncoma.
Kukhona umbono wokuthi amadoda akhathaleli ngokubukeka kwawo. Ezimweni eziningi lokhu akunjalo. Qaphela umbhalo obhalwe nge-T-shirt noma ama-fashion sneakers, ngokuqinisekile kukhona isiqephu sezingubo ezingadunyiswa ngaphandle kobunembeza benembeza. Futhi ngokucacile lokho okulotshwe ekhanda lakhe noma lapho bathengisa khona le jeans epholile, ungaqala olunye ulwazi.
3. Noma mhlawumbe uhlangane naye endaweni ethile?
Ibinzana le-banal, kodwa, ngokungavamile, lisebenza. Yenza ubuso obunzima, njengokungathi uzama ukukhumbula lapho ungabona khona. Ungase ucabange kancane ngalesi sihloko. Ngokwesibonelo, ake sithi uyafana nokufana nomfana owabhukuda naye ebangeni lesihlanu. Wena, of course, uthole ngokushesha ukuthi lokhu akuyena yena, kodwa isiqalo sesibekiwe futhi ngeke kube nzima ukuqhubeka ingxoxo.
Kodwa noma ngabe awukwazi ukufika nanoma iyiphi inkulumo efanelekile, ungathola elula "Sawubona!". Futhi ungakhohlwa ngokumamatheka. Umuntu omomothekayo ubheka kakhulu kwabanye futhi ubangela imizwelo emihle.
U-Dary uyamamatheka nxazonke, owaziyo, mhlawumbe omunye wabo uzoba yisiphetho sakho. Sithemba ukuthi uyaqonda futhi wanquma wena ukuthi ungatholaphi umlingani wakho womphefumulo.