Ukuze uhlakaniphe iphupho elithandekayo lamantombazane amaningi, kusukela manje sekuyisimfashini ukuba ihlakaniphe, ingqondo ingu-sexy. Omunye uzakusho ukuthi izihlakaniphi zizalwa, futhi yebo, mhlawumbe, kunjalo, kodwa noma kunjalo wonke umuntu angaba ngumqondo we-erudite, umuntu kufanele afune kuphela.
Ukuze ube smart, udinga ukwazi okuningi. Okuningi. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, sivame ukukhulisa ama-horizons ethu, hhayi ngezikhathi ezithile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umuntu kufanele akwazi ukukhuluma kahle, njll. ukuze unikeze ulwazi oluzuziwe, kungenjalo kuzobukeka sengathi usuqalile isichazamazwi esichazayo, kepha awufundile ukusebenzisa amagama amasha empilweni.
Ngakho-ke, yimiphi imithetho eyokusiza ukuba uhlakaniphe? Yini okudingeka uyenze lokhu?
1. Funda amabhuku
Okokuqala futhi, mhlawumbe, ibhanal efika kakhulu engqondweni yizincwadi. Cha, asikhulumi ngamanoveli wezintandokazi kanye nezindaba zokuhlaziya ezilula. Akekho ozama ukuphikisana nokuthandwa kwabanye abantu, ngoba wonke umuntu unezintandokazi nezintshisekelo ezahlukene, ngakho-ke wonke umuntu ufunda lokho akufunayo, uma nje ekwazi ukufunda. Nokho, kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuthi akuyona yonke incwadi ewusizo futhi ewusizo.
Ngakho yini okufanele ufunde?
Okokuqala, i-encyclopedia. Ngezinye izikhathi zithandeka kangangokuthi kujabulisa ukuzifunda. Yiqiniso, udinga ukuthatha kuphela ama-encyclopedias anithinta ngisho nezihloko ezincane ezithakazelisayo, ngoba ngeke uzame, uma ungenayo umphefumulo kuya kuma-physics, isibonelo, awufuni ukutadisha i-encyclopedia, ezinikele ngokuphelele kule sayensi, ngakho-ke izinzuzo zokubheka ngokushesha " ulwazi "ngeke.
Okwesibili, ifilosofi. Zingakanani izinto eziye zacwaningwa yizazi zefilosofi, ziningi izinto ezithakazelisayo abazibhala ezincwadini zabo, zingaki ezidingekayo. Omunye, mhlawumbe, ngeke anikezwe ngokushesha izinkulumo zefilosofi ezinzima nezimpikiswano, zizobonakala zingenakuqondakala futhi kunzima ukuziqonda. Nokho, isikhathi esithile sizodlula, futhi uzobona ukuthi uyaqonda. Uyakwazi konke okwakubhalwe phansi izingqondo ezinhle. Khombisa ukuthi bona ngokwabo baqala ukucabanga ngokuzwakalayo nangokwemvelo kunanini ngaphambili, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi uzokuthuthukisa isimo sangempela nesicacile sokuphila esingakaqaphelwa ngaphambili, noma umbono wezwe uzovela / ushintsho.
Okwesithathu, i-psychology. Umuntu uyisidalwa esiyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Ukuze siqonde zonke izinkinga zomqondo womuntu, ukutadisha kwengqondo kuyasiza kakhulu, ngoba ukuze wenze umbono oqondile, umuntu kufanele aqonde izinselele zokuthumela ulwazi. Uma u-staunchnuyu, okungukuthi, lokhu kuyimfanelo okufanele uyenze, ngaphandle kwalokho ngeke kube kuhle kakhulu uma ubhekwa njenge-Snob eyaziqhenya ngemva kokuthatha okusheshayo umuntu.
2. Hlola izinhlelo zokucabangela
Uma ngesizathu esithile ungafuni noma awukwazi ukuthola ulwazi lwamabhuku (okubi kakhulu, okubi kakhulu), lalela futhi ulubheke. Ku-TV kunezinhlelo eziningi ezithakazelisayo ngaphandle kokujabulisa imibukiso yethelevishini engenzi lutho olusebenzayo. Isibonelo, ukuhanjiswa okufanayo kwezilwane ebuchosheni kubaluleke kakhulu kunokubonisa ukupheka. Cha, akekho ophikisanayo okumele alungiselele - kuhle, kodwa kusukela ingxoxo ngokuphathelene nokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo, kungcono ukukhishwa emibonisweni evamile yokudla / yokudansa / ehlekisayo futhi ushintshele ezinhlelweni eziwusizo ngempela. Ngaphezu kwethelevishini, zingatholakala futhi kwi-Inthanethi, noma kungcono - ukulanda, ukuze ubuyekeze ngezikhathi ezithile ulwazi olukhohliwe.
