Sizobona ukuthi hlobo luni lobuhlobo obungazakhela nendoda enkulu kunawe. Futhi sizothola ukuphuma okuzosiza ukunqoba izithiyo abanye abakulungisele zona.
Ubudlelwane nabangani bakho bukhumbula nokuthi ubuhlobo nomuntu buncane kangakanani. Kukhona abesifazane abakulungele ukunikeza uthando, bahloniphe futhi banakekele indoda. Bangabizwa ngokuthi "umama" womuntu. Abafuni lutho kumuntu, banikeza kuphela. Futhi labo besifazane abafuna nje ukushada, abanandaba nabancane noma abadala.
Amadoda angaphansi kwabesifazane abakhuthele futhi abazimisele ukufika ezindaweni eziphakeme, noma abazinzile futhi abanalo imigomo ethile. Lawo madoda ahlonipha owesifazane osemdala kunabo, awanandaba, ahlukumezekile futhi angenakwenzeka. Kodwa kukhona namadoda abheka abesifazane abasebancane kunabo ngokwabo noma ubudala obufana nobunengqondo nabangenalutho, futhi ngokuvuthiwe bathola abesifazane abafundele, abazethembayo.
Ubudlelwane nomuntu omncani kunawe nakho kunezinzuzo zabo. Kulula ukuphatha, ufundise konke ofuna ukukubona. Bangakwazi "ukudweba" indoda ekahle kuwe. Kulobudlelwane, ungumholi futhi ungenza noma yini. Amadoda anjalo asenaso isipiliyoni empilweni, futhi nabo uqala ukuphinde usemusha. Uphila. Ngenxa yamandla abo amancane, uphefumulela impilo entsha.
Futhi ukwehluleka kobuhlobo obunjalo ukuthi badinga ukuchitha amandla amaningi. Isimo sakho sezinto ezibonakalayo sizolahlekelwa nokulahleka. Ubudlelwane nabantu abanjalo abavamile ukufika emshadweni noma ubuhlobo obunzima. Badinga ukunakekelwa okuningi engxenyeni yakho, futhi kufanele uhambisane nabo. Futhi-ke, abantu abakuzungezile bazobe bephikisana nobuhlobo bakho namadoda anjalo.
Uma, noma kunjalo, wanquma ukuthola umthandi osemusha noma wanquma ukwakha ubuhlobo naye, bese umsiza ukuba "eme ngezinyawo zakhe". Uma enabangane, phakathi kwabo kukhona abesifazana, bese wenza kanjalo ukuthi abangekho. Thatha abancintisana nabo. Kuye ungathumuleka ngokuphepha, uthele emphakathini wakhe. Ungalokothi ugcizelele iminyaka yakhe, njengoba lokhu kungamcasula. Phela, akayena onjengobuhle njengoba ukhona, ufunda nje. Masizwe sengathi ungumuntu wangempela, umholi ebuhlotsheni bakho.
Uma umthanda umuntu wakho wangempela, khona-ke akufanele ubhekane nanoma yiziphi izithiyo futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usemncane, noma ngaphezulu, into esemqoka uthando nokuqonda.