Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuzethemba kwakho. Ngesinye isikhathi kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi ungowesifazane wekilasi eliphakeme, hhayi wonke umuntu onokukwazi. Wonke umuntu kufanele afanele abe ngowakho. Ngokuvame kakhulu ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, abesifazane benza iphutha lokuvumelana nabathandekayo babo kukho konke. Lokhu akunakwenziwa. Uma usude uthandana isikhathi eside, ungayidluli, ungabi yedwa ukuthenga indlu ehlangene, aze enze isiphakamiso. Indoda kufanele ihlale ikhuthaza ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane.
Ungafuni umshado uma ungawuboni kahle. Ukugqoka okumhlophe, indawo yokudlela kanye ne-limousine - lokhu, kunjalo, kuhle, kodwa udinga ukwazi umuntu wamaphupho akho. Uma uhlangana isikhathi eside, izimangalo eziningi zingakulethela impilo. Ubudlelwane kunzima ukwakha, kepha kunzima nakakhulu ukuhlukana ngenxa yokungavumelani okuncane nomuntu owaba ngumdabu. Nakani zonke izinhlobo zezinto ezincane ezenzweni zamadoda. Ungalaleli lokho akushoyo. Njengoba umkhuba ubonisa, uma indoda ithi ayithandi izingane, akusho lutho. Lapho nje ingane yakho ivela, ngisho nabantu abanobunzima kakhulu bathandekayo. Ngakho-ke, konke okukhulunywa ngakho ngokuthi uyashada ngemva kweminyaka engu-30 kuphela, ukuthi akayithandi izingane, ukuthi ukhetha ama-blondes cishe njalo ama-maximalism, okuzogcina edlule.
Amadoda anganqikazi ukukhuluma ngalokho umkakhe azoba khona. Uvele ulalele! "Umkami uzongena emotweni nsuku zonke," "Angiyikumvumela ukuba agqoke iziketi ezifushane" - lokhu naphezu kokuthi umtshele kaningi ukuthi ugqoka mini futhi ungathandi ukupheka. Ucabanga ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuthi ngeke akushade naye? Cha, akunjalo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi akanqikazi ukukhuluma ngomqondo wakhe, ngisho noma ungahambisani naye kancane.
Unganqikazi ukuyihlola futhi. Ngitshele ukuthi okuhle kwakho kufanele ukwazi ukusebenza ngendlu, uthole okuningi futhi ungaphuzi ubhiya. Vumela pomuchaetsya futhi ucabange, nokuthi ngabe konke kuhambisane nobuhlobo bakho. Uma unesimiso noma umgomo obaluleke kakhulu, qiniseka ukuthi usitshela ngakho. Amadoda ashintsha kakhulu ngokuzethemba, ngakho-ke unelinye ithuba lokuthola uthando olusha.
Akudingekile ukuhlangana nomfana ononya noma ngezinhloso ze-mercenary. Esikhathini sokuqala, ngokushesha noma kamuva ngeke umhloniphe, bese uyeka ukuthanda nhlobo. Okwesibili, khumbula, uthembise futhi uphase - kungcono kakhulu kunomuntu ovikelekile. Akuvamile ukuthi abe ngumqondisi oneminyaka engu-25, ngakho ungafuni konke ngesikhathi esisodwa. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ufuna ukufeza okuthile kulokhu kuphila ngokwakhe.
Yiqiniso, ufanelekile kakhulu. Noma kunjalo, ingabe umfana wakho uyazi ngalokhu? Cabanga ngalokho akubonayo? Ingabe ubukela uchungechunge nsuku zonke futhi ulungiselela ukudla? Yilahle ngokushesha. Ngangaqiniseka ukuthi uyakwazi ukupheka nokuhle. Hlola ngokuphuthumayo ngezokuzilibazisa okuzobaluleka kakhulu. Bazodoba kanye nebhola, ukuzingela kanye nezimoto. Khumbula, yiliphi izwi elikusho ukuthi "lokhu kungcwele." Vumela futhi futhi, isibonelo, "ukuqina emathathu kathathu ngesonto - kungcwele." Okungenani, uyomangala ukuthi ngesikhathi uxabana naye, usathola isikhathi somdlali wezemidlalo, futhi ungabeki umqubu.
