Ngokuvamile kufakwe kubo igama elithi "uthando". Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakunamandla kangakanani futhi kubonakala kungenakwenzeka, ukuphikisana okuvela emanzini amaningi ngesisekelo sokungathembeki nokuphinga kwenza umsebenzi wabo: uthando luyafa, futhi lubuhlungu obukhulu. Ngakho-ke, imibhangqwana ethile yenza okuningi okungenabungozi ku-psyche futhi, ngokudabukisayo, ngezinye izikhathi inhlobo yobuhlobo obude - ubudlelwano obukhululekile. Ngempela, lapho abantu bengabheki izibopho eziningi komunye nomunye, kukhululekile kakhulu ukuba bahlanganyele, futhi izikhathi zokuxabana zivela kancane kakhulu, ngakho-ke isikhathi sabo sanda.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, izazi ze-psychologist ziyazi lesi senzakalo, okusho ukuthi isetshenziswe kanjani ekuphileni kwansuku zonke: "Isithelo esivinjelwe sinomusa." Vimbela umuntu ukuba enze noma yini, futhi uzocabangela kuphela ukuthi angayiphika kanjani, kodwa makenze lokho okumele kuvunyelwe - ngakho akwenzeki ukuba asebenzise le mvume!
Manje ake sikhulume ngendlela yokuziphatha ngokukhululekile futhi, eqinisweni, kuyini. Eqinisweni, abafani ngokweqile nobuhlobo obuvamile nomqondo owodwa kuphela ukuthi bobabili abalingani ababophelelane kakhulu kangangokuba besaba ukuhamba. Mhlawumbe othile uzophikisa: ingabe lolu thando? Phakathi naleso sikhathi, akukho ukucaciswa okucacile, okwesayensi kakhulu kwegama elithi "uthando". Wonke umuntu udala incazelo yakhe, futhi bheka esinye isaga siyadingeka: bangaki abantu, imibono eminingi kangaka. Okumangalisa ukuthi ungamhlonipha umuntu, ujabulele ukuba khona kwakhe, kodwa uqaphele ngengqondo yakho ukuthi ukuxhumeka okunamandla kunamandla kakhulu, ngakho-ke kungcono futhi kumnandi nakakhulu ukunambitheka izikhathi ezimnandi zobungane ezinxenyeni ezincane kunokugwinya konke okuphelele. Ngakho-ke, akudingekile ukucela umuntu othandekayo ukuzinikela okuphakade, kodwa ukujabulela umzuzu ngenkathi ewukuthi, ukulungiswa ngokwengqondo ngenxa yokukhetha okungcono kakhulu - ukuhlukanisa.
Njengoba imibhangqwana eminingi iziphatha ngokukhululekile, umuntu angabona isibonelo salabo abangacabangi ukushada, kodwa baqhubeke behlangana. Babuye bange ngentshiseko, bethandana, bethandana ngothando, kodwa bengakacabangi ngezingane kanye nomndeni. Lapho intombazane ikhuluma nomunye umfana, isoka lakhe lingabi nomhawu nhlobo, ngoba uyaqonda ukuthi ungumngane nje, futhi akakwazi ukufeza impumelelo efanayo nentombi yakhe, afike kuyo. Yena naye uyakwazisa umngane wakhe njengomngane, kodwa hhayi njengomuntu ongase abe ngumfana. Bangakwazi ukuhamba ngokuphepha ezinkampanini, ezibandakanya kokubili amantombazane nabafana, hhayi neze ukwesaba ukuhlubuka, noma kunalokho - ngaphandle kokucabanga ngakho. Imibhangqwana yendabuko izama ukugwema imikhosi enjalo, njengoba yesaba ukuthi enye ingxenye yawo "iyoyithatha" umuntu. Nakuba le ntombazane ingakwazi ukunqoba izifiso zesikhashana, izifiso, izilingo, kepha, uma ucabanga ngenhloko ekhukhumezekile, iyoqonda ukuthi isoka lakhe lisengcono kakhulu. Lezi zinsuku kumele ziqonde nokuthi ukumelana nesilingo akulula ukuthi uyakwazi ukuhlubuka, ngakho-ke umuntu kufanele abhekane nokuhlukumeza kwentombazane futhi abathethelele. Ababhangqwana abanobudlelwane obukhululekile bayaqaphela ukuthi ingxenye yesilwane yomuntu eyasebenza ngaphezu kwezigidi zeminyaka yokuziphendukela kwemvelo yenkambiso yabantu ayikwazanga ukumiswa, futhi lokhu kufanele kuvunywe. Ngakho-ke, abathandabuzi ngenhloso yokuphinga, kodwa baphatha njengento yesibili, okungahle kwenzeke kubo bonke abantu, babelane ngokucacile uthando nocansi, ukuqonda ukuthi ubulili bungenziwa futhi hhayi ngomuntu othandekayo, kodwa kuphela.
Izazi zengqondo ziyazi kahle ukuthi abantu abaningi bayazizwa ngezikhathi ezibucayi, izinguquko ezithandweni, ukubonakala okusha, ukuhlukahluka, ikakhulukazi ebuhlotsheni, ngisho noma konke lokhu kuletha ukuhlupheka. Amantombazane angaphezu kwamantombazane okwenza lokhu: ukukhala emcongeni osuka kolunye ugwayi, basasajabula. Lapha isaga esilandelayo sifanelekile: abathandekayo bafunga - bahlangana kuphela. Amabili, lapho ukuvumelana okungafani khona kubusa khona, ubushelelezi ebuhlotsheni, ubushelelezi - ukubola okusheshayo. Labo abakha ubudlelwane bamahhala bayaqonda ukuthi banesidingo sokuthola izinzwa ezintsha ezangezela ubuningi, inzalo kanye nokunambitheka empilweni yabo. Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuqalekisa ngenxa yokwetshana komunye nomunye ngomzamo wokungathengi, banelisekile, banelungelo lokuziphatha, bavumele ukuqhuma futhi baqhubeke behlangana, njengokungathi akukho okwenzekile.
Ubuhlobo bamahhala buyindlela enhle kulabo abangayikuqala umndeni nezingane esikhathini esizayo. Kodwa zidinga isimo sengqondo esikhethekile sengqondo nokulungiselela ukuziphatha. Ukuvimbela umhawu ongenakulungiswa, futhi okwenziwe ngezakhi zofuzo, akulula, kodwa abanye bayakwazi ukwenza lokhu, ngaleyo ndlela banqanda imithombo eyinhloko yokungavumelani. Ubudlova noma ubudlelwane obukhululekile bukhona ngokuphelele ohlelweni lwesimiso - wonke umuntu uyazikhethela yena, nakuba kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi ukuhlaselwa komphakathi kwalesi simo, okwenzeka eminyakeni eminengi eyedlule, eminyakeni yobusha besizukulwane esidala, manje sekungenwe imvume yokuthula, ngoba iminyaka, abantu kanye ubudlelwano phakathi kwabo.