Eqinisweni, mayelana nokuthi ungabeka kanjani itafula lokuzalwa kokuqala kwengane, futhi ngempela indlela yokuhlela iholidi, abantu abaningi babhala futhi bathi. Ngakho konke kwenziwa kahle ukujabulisa ingane yakho kanye nezingane zabanye abantu, akunzima neze. Into esemqoka ukuthi leli holide lokuqala liyakhunjulwa. Ngosuku olunjalo kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi lokhu kungumkhosi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungakhohlwa ukuthi izingane ezincane ziya edilini lokuzalwa lomntwana wakho, okusho ukuthi ngeke kudingeke ulinde ukuthula. Yiqiniso, ungakwazi ukumboza kuphela abantu abadala futhi ubhale ngokuthula. Kodwa-ke, lolu suku luzohluka kanjani kwabanye? Phela, ngonyaka wokuqala, usuku lokuzalwa lokuzalwa kufanele lukhunjulwe yilowo nalowo. Yiqiniso, ingane yakho ayinaso ithuba lokuyikhumbula, kepha, noma kunjalo, izihlobo nabangane bazoyikhumbula isikhathi eside bese bemtshela izindaba.
Ngakho-ke, kungcono kanjani ukugubha leli holide lokuqala? Indlela yokubeka itafula, yini ongayicabangela izingane? Okokuqala, ulungiselele ukuthi izingane zize kuwe futhi konke kuzophela ukubheka njengento engenalutho njengoba uthanda. Yiqiniso, ekuqaleni bazohlala phansi ngokwemvelo etafuleni, ngoba bakhumbula izimiso zabazali babo bese bazama ukuziphatha. Kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho beqala ukuzizwa behlala ekhaya, bheka nxazonke, udle uphinde udle, khona-ke kuyoba nzima kakhulu kubantu abadala ukuba balethe izinzwa zabo futhi baqinisekise ukuthi emva kwemidlalo yabo endlini kukhona yonke ifenisha nezinto ezisele.
Ukuvimbela lokhu kungenzeki, udinga ukucabangela yonke imininingwane kusukela ekuqaleni futhi ulungiselele uhlelo. Yebo, wena, bazali, kufanele nikwenze lokhu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, nguwe ozodingeka uhole. Uma uzohlela iholidi futhi uqaphele zonke izingane, ungakwazi ukulawula okungenangqondo kakhulu, futhi unamahloni kakhulu, uhlanganyele emincintiswaneni futhi ukhululeke.
Manje ake sikhulume ngendlela yokuhlangana nezivakashi ezincane. Okokuqala, ungakhohlwa ukuthi usuku lokuzalwa kwengane yakho liholide lezingane. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukuba uyikhethe isikhathi semini. Zama ukuba nesikhathi sokwenza konke ngaphambi kokufika kwezivakashi. Laba bantu abadala bangalinda ngokuthula, baphuze ubhiya futhi bakhulume ekhishini, futhi izingane zidinga ukugubha, ngakho ungabalindi. Hlangana nezingane nengane ezandleni zabo. Kufanele baqonde ukuthi beza kuleli holide ngokuqondile kumntanakho futhi akunandaba ukuthi usemncane kakhulu. Uma wenza konke wena, khona-ke, izingane zithola ukuthi ingane yakho ayihilelekile eholidini, futhi bayoyeka ukumlalela. Uma bezobona futhi bakhumbule ukuthi lo ngumfana wokuzalwa, izingane zizodlala ndawonye, zijabulisa ingane yakho futhi zimnake.
Ngokuqondene netafula lokugubha, kufanele lihlanganiswe ukuze izingane zibe nendawo yomdlalo. Uma unezindlu ezinkulu, kungcono ukubeka itafula ekamelweni elilodwa, kanti okwesibili kuzithathele imidlalo. Ngakho-ke, abantu abadala bazokwazi ukukhuluma okungenani ngokuthula kancane, futhi izingane zizodlala futhi zijabule ndawonye. Kuphela, kuyadingeka ukuthi amakamelo ayeseduze. Ngakho-ke, akudingeki ugijime nxazonke endlini ukubuka. Ingabe konke ok nezingane. Kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi kufanele wenze lokhu, ngoba, njengoba wazi, lezi zingane azikwazi ukushiywa zingalindelwe isikhathi eside.
Uma leyo ndawo ingavumeli, zama ukubeka itafula endaweni ethile eduze nodonga ukushiya isikhala esikhululekile ngangokunokwenzeka. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi izingane zidinga isikhala. Uma ucindezela ikamelo ngezihlalo nezinye ifenisha, ukudlala, izingane zingalimala. Besazi ukuthi bangazilawula kanjani, ngakho-ke, phakathi nomdlalo bangagxuma ezihlalweni, bazibeke imivimbo futhi bathole izibhamu. Futhi ngokwemvelo awufuni neze. Ngakho-ke, zama ukuhlela isikhala ngendlela efanele.
Manje ake sihambe ngqo endabeni yetafula futhi sithinte. Khumbula ukuthi izivakashi zakho zingabantwana, ngakho zonke izitsha akufanele zibe ezihlwabusayo kuphela, kodwa futhi zithakazelise futhi zihle. Uma ulandela imithetho embalwa nje elula, zonke izingane zizojabula futhi zijabule. Ngakho, ukubeka itafula nezihlalo, qiniseka ukuthi izingane akudingeki zikhuphuke. Uma itafula lingekho kude ne-sideboard, ngokushesha uthole zonke izitsha ezidingekayo, ngakho akudingeki uphazamise izivakashi phakathi nomkhosi. Lapho izingane zivuka etafuleni ukudlala, susa amapuleti namafoloko. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi izingane zisebenza kakhulu, ngakho-ke, zingakwazi ukuphula okuthile noma ukuzishiya ngokwazo. Ngakho, uzothola kokubili izingane nezinsizakalo. Futhi uma befuna ukudla, faka izinto zokusebenza ezihlanzekile.
Imenyu yeholidi ingcono ibe yizingxenye eziningana. Isibonelo, ekuqaleni, ungakwazi ukukhonza ama-saladi nokudla okubandayo. Khona-ke, thatha isikhala lapho ungabamba khona imincintiswano ehlukahlukene yezingane. Emva kwalokho, ungakwazi ukukhonza okushisayo. Ngemuva kokushisa, vumela izingane zidlale ngokwanele futhi zigijimele ukwenza ukudla zihlale phansi, futhi indawo yokudada ibonakala esiswini. Yiqiniso, ngemva kokushukela, ungabamba imincintiswano embalwa, uhlele ikhonsathi, ngokujwayelekile, ujabule izingane futhi ubashiye ngezinkumbulo ezinhle zeholide.
Ngendlela, ngaphambi kokulungiselela izitsha, kungaba kuhle ukwazi ukuthi izingane zinezinambuzane emikhiqizo ethile. Uma ngabe inkinga enjalo ikhona, kungcono ukukhipha lezi zitsha kusukela kwimenyu yonke. Kuzingane akuzange kuhlambalaze ukuthi abanye abantu bangadla okuthile, abanye bangakwazi.
Futhi ekugcineni, eholidini lezingane akudingekile ukuba ukhathazeke ngokweqile ngenxa yesimiso futhi usakaze amadivaysi ngokuvumelana nayo yonke imithetho. Izingane zizoba namapulangwe anele, izinkezo kanye namafoloko. Konke okudingayo ukusika kunquma ngokwakho kuqala. Ngakho-ke, uzovikela izingane futhi ungabesabi ngokukhetha okukhulu kwamadivayisi abangeke bakwazi ukusingatha.