... Kodwa isizungu sinhle kakhulu
Kunezinhlobo zamakilasi kanye nezimo lapho ukuhlala khona kuyisimo esibalulekile. Sizodinga nini ukuba sodwa nathi? Okokuqala, uma kunenkinga noma inkinga kuvuthwa: noma umsebenzi awuwuthandi, noma awuhambisani nempilo. Kubonakala sengathi kungani uhlala wedwa nezinkinga zakho? Ngempela, abanye bangasiza, baphazamise. Ukuphazamisa - yebo, kodwa kusadingeka wenze isinqumo, kodwa lokhu kuyadingeka ucabange ngokucophelela, ungene, ugxile. Kungenzeka kuphela ekusongeni: ukukala ubunzima nokuqhaqhazela, ukubhekana nemizwelo, ngaphandle kokubhekana nokucindezelwa abanye ngokukhululeka nangokuzibophezela. Ukuze uqaphele okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo, amahora asekuseni afaneleka, isibonelo, uma udlula ingxenye yendlela yokusebenza ngezinyawo. Kodwa kusihlwa, ukuzihlola okunjalo kunganciphisa ubuthongo ngokuphelele.
Ukwehliswa okwesikhashana yinjongo yokuphila iningi lethu , kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kuyasiza uma ucasuliwe kakhulu. Akukhathaleki ukuthi ubani obangela lo mzwelo omubi. Imizwelo inesakhiwo esidluliselwayo, thina, njengokungathi, siphethe abanye abazungezile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma uhaqwe abantu, kunzima ukuza nokuthula kwengqondo. Uzenza sengathi konke kulungile, futhi uthola ngokwengeziwe ngaphezulu. Sula yonke into, futhi ukuxabana kuphume.
Ngokwezibalo, amadoda omndeni ahlala iminyaka eyishumi kunamadoda angashadile. Abesifazane abanalo ubuhlobo obunjalo, futhi iningi lezinyanga ezide lingakashadi. Ngakho-ke kuvela ukuthi abesifazane besinezici ezahlukene zokuhlala ndawonye babangela imizwelo enamandla kakhulu, eyingozi empilweni. Ngakho-ke, ukuze sithuthukise isimiso sezinzwa, sidinga nje ukuhamba singene sisodwa ngezikhathi ezithile, ngokuqondile, sisodwa sisuka kumlingani wakho, ngisho nosithandwa kakhulu.
Ingabe ufuna ukuqhuba ukuzindla? Ukuphumula okuphelele komzimba, ukuphumula emicabangweni nasezindaweni ezizungezile - ungafinyelela kulesi simo kuphela ngokuyeka ukuzilawula, ukuqapha ukuziphatha kwakho. Ngenkathi sizungezwe abanye abantu, cishe akunakwenzeka ukwenza lokhu - sizobe sibhekana ngokucophelela: "Abanye bacabangani ngami?" Yiqiniso, kunezivivinyo ezikhethekile ezikuvumela ukuba uthathe umhlalaphansi ngaphandle kokushiya iqembu. Isibonelo, cabanga ukuthi phakathi kwakho nabalingani bakho kukhona udonga olusheshayo lwengilazi eqinile ye-frosted. Ungayigcina ingqondo ngokugcwele, ukuze ungazwa lutho, futhi ngalesi sikhathi uzilungiselele iseshini esincane sokuphumula. Kodwa konke okufanayo, kungcono uma ubumfihlo bungokoqobo: ngisho nangamahora amathathu okuphumula okuphelele uzothola imali enhle futhi uphumule. Yebo, futhi ozakwabo akudingeki bazibuze ukuthi kungani wena, ukumomotheka ngokujabulisayo, ubuke iphuzu elilodwa.
