Ake sibuke lesi simo futhi sibheke indlela yokuphuma ngayo. Ngiyakwazi ukukutshela kuphela ngami okwenzeka kimi, indlela yokuphuma kweso simo lapho umyeni engafuni ukusebenza kuyintandokazi bobabili bomshado.
Esikhathini sethu, lapho owesifazane ejwayele ukubonisa ukulingana nendoda, sekuvele kunzima kunoma ubani ukuba amangale ukuthi uqala ukuzinakekela yena kuphela, kodwa kumyeni wakhe, ukuzibophezela ngomthwalo wempahla yomndeni. Ngokuvamile, umyeni ongafuni ukusebenza uhlobo lwamadoda okuthiwa i-gigolo, futhi, njengomthetho, adonsa futhi adakiwe (ngesizathu esithile eRussia kwakunjalo). Kwenzeka, njalo njalo, ukuthi umfazi akalokothi akhangwe yizinkathazo nezinkinga zekhaya futhi umyeni uthatha indawo yakhe emndenini.
Uma lesi simo sezindaba sifanelana bobabili bomshado, kungani bengashintshi indima. Indoda izothatha izingane nokugcina indlu, futhi umfazi uzokwenza umsebenzi ehhovisi noma ekukhiqizeni.
Uma kunjalo kunesimo sakho, kungani ungatshintshi izindima?
Umyeni uzoba ngumgcini wezindlu, nomfazi, okungukuthi, wena-umthengisi. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu kuyokuhambisana nawe kokubili.
Uma konke kungalungile kuwe, futhi umyeni ngesibindi akafuni ukusebenza, efuna izizathu eziqhubekayo futhi enza i-parasitism, ukudakwa; khona-ke udinga ukuthatha izinqumo zamakhadikhadi.
Okokuqala, zicacise ukuthi umyeni wakho awusizo ukubona nokuphoqelela ukubheka umsebenzi ovela ngaphansi komuthi. Qala ukuzibandakanya ngokwakho intandokazi nezingane, uyeke ukuphatha nokwazisa umyeni. Unezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu okumelwe ukwenze naye. Udinga ukwakha umsebenzi, uqhubeke phambili enkonzweni.
Uma umyeni wakho engeyena oyisiwula nhlobo, futhi engalahlekelwa ikhono lokucabanga ngendlela efanele, khona-ke ukuziphatha kwakho kufanele kumenze acabange. Mhlawumbe umyeni wami, nakuba engafuni ukusebenza, kodwa kuzomele enze okungenani imizamo yokuhlala phansi futhi asebenze isikhashana. Mhlawumbe umyeni wakho uzothola impela indawo yakhe emakethe yezabasebenzi futhi uzothola, ngaphezu kwezinto ezibonakalayo, nokugcwala kokuziphatha. Khumbula, ungalwi futhi ungapheleli ngokumelene nomoya, ukumemeza nokuhlambalaza nomyeni wakho ukuthi akafuni ukusebenza. Qaphela izinzwa zakho. Ziyaziwa ukuthi zingabuyiselwa. Umyeni wakho akakwazi ukufundiswa kabusha, ngoba usemdala futhi ukhululekile ukulahla impilo yakhe njengoba ethanda.
Uma ufinyelela iphuzu lokubilisa ngoba umyeni wakho akafuni ukusebenza futhi angeke athathe izinyathelo zokukuhlangabeza, khona-ke unezinqumo ezimbili:
- Owokuqala ukufuna omunye umlingani wokuphila, ngoba umyeni wakho ukungaqondi kahle nokuphutha.
- okwesibili: mhlawumbe awuboni imizamo eyenziwa ngumyeni wakho ukulungisa isimo. Uphelelwe umsebenzi futhi uphelela kukho ukunganaki kwakho kusuka empilweni.
Noma mhlawumbe kungcono ukuthi ahlale nawe futhi ngezindleko zakho. Unokukhetha okubili ukuthi uqhubeke unomthwalo wemfanelo, noma ukuphula lo mjikelezo wezehlakalo. Yebo, futhi ujwayele ukujwayela lapho umuntu ezinakekela wena ngomndeni, futhi uma lo muntu, kulokhu, uyayinakekela umndeni, kungani kufanele umyeni wakho aphume esikhumbeni sakhe. Unomsebenzi omuhle kulokhu kuphila, usebenza, futhi uhlala ekhaya. Qhathanisa amaqiniso, cabanga. Nquma. Ukuzikhethela kungokwakho. Zama ukunikeza umyeni wakho ithuba elilodwa lokugcina. Lokho esihogweni akusiyikuhleka. Mhlawumbe uzophumelela, abe ngumuntu osebenzayo ojwayelekile, inhloko yomndeni wakho nobaba omuhle wezingane zakho.