Indlela yokuthola abangane abalungile nabangane abaningi

Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi ngokushintshwa kwesimo senhlalakahle, isiyingi sethu soxhumana nabo sishintsha ngokungazelelwe. Izolo ungumfundi we-clockwork noma isisebenzi se-ambitious office. Zonke izihlwa nangezimpelasonto zingezakho. Ukushada, kusihlwa usuvele usendaweni esheshayo. Imibuthano yamakhomishana kanye nama-discotheques nezintombi ezingashadile ziba yinto engavamile. Izinguquko ngokuphawulekayo esimweni, uma ukhulelwa, kanye nangemva kokubeletha. Ukuqomisana kwangaphambili kuyinto eyedlule. Futhi amantombazane amaningi anenkinga, ukuthola abangane abalungile nabangane abaningi emva komshado noma ukuzalwa kwengane.

Ukuphila kuyashintsha

Ngokushesha amantombazane amaningi ashada. Ngemuva kokungena empilweni yakho, othandekayo unezintshisekelo ezintsha zomndeni. Ezingxenyeni zabangane abangani bakho namantombazane abo wanezelwa. Wenza uhambo oluhlangene ehlobo ngama-Kayaks. Fry shish kebabs ehlathini lasebusika enezintaba zeqhwa ezingashintshi kanye nenqwaba-encane e-snowdrift. Siphuthumisa kumakhonsathi wezintandokazi zakho zezintandokazi - enkampanini engenandaba ukuthi kuyamnandi futhi iyathokozisayo - konke kokubili, okuncane futhi okunamandla.

Futhi bheka ulinde ingane - ushintsho olusha, kulindeleke futhi olungalindelekile ngesikhathi esifanayo. Ukukhathazeka nokungabaza, izinguquko enhlalakahleni nasemzimbeni, ukulinganiselwa kwemvelo kwengqondo kanye nokusola kwesintu. Konke lokhu kuholela ekushintsheni okwehlukile esikhathini esidlule sokungena kanye nendilinga yokuxhumana. Ukudansa kuze kube sekuseni ku-club egcwala ubusi, ukuchoboza okujabulisayo kwi-rink kanye nezinye izinto ezithokozisayo manje zihlala zihlala isikhathi eside.

Awunamathuba okuhlangana, empilweni yabangane bokuqala besibeletho, izenzakalo zenzeka, lapho ungasekho. Ukuzethemba kwakho kukhubekile, bacasulwa ukusola kwakho nokuzwela ngokweqile. Kufika ukupholisa okungenakugwema ezimweni ezinjalo. Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Ungakugcina kanjani futhi uthole abangane abasha abakuhle ukukuqonda ngezwi lesigamu? Izikhala embuthanweni ovamile onobungane, obangelwa ushintsho okwesikhashana empilweni, ezithakazelisayo namathuba, okwesabisa, okwenyusa futhi okudinga ukubuyiswa kabusha. Noma yiluphi ushintsho esimweni esijwayelekile alukwazi kodwa lusizi.

Futhi kuyize. Ungathukutheli futhi ekugcineni ungcwatshise kangaka othandekayo kanye ebuhlotsheni bakho benhliziyo. Lesi simo ngeke sihlale isikhathi eside. Abaningi bakho bangabangani bakho bangaphambili, bazolalela ngokukhethekile iseluleko sakho. Bazobuyela futhi emphakathini wakho womphakathi futhi, kodwa nabayeni babo nezingane zabo. Okwamanje, kubalulekile ukubheka izici ezinhle esimweni esishintshile sokukhulumisana - abangane abasha, okungaziwa, okwenzekayo.

Ngingahlangana kuphi nabangane nabangane?

Abangane nabantu ababajwayele bangatholakala nomaphi lapho uya khona. Futhi imizila yakho nayo ishintshile. Ngakho-ke, manje usesikhathini, uqale, kokubonisana kwabesifazane. Indawo entsha. Lapha wawujwayele ukuba kanye ngonyaka ukuhlolwa kwezokwelapha futhi ungahlali isikhathi eside. Manje konke kuhlukile. Awuzizwa uqiniseka kakhulu, bheka izindonga "ukufutheka okubukwayo" kwezinga elihlukile lobuciko futhi ulindele ukungazikhathi ezimnandi zokuhlola. Shiya izinqubo ezingathandeki isikhathi sabo. Bheka nxazonke. Qaphela omakhelwane - emideni yokuthandana iboshwe ngendlela engavumelani. Uhlale unesikhathi sokuya ekhaya, kodwa umbuthano wabajwayele udinga ukwandiswa. Futhi ngenxa yenjabulo, nangokuthi "ukushintshana ukuhlakanipha", nokusekelwa kokuziphatha, futhi nje ukuphazamisa. Mhlawumbe, uhla lwezihloko ekuqaleni lubonakala sengathi luncishisiwe ikakhulukazi ezihlokweni zezokwelapha. Okufanele ukwenze, wena emtholampilo. Kodwa lokhu kuphela ekuqaleni. Ukufunda nomunye eduze (futhi kuzodingeka uhlangane kaningi), uzothola ezinye izihloko nezinketho zokuxhumana. Esikhathini sokudlela esiseduze ngenkezo yetiye, isibonelo.

