Kungani umuntu ekhuluma ngaye ngokwakhe kumuntu wesithathu?
Imvelo ingamcasula kakhulu le ndlela yokuxhumana. Vumelana, kubonakala kungavamile lapho umuntu ojwayelekile ngokuzumayo athi: "U-Andrew usekhathele ukusebenza" esikhundleni sokuthi "Ngikhathele kakade ukusebenza."
Ngaphambi kokuba uqaphele ngokucophelela, bheka ku-psychology yalokhu kuziphatha.
Kuyathakazelisa! Ososayensi bahlola ukuhlolwa kwengqondo okhethekile, abahlanganyeli abazama ukuzitshela ngabo kanye nemikhuba yabo kusukela kumuntu wokuqala, wesibili nowesithathu, kokubili kokuyingxenye kanye nangobuningi. Abahlanganyeli bokuzihlola ngokwabo bamangala lapho bethola ukuthi babe nemizwa ehluke ngokuphelele.
Uma umuntu ekhuluma ngaye ngokwakhe kumuntu wesithathu, esebenzisa isimemezelo esithi "Yena / Yena" esikhundleni sokuthi "Mina" noma azibiza ngegama, cishe cishe ukhuluma ngokuhlekisa ngokuphila kwakhe nemikhuba yakhe. Izazi zezinqondo zakwazi ukuveza ukuthi ukukhulumisana kuleli fomu kwenza kube lula ukudlulisela umgomo kanye nezithakazelo zomuntu ngokuphumelelayo ngangokunokwenzeka.
Kusukela ekubukeni kwengqondo, le ndlela yokukhuluma isho ukuthi umuntu uzibukela yena nesimo esingaphandle. Ngakho-ke, ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo kumlandisi kuncishisiwe, nakuba ehlala eqaphele futhi egxile. Abantu abanjalo bangakwazi ukuxazulula kalula noma iyiphi inkinga ephakama.
Ezinye imibono
Umbono ovame kakhulu wabanye uthi abantu abakhuluma ngabo ngokwabo kumuntu wesithathu, banokuzihlonipha kakhulu futhi abafaki konke okunye. Kuyavunywa, lesi sizathu asikho isabelo seqiniso.
Uma kuphazamiseka isikhulu noma umuntu ophethe isikhundla esiphakeme, angakwazi ngempela ukugcizelela ngokwengqondo ukubaluleka kanye negunya lakhe. Abanye baze bazikhulume ngokwabo ngobuningi, besebenzisa isimemezelo esithi "We". Yilabo abagcina ukuthi banomthelela kakhulu kangangokuthi abacabangi noma umbono noma izintshisekelo zabanye.
Kodwa abantu abavamile abakwenzeki ukuziphakamisa ngaphezu kwamanye, ukukhuluma ngempilo yabo nemisebenzi evela kumuntu wesithathu. Ngokuvamile indlela enjalo yokuxhumana isetshenziselwa ukukhombisa ukucasuka kwesimo sengqondo esikuthandayo.
Kungenzeka ukuthi umuntu uyamahloni ukutshela izikhathi ezithile zokuphila, futhi ukuguqula lolu hlobo lokulandisa kumvumela ukuba achaze isimo ngokukhululekile nangokwehla, ngenkathi engazizwa enomthwalo wemfanelo ngalokho okwenzekile.
Ezinye izazi zengqondo zithatha lo mkhuba ukuba ungabi nhlobo. Kungase kubonise ukuthi umuntu unesizotha kakhulu, futhi esimweni esinzima kakhulu, singakwazi ngisho nokuhamba okuncane. Ngezinye izikhathi umkhuba wokukhuluma ngawe kumuntu wesithathu ufakazela esiteji sokuqala schizophrenia.
Uma unomkhuba wokukhuluma ngawe ovela kumuntu wesithathu, ungakhathazeki. Emva kwakho konke, bonke abantu baneziphambeko, kodwa lokhu akubhekwa njengento embi kakhulu ukucindezeleka.