3. Yakha inkumbulo nokuqamba
Yini ukusetshenziswa kolwazi olutholayo, uma unememori njenge-fishfish? Yamukelwa, ayitholakali, ngoba lolu lwazi olufanayo ngeke ube yingxenye yehora. Imemori ngokuvamile iyasiza, hhayi kuphela ngoba kubalulekile ukugcina inkumbulo ulwazi olubalulekile oludingekayo / oludingekile / oluthakazelisayo, futhi nokukhumbula ngekhanda izingxoxo, imisho, izingcaphuno zezincwadi ezithakazelisayo (kufaka phakathi lezo ezivela kumafilosofi okukhulunywe ngazo esigabeni sokuqala), bese usebenzisa nabo enkulumweni.
Ngendlela, uma ungakwazi ukukhumbula into ethile, ungazami ukwenza ngokuzwakalayo; inkulumo ethi: "Lokhu ... kahle, isazi sefilosofi esisodwa sezulu sithi ... linda, manje ngizokhumbula ..." ngeke kukunikeze ukwethembeka emehlweni abanye.
Iqhinga lihlala liwusizo. Ngendlela, ihlobene kakhulu nomqondo. Kuhlakaniphile ukuphunyuka impendulo, ukukopela eminye imibuzo kanye neprochochete kuyodingeka nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, ngaphandle kwalokho, owesifazane wangempela kufanele ahlale ehlakaniphile ukuvimbela umuntu ezindabeni ezithile.
4. Qala ukubhala incwadi bese ufunda ukukhuluma kahle.
Akuyona neze incwadi, kodwa lokhu kuyindlela efaneleka kakhulu.
Okokuqala, phakamisa uhlelo lolimi. Kodwa-ke, uma uzenza sengathi ungumuntu ohlakaniphile, ngokufunda nokubhala kumele ube nokuhleleka okuphelele, kunjengokuthi yiqiniso.
Okwesibili, funda ukuveza imicabango yakho ngokucacile, ngokucacile futhi kahle. Ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi imisho ayipheli futhi ibe uhlobo olufanayo, kuzodingeka ugcwalise ulwazi lwakho lwamagama ngamazwi amasha, izinkulumo namafomu omlomo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uzobe uhlakulela iphutha, futhi leli khono eliwusizo lihlala liwusizo kunoma yimuphi owesifazane kunoma yiluphi udaba.
Okwesithathu, yakha isitayela sakho. Akudingekile, ukunemba kwesethulo, okungacatshangwa kusukela emigqeni yokuqala, kuyinkhono engayifinyelela, futhi iza nesipiliyoni.
Okwesine, ungaba umlobi. Ubani owaziyo, mhlawumbe, ngosizo lwekhasi elincane lokuhlola lamakhasi ambalwa, uzothola ithalenta lomlobi futhi uqonde ukuthi uthole isizathu sokuphila kwakho konke.
Ngemuva kokuthi ufunde ukuveza kahle imibono yakho ephepheni (noma emadokhumenti yeZwi), kufanele futhi ubhale ngokuzwakalayo ngendlela enhle. Yebo, ekuboneni kuqala kubonakala kulula, kodwa empeleni, ukubhala imisho ebambekayo, eyinkimbinkimbi noma eyaziwayo kulula kakhulu kunokukhuluma. Ukuqeqesha phambi kwesibuko ngokubiza amagama, funda imibhalo yakho ngokuzwakalayo, usebenzise izwi lakho, unikeze ukuzethemba.
Futhi kufanele ufunde ukusebenzisa amagama-ama-parasites: "kahle", "ee", "mm", "mfushane", "kukhona" kanye nezinye izimpahla zabathengi.