Siyaqhubeka. Kuphi? Yebo, esitolo. Ngokusho kwabaningi, ukukhulelwa kanye nokuzalwa kwengane esikhathini esizayo kuyisikhathi esihle kakhulu sokuthenga ezitolo. Cacisa amakheli ezitolo ezikhethekile nezindawo zokudlela eziphambili ukuze wazi kahle ukuthi ungaphila yini. Futhi-qhubeka phambili! Lapha uzosekelwa nabangane abadala, futhi abasha. Futhi ezitolo uzothola ngokuqinisekile ukuhlangabezana nabesifazane abathandekayo. Kuzokwazi ukuxoxa nabo ngokuklanywa kwephesenti kuphela kwengubo yehlobo elisha noma ukuthengiswa kwe-firm firm. Ubani othi ukuthengwa akuyona into ejabulisayo, uma uyifinyelela ngendlela engavamile, enambitha futhi enkampanini enhle?

Isikhathi esihle sabangane abasha sizokunikeza ukuhamba ebusuku. Uma ngaphambili ukuhamba kwakho kunomkhawulo ekusebenzeni kahle kahle komdlali ezindlebeni nohambo lokuthenga, manje uhamba ngokuzithokozisa kusihlwa. Hlola amehlo abahambahamba egcekeni, epaki. Akukhona nje kuphela kulabo abasesimweni esifanayo, kodwa nakomama abanabantwana abancane, abesifazane abathandekayo abadala emabhentshini. Ukuvela kokuzwelana okubukwayo okubonwayo, amagama ambalwa amnandi okwanele ukuqala ukujwayela okunzima. Uma ngabe omaziyo omusha ubonakala engadingekile, ungashintsha njalo indawo nesikhathi sokuhamba. Ukuze ujwayele abantu abaseduze nawe engqondweni, ungakwazi noma yikuphi.

I-Inthanethi isebenza kuwe

Kukhona nokuxhumana okusebenzayo kumasayithi e-intanethi. Ungazivumeli ukuvakashela imiphakathi ekhethekile, kodwa okuthakazelisayo imibono exoxwe ngazo. Yiba nengqondo, uzame wena noma omunye othandwayo emphakathini umqondo. Dlulisa amehlo kumasayithi amaningana adumile. Kusekelwe kuphela emiphumeleni yolwazi olubuyekezile futhi ngemva kokujwayela izincomo zalabo abahlola umqondo omusha kuwe, faka iziphetho zakho. Khetha i-block yolwazi olulungele wena, futhi wena kuphela - njengomuntu oyingqayizivele nowengqondo.

Unganakwa kuphela kumasayithi omama abalindele. Kodwa futhi emphakathini ngezihloko zengqondo yomndeni noma indlu. Kuyinto ejabulisayo njalo ukuxhumana nalabo abakanye nawe "esikebheni esifanayo." Akujabulisi yini "ukugeza amatshe" kanye nomamazala? Noma ukuxoxa ngezinketho zokugcina izindlu, ukushintshanisa izindlela zokupheka kanye nemibhalo yama-lullabies, ukuze nje uxhasane? Kodwa-ke, ngenkuthalo ukuxoxa ngesithangami somhlaba wonke lokhu noma inkinga yezindaba, ungakhohlwa ngemiphakathi yedolobha lakho. Ukuxhumana nezwe elikhulu kuyamnandi futhi kufundisa. Kodwa kuhle ngezinye izikhathi ukuphuma "kwiWeb Wide Web" futhi uhlangane "empilweni yangempela" nabantu obasha.

Ungasindiswa!

Ungakhohlwa mayelana nezithakazelo zangaphambili kanye nezokuzilibazisa, mayelana nokukhulisa izinga lobuqu lobuchwepheshe. Buka izindaba eziyinhloko nezithiyo zezindaba ezindabeni oyithandayo ngaphambili. Mhlawumbe, ngehora lesikhathi sokubeletha nesikhathi esiyinkinga ekuphumeni komzali, zonke izinto zokuzilibazisa zangaphambilini zibonakala zingabalulekile futhi zikude. Nokho, kholwa ukuthi lokhu akunjalo. Futhi isikhathi sihamba ngokushesha. Futhi ukusuka kolunye uhlobo lomsebenzi ukuya komunye kusiza ukuphazanyiswa ekukhathazekeni okungadingekile okudingekile kithi abaningi esikhathini sethu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuziqhenya ngokuzicabangela emndenini-isihloko sezingane, unenjabulo nokuzidela ngezandla zakho udala "isikhala" ozozama ukusibalekela kamuva.