Okokugcina, umuntu ongenqunyelwe ekukhulumeni uyakwazi ukuphumelela okukhulu. Ukuzizwa yedwa kuyisisusa esinamandla kunawo wonke amandla okudala nokuzithuthukisa. Ukuba nesizungu wonke umuntu uyasetshenziswa, ngoba isizungu sinenjongo yokuphila iningi lethu. Futhi kuyasiza kokubili kokuzithandela futhi kuphoqelelwe ukuba yedwa, uma, isibonelo, uphikisana nabantu abaseduze. Lokhu kungenxa yokuvimbela izidingo. Ngifuna ukuthi ukhulume nomuntu, uhleke, endaweni ethile ongayenza noma wenze uthando, hhayi noma ubani. Lokhu kubangela ukuhlukunyezwa kokuqala, -ukuthukuthela futhi, ekugcineni - ukuncipha kwemizwelo nokunganaki. Bese uthi kuwe: "Konke. Kwanele ngokwanele." Kumelwe senze okuthile! " - futhi uqale ukubheka ngokuziphatha ngokuziphatha kwakho, uhambe namandla ukushintsha, futhi uthole indlela yokuphuma kweso simo. Phela, ukuhlala wedwa kuyasiza kuphela uma uyithatha ngokucophelela, ngenkululeko yokuzikhethela, futhi inomhlahlandlela ocacile, kufaka phakathi okwesikhashana. Kungenjalo, leli zwe lizophendukela kolunye uhlangothi - isizungu.
O, nesizungu, ukuthi uhlamvu lwakho luhle kanjani!
Ukuntula intukuthelo ukuntuleka kokuxhumana kanye nomoya ophansi. Futhi uma ukuhlukana kubantu kuhlala isikhathi eside (kangangokuthi umuntu uqala ukubona lokhu njengenkinga), khona-ke nje isimo sengqondo esibi sizoshintshwa ngokucindezeleka nokucindezeleka. Umuntu ongashadile angabonakala kalula ngisho nasesixukwini: izingxenyana zakhe zezindebe ziyancipha, imibimbi, ibala elibomvu kanye nomhlane we-sutured kubonakala ngokugqamile. Ochwepheshe emkhakheni wezokwelapha kwengqondo kanye nomlobi wencwadi ethi "Inhliziyo Ephukile: Imiphumela Yezokwelashwa Yesizungu" UJames Lynch uthi uma umuntu ezwa yedwa enesizungu, engamelana nokutheleleka kangako, ephakeme kakhulu kuye ukuba abe nengozi yokuthuthukisa izifo ezihlukahlukene ezingapheli, ezihlanganisa nesifo senhliziyo. Futhi ngisho nezifo ezingokwemvelo, ngokusho kwososayensi, zisekelwe emizweni yazo ehambisana nesizungu: ukuphelelwa ithemba, ukuhlambalaza, ukuzithoba.
Akukade kudala, izazi zengqondo zezenhlalakahle, ukutadisha izinkinga zesizungu, zenze ukuhlolwa kwamagundane. Amagundane amaningana atshalwe emasimini angenalutho futhi afike kubo inyanga kuphela ukuze banike ukudla. Enye iqembu lezinkukhu laholela ekuphileni okuvamile, ukuxhumana nomakhelwane egodini, ukuzijabulisa ngesiteji kanye namanye amathoyizi. Khona-ke wonke amagundane asulelekile ngegciwane lesandulela ngculazi. Kulabo ababehlala ndawonye, akusiwo wonke umuntu otheleleke, kanti abanye baphinde bafika ngokushesha. Kodwa abagulayo bodwa babegula kakhulu, benenkinga kanye nokufa kweziningana. Isiphetho: ngisho namagundane adinga ukuthi umuntu abe khona, ngesikhathi sokugcoba ngobuningi bese ekhuphula okuthile okukhuthazayo. Yini esingayisho ngabantu!
Ingabe ufuna ukuxhumana? Chofoza lapha!