5. Khuluma okuningi
Okokuqala, ngakho-ke uzohlanganisa ulwazi osuvele uluthole. Noma ngabe ukuphi ukusebenza kuyadingeka, kodwa hhayi yonke indawo kuyokwazi ukuyiqalisa, ngakho-ke izingxoxo zakho nabangani noma abajwayele ukuthi uzoba umkhuba emva kokufunda i-encyclopaedia noma izincwadi zemfundo. Into eyinhloko ukuthola umuntu ngezintshisekelo, ukuze aqonde ukuthi ukhuluma ngani, futhi agcine ingxoxo ezingeni elifanele, futhi ngisho nokuphonsa okusanhlamvu okusha kolwazi kulokhu okuthandayo.
Okwesibili, ngenxa yesifiso esikhulu nesenkani sokufunda zonke izimfihlo zalokhu awukwazi ukubona ukuthi bavalwa kanjani futhi lokhu kungalungile. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina njalo uxhumano ne-mica, ngaphandle kwalokho uzokwazi kuphela ukuthi ungumuntu ohlakaniphile, onentshisekelo nokufunda.
Okwesithathu, ukuthola / ukushintshaniswa ngolwazi, ulwazi, amakhono. Xoxa nabantu abahlakaniphile ukuze ube nesibonelo somuntu ofanele kakhulu ofuna ukufana naye. Futhi hhayi ukuyikopisha, ngaphezu kwalokho, kuphela isici sengqondo esithintekile. Ngesikhathi esifanayo kungasiza njengolwazi olusha. Kuyinto yokuzijwayeza okungajwayelekile ukuthi ungafunda ukushisa kwelanga, emva kwalokho isifiso sokufunda ngale nkanyezi ebaluleke kakhulu. Ngudokotela ongajwayelekile uzofunda ukunikeza usizo lokuqala. Ngokuvamile, lokhu nokuningi ungabona konke lokhu ku-intanethi, ulwazi lomuntu wangempela, akutshele, futhi kuboniswe ngokuzikhandla, kukhunjulwa kakhulu kangcono.
6. Qeqesha ubuchopho
Kube khona inkulumo encane ngememori, kodwa ngokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo okuhle kakhulu, akwanele ukukhumbula konke futhi wazi okuningi. Yebo, ulwazi luyisisekelo. Yiqiniso, ngaphandle kwakhe, ubuchopho kufanele busebenze. Imisebenzi ehlukahlukene enengqondo, imisebenzi engeyona ejwayelekile, ama-charades, amaphuzu e-crossword, amapuzzli nezinye izinto ezikhulayo - konke lokhu kwandisa ukusebenza kahle kobuchopho.
Lokhu nakho kungavumelani nemicabango nemibono. Funda futhi zama konke okusemandleni akho ukugwema ukusebenzisa izifanekiso ekuphileni, kube ingxoxo noma isenzo. Zama ukuthola izixazululo ezingezona ezisezingeni elivamile emisebenzini ejwayelekile, lokhu kuzokwenza ukuthi i-gyrus iqhubekele ebuchosheni. Lokhu kuhlanganisa ukuthuthukiswa kokungaqiniseki. Kodwa-ke, ngemuva kokuchungechunge lwezenzo ezingavumelani nazo, uzoqala ngokuzenzakalelayo kancane kancane ukuba ungaqapheli.
7. Phambili impilo ephilile
Madoda othandekayo, emncintiswaneni oshisekayo wokuhlakanipha, akumelwe ukhohlwe impilo yakho nganoma iyiphi indlela. Ake sithi ufunda omusha futhi uyathakazelisa, uthuthukise ubuchopho bakho ezintabeni ezibonakalayo ezinhle, uba nolwazi ezintweni eziningi, futhi uziqhenye ngalokho okuye waba khona. Futhi-ke ngelinye ilanga "elihle" owathatha futhi lashisa, ngoba ukhohlwe ngawe, bathandekayo.
Ukuphumula kubaluleke kakhulu uma kuziwa emisebenzini yobuchopho, ngaphandle kwalokho ungahle uvele uphahlame. Ukulala okuvamile, ukudla okunomsoco kanye nomoya omusha - ngaphandle kwalezi zithako ngeke ube yi-smart ngempela. Uzoba umuntu obomvu nomuntu oshisayo obomvu futhi ogule ekudleni okungalungile kwesisu.
Khumbula njalo ngawe kanye nempilo yakho, ngoba lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokuqala kwengqondo.