Ngokuvamile, lapho owesifazane efuna ukuzikhanga, uyavuma iphutha elikhulu. Uzenza sengathi ufuna ukwenza okuthile, kodwa eqinisweni ufuna ukumbamba isoka lakhe futhi agcine amathebhu usuku lonke. Ngokwemvelo, owesifazane uphonsela umsebenzi wakhe ngesikhathi esikahle. Ngakho-ke ungamangali ukuthi ngokushesha noma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzoqala ukuhleka indlela yokusula isonto efana nokuzivocavoca nokukhipha ukubhalisa. Kufanele uthole impilo yebhizinisi, makabe ngumsebenzi noma uvolontiya, uma ujabule ngakho.
Ngemuva kokuthi uqinisekise ukuthi uyabaluleka, uzihlonipha, ungayeki ngisho nokuphikelela emshadweni. Yingakho amadoda ebanjwa. Yenza umnikelo wesifazane ongaphila ngaphandle kwakhe - lena iphupho labo. Amadoda afana nabesifazane abangenalwazi, abazethembayo nabanelisekile. Ungabe ungene kwelinye igubhu futhi ungabi indoda engozini. Qhubeka ube mnandi futhi uthandeke, unobuthakathaka futhi unomusa, ukuze uhlale unamandla kubambisene bakho.
Yebo, abesifazane abaningi namuhla baqinisekisa ukuthi ukushada akuyona umgomo, lowo msebenzi uyinto esemqoka. Kodwa-ke, emva kweminyaka embalwa, sibona wonke lawa besifazane omama abajabulayo enqumweni engunaphakade nokunakekela indlu. Into ehlambalaza kakhulu ukuthi labo abangazange bahlose ukushada nabo bayifinyelele. Kodwa amantombazane athulile acabanga ngomndeni omkhulu, ahlale yedwa isikhathi eside kakhulu.
Uma ungowesifazane othembekile onomholo omuhle, mhlawumbe awufuni konke lokhu. Kodwa-ke, ngokushesha nje lapho uthando lwangempela litholakala, kunesifiso esingokwemvelo sokuhlale njalo ne-vezderyadom. Futhi ngaphandle kokunikezwa okusemthethweni kwe-uyvas kuyobe nje kube isimo se "cohabitant."
Into ebuhlungu kakhulu uma intombazane ithi iyathanda ingane, kodwa ayifuni ukushada. Ungalokothi utshele noma ngubani lokho. Okokuqala, uma uthanda izingane ngokweqile kangaka, kungani ungafuni ukuba nobaba? Okwesibili, uma umuntu wakho ezwa, uzokubuka ngokuhlukile. Awukwazi ukuzihlonipha wena ukuze umuntu akunike ithuba elincane lokukhulelwa, kodwa akazange enze isipho. Shayela ngokushesha, ngokushesha lapho ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa kwanikeza umphumela omuhle, futhi wathi, sizobe "silinde" kuze kube manje. Kunezinketho ezimbili nje kuphela, uzoshiya angabuyeli, uzoshiya abuyele ngendandatho. Awudingi ezinye izinketho, uzihlonipha wena.
Umphumela wokugcina wanoma iyiphi inkulumo isenzo. Umgomo wakho oyinhloko ukujabula, ngoba yilokho abantu bonke emhlabeni abazama ukukufeza. Ufuna umuntu oyokushaya, ngoba uzoba umngane othandekayo futhi onokwethenjelwa kumfazi wakho othandekayo. Kuphela ngale ndlela ungaphila impilo ophupha ngayo.