Ingabe kufanelekile ukulinganisela ukuphila kwakho ngokucophelela? Khumbula ngalezozinto zokuzilibazisa, okwakungenaso isikhathi esiphila empilweni endala. Sebenzisa ngokunenzuzo izinguquko eziphakanyisiwe zokuphila futhi wenze amaphupho amadala agcwaliseke. Okungenani ezingeni lokuqoqa ulwazi mayelana nokusebenza kwamaphupho akho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukudweba nge-watercolor, ukudlala isiginci noma ukuxazulula i-theorem. Iphuzu akuyona nje umphumela, kodwa ngokuzigcina silungile kahle. Futhi lokhu kuqondiswa kakhulu ngokuxhumana nabantu abanomdlandla oseduze nawe nabantu. Ekuphileni kusekhona izinto eziningi ezimangalisayo, futhi ukukhulelwa kuthuthukisa impilo yakho. Ingabe kufanelekile ukuyisebenzisa njengesizathu sokuthi ulungise ifilakisi yendabuko nomzamo wokujwayela ukushiya konke okuhle ekuphileni "kamuva"? Futhi, njengoba wazi, izinto ezintsha zokuzilibazisa zingabangane abasha.

Ungalindeli inhlanhla njalo. Abangane asizitholi njalo kunoma yisiphi isikhathi sokuphila futhi sidinga njalo. Kungenzeka futhi ukuphazamiseka nokudumazeka, kodwa nokutholakala kwezipho ezimangalisayo ngendlela yokukhulumisana okungajwayelekile nabantu abanomqondo ofanayo. Kuyafaneleka ukuzama ukugcina ubuhlobo obufudumele nabangane abadala. Ekuphileni kuzoba nezinguquko eziningi. Futhi abangane beqiniso bahlala uma ubakhathalela kancane. Mhlawumbe awukhethiwe kaningi ukuze uthole ikhonsathi yomculo noma ipikinikini. Kodwa-ke, ungamema abangani bakho kusihlwa itiye elikhethekile noma i-pie ngokusho iresiphi yokuqala. Buka ifilimu entsha, uhlangane embukisweni omusha, owakuzwile ngakho, futhi uxoxe endaweni ekhululekile.

Isihloko esikhethekile ukuthi ungagcina kanjani labo bahlobo, abathandekayo kuwe, kodwa okwamanje, noma kunjalo, ngeke bathole izingane? Nakani! Ungabeki izintombi ezingenabantwana zifanele kuwe izihloko zokuxhumana. Le mibuzo uzoxoxa ngayo kwenye umbuthano. Buza kuphela ukuthi umngane wakho unesithakazelo sini nokuthi ubumbene ngani ngaphambili. Mbuze mayelana nezinkinga nezokuzilibazisa. Kodwa ungazitholi imibuzo efana nale: "Hhayi, futhi ungubani?" Futhi amazwana afanayo. Kuyaqondakala ukuthi isifiso sakho intombi yakhe sigcwele injabulo njengawe. Kodwa ukubuka kwakho ngenjabulo akudingeki njalo ukuba ubhekane nakho. Ayikwazanga ukumelana, futhi ubizwa ngokuthi, "okufakiwe"? Ngesizotha futhi ngokumomotheka uxolise ngokungahambisani kwakho, lapho ungagcina ekugcineni. Isiphetho somngani ibhizinisi lakhe, futhi awunalo ilungelo lokumtshela. Kodwa umngane kufanele anikwe ukuzwa okungalungile kwamazwi emoyeni: "Awu, kungani wawudinga?". Ukuhloniphana kuyisisekelo esingcono kakhulu sobuhlobo kunoma yisiphi isikhathi sokuphila.

Uma isimo sempilo singakubangeli izinkinga ezikhethekile, qhubekani nendlela yokuphila enkampanini evamile. Uma ukuphola okufanayo akulethi injabulo yokukhulumisana - ungakhathazeki! Uma uzama, uzophinde uthole abangane abalungile nabangane abaningi. Ukugcina abangane bamdala nokujwayele ukujwayelana nabantu abasha, impilo yakho iyoba yincithakalo nenjabulo yokuxhumana kwabantu.