Mhlawumbe insindiso ekukhulumisaneni okungokoqobo? Imfashini yezwe yokuxhumana nabantu ibuyele eYurophu: 43% yabasebenzisa i-intanethi bavakashela njalo izinsiza zabo ezizithandayo. Futhi kubonakala kungavamile ukukhuluma ngesizungu, uma ungakwazi ukuxhumana nanoma ubani nanoma yisiphi isikhathi. Eqinisweni, kuphela izinyanga ezingu-3-4 kuphela umuntu enelisekile ngokuxhumana okunjalo, umqondo wokuphila okuphelele. Khona-ke kufika ukukhathala nokudumazeka okuthile. Labo abaqala ikhasi ngaphandle kokuthakazelisa (thola abangane basendulo, bona obani ababa ngubani), bakhathazeke ngalokhu kancane. Kodwa abantu abaye bazama ukubalekela ngale ndlela kusukela enesizungu basuke bebi kakhulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kufika ukuqonda ukuthi kufanele sikwaneliswe kuphela ukukhulumisana kokuxhumana, ngakolunye uhlangothi - kuncike ekutheni: akusekho omunye. Ngo-1995, uRandy Conrad, umsunguli wenethiwekhi yokuqala, wayengalindelanga inkinga enjalo ukuba iphakame: "Amanethiwekhi kufanele akhuthaze umsebenzi wezenhlalo, awuvuselele, kodwa empeleni ayewushintsha."
Ithelevishini nayo yenza konke ukusindisa abantu ekubeni yedwa, kuze kube yilapho engaphumeleli. Ukubukeka kweqiniso, ukukhulumisana nabethuli emoyeni, nasemasendleleni ngemuva kochungechunge - konke lokhu kunikeza umqondo wesikhashana wokuba khona, ukuxhumana. Nakuba sisezingeni eliphakeme kakhulu lomhlaba wesilwane, sisekhona ngokuphelele. Ngakho, ngokuvumelana nathi ngokwemvelo nangokwemvelo, asinakho okuncane okuphathelene nokuxhumana okungokoqobo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sichitha kangakanani igundane, kuyoba kubi futhi kube nesizungu kithi. Sidinga abantu abaphilayo ukuba babheke emehlweni, bazizwe ukuzwa kwabo, babone ukuthinta, bazizwe ukuthinta. Ngakho-ke, njengoba sijabule ngokuhlala sisodwa futhi sithole kuye zonke izinzuzo, kufanele siphinde siphume ezweni futhi sakhe ubuhlobo nabanye. Phela, kuphela ekukhulumisaneni okuphilayo singajabula ngokugcwele.
Yini okufanele uhlale "eyodwa ngakunye"?
Kukhona izinto ukuthi noma ngubani kithi ozosiza ekubhekaneni nesizungu noma ... ujabulele wedwa lapho ubusika obude obusika. Abaningi baphila ngesizungu. Ingabe iningi lingaba nenjongo yokuphila iningi lethu? Ngeshwa, yebo. Kodwa ungakwazi ukulwa nalo.
Le ncwadi
Ungakhetha okuthile ngegama elithakazelisayo njenge "Indlela yokukhipha isizungu ezinsukwini ezingu-10." Kodwa mhlawumbe inengqondo kakhulu eyashicilelwa ngalesi sihloko ku-ikhava elithambile yinto ekahle "Indlela yokunqoba abangane" nguD. Carnegie. Kunzima ukuphikisana neqiniso lokuthi sonke sithanda, sibona ubuso obomomothekayo futhi usitshele ngathi. Qala kabusha imemori yemithetho elula yokuxhumana. Ungalinganiselwe esiqondisweni esiwusizo futhi ufunde kabusha "Iminyaka Eyinkulungwane Yesizungu" nguG. Marquez. Incwadi mayelana nokuthi ngamunye kithi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bangaki abantu abazungezile, ekugcineni, uhlala yedwa nempilo yakhe, esidlule nangesikhathi esizayo.
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Ukuma okunomgodi phakathi phakathi kwama-charlottes amnandi, izidleke ezithokozile zama-muffin, izimo ezihlekisayo ezinhlobonhlobo zezinhliziyo nezinye izibalo - ezinjalo ezihlukahlukene "abasizi" be-cultinary ngokoqobo baqhubezela ukwakha ubuciko obuhle kakhulu ngezandla zabo. Engeza izinongo: i-vanilla, i-sinamoni, futhi emahoreni ambalwa ekhishini lakho kuyoba nomkhathi ongenakuqhathaniswa weholidi. Izitolo ezenziwe ekhaya zizojabula futhi zikhulule umuzwa wokulangazelela.