Inkinga yonyaka wokuqala
Yebo, futhi kwenzeka: ukuhamba komshado emva kwesikhathi esithile kudlula, futhi umfazi osemusha uqala ukubuka umyeni wakhe futhi ... ngokuzungezile. Futhi uthini? Ngomatasa ogcwele ngezinkinga zesevisi zomlingani, umndeni wenjabulo, okubonakala sengathi uqukethe isidlo esishisayo futhi esihlalweni esithambile yi-TV. Futhi "ohlangothini" umfazi omncane ubona abangane abangashadile abahlala ngokuzithokozisa kwabo, isidlo sakusondeza noma ubani futhi ushiya impelasonto ngaphandle kwedolobha nabangani. Isigaba sokuqala somngane womshado womkakhe sibizwa ngokuthi "Kungani ngifuna ukushada?". Uma kulesi sigaba umyeni wakhe akahambanga futhi enze izinguquko, khona-ke konke kuyoqhubeka kukhula, okungukuthi, kuyoba kubi nakakhulu. Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Udinga nje ukuphonsa izingodo emlilweni oshisayo wothando, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungase kuzwakale kanjani. Ngoba uthando, okwamanje, aludluli, kodwa kancane ukubhebhethekisa umehluko phakathi kokungashadile nomshado womlingani ngeke kuvimbele. Umlingani ohlakaniphile uzoshiya ngokufushane izindaba zakhe ezisemthethweni futhi abuyele kumkakhe ukuthi uthando futhi lokho injabulo, eqinisweni, eyakha inyunyana yabo ngaleso sikhathi. Babenakho? Ukuhamba ndawonye, ukuhamba ndawonye, ukudla kwasekuseni. Konke ndawonye. Futhi amazwi amaningi amaningi omthando nokungahambi kahle. Ngokuvamile amasonto amabili "okunjalo" ukulingana owesifazane okwanele isikhathi eside. Unyaka wonke kamuva, angakwazi ukubambelela kulokhu "ukumnika", futhi umyeni wakhe futhi onembeza ocacile uzogxila emsebenzini nasemkhakheni wokuzikhandla, uzohlala esihlalweni kusihlwa futhi adle ngesidlo sakusihlwa. Yazi ukuthi inkinga yobudlelwane bomndeni 1 unyaka ojwayelekile kakhulu.
Inkinga yonyaka wesithathu
Unyaka wesithathu wokuhlala ndawonye, ngokusho kwengqondo kwengqondo, kunzima kakhulu. Uma umfazi engacabangi ngemisebenzi, futhi umndeni wakhe ubheka umsebenzi wakhe oyinhloko, khona-ke unyaka wesithathu womshado wakhe ukuthi uqala "ukuvunguza" kancane. Kalula nje, uqala ukukhathala umyeni wakhe. Uyazi kusengaphambili ukuthi uzokusho ukuthini, ucabange ukuthi uyasabela kanjani futhi uyazizwa kanjani. Ingabe kuhle? Kuyinto enhle. Nsuku zonke kuyafana: umyeni. Lesi yisigaba sesibili somngane womshado. Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Akusekho okwenzeka ukuphatha lokhu ukukhathala ngesizungu kuphela. I-recipe ihluke ngokuphelele - ithimba lakho elincane lidinga ukuhlanjululwa. Umyeni ohlakaniphile, ukuze angaphathi lesi sifo, ukhetha ukwelashwa okufanele. Uhamba nomkakhe emacimbini ezinkampani, lapho kunabantu abaningi, futhi, ingxenye enkulu, engazijwayele. Uhamba naye enkampanini enenkampanini enkulu, lapho yena, indoda, engalahlekelwa khona. Kodwa lokhu kubonakala nje: ulapha, useduze futhi ubuka isigamu sakhe, ongakwazi ngakho futhi ujabulela ukubonakala kwenkululeko. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi umyeni onothando akasoze anikeze umkakhe "adliwe" yizintombi ezingashadile nezihlukanisile, okuzosiza ngokuqinisekile ekuqedeni ubudlelwane. Umphumela: emva kokuhlangenwe nakho okusha, umkhathele ukhathele, kodwa hhayi kumyeni wakhe, kodwa ezinkampanini, abangane abangenakubalwa nabadala, kusukela kumnandi, amazwi namahlaya. Ngelinye ilanga ngeke afune ukuhamba noma yikuphi kusihlwa, futhi uzonikela umyeni wakhe ukudla okuthulile ndawonye endlini yakhe. Ukunqoba! Ngoba kuyoba yisikhathi eside sokuphumula ngemuva "kwalolu hlobo". Eminyakeni embalwa. Lokhu akusho ukuthi phakathi nale minyaka umyeni angeke anakekele, hamba naye ukuvakashela futhi ujabule, ngeke ahambe olwandle olufudumele njalonjalo. Kodwa ukuchitshiyelwa okuncane-kuyohlala njalo kuphela; abangane abavamile, abazitholile eholidini, futhi intombi yesikole, ethathwe enkundleni yaseshashalazini, injalo, ama-nuances.
Inkinga yeminyaka eyisikhombisa
Emikhayeni eminingi, isigaba sesithathu somgodla womshado, okungajabulisi kakhulu, kungenzeka. Ngenxa yokuthi umshado usuvele ukhululekile, futhi umyeni, ngokumangalisa, uye waphinde wakhathazeka. Kodwa wayengeke abe nesithukuthezi nje, njengalapho okwenzeka esikhathini esidlule, kodwa wayenesizungu emqondweni wezwi. Kusho ukuthini lokhu? Intombi ishada kamuva, futhi inikezwa (izinto ezibonakalayo) kangcono kakhulu. Umakhelwane wanikela umakhelwane wakhe uPorsche omusha kanye ne-brilics encane, nakuba umakhelwane engesiyena umfazi ofanelekayo, ngisho noma omunye angase athi, ngokuphambene nalokho. Futhi njalo. Lesi sigaba sesithathu siyingozi kakhulu emishadweni, ngoba uma indoda ingenaso isikhathi sokuthatha isikhathi, izinto zingapheli nakancane ezincwadini zothando, okuyinto, ngendlela, umfazi akazange nje afunde, kodwa kungokwemvelo, ngoba uyakhohlwa ngeminikelo yokudla kwasemini - isidlo sakusihlwa. Ukupheka cishe kumile.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze?
Okokuqala, yini engafanele ukwenze. Ungakhononi ezindlebeni zothando. Ungathembisi izintaba zegolide. Futhi, ungazami ukubuyisa indawo yowesifazane embhede. Konke okungenhla - indlela eya emgodini, okungukuthi, ukunqoba. Okokuqala, indoda enothando iyoba isikhashana, ibukele ngeso lengxenye isigamu esishintshiwe, ingazami ukusungula ubuhlobo noma ukuthola imbangela yesimo sayo esibi. Khona-ke, engalindelekile kuye, uzobuya ekhaya hhayi nje ngezimbali, kodwa ngezimbali eziningi ezinhle kakhulu. Khona-ke uthenga uhambo, kodwa hhayi eTurkey, kodwa kwezinye iziqhingi ezingavamile, ogama lakhe alibheke kwelinye incwadi mayelana nothando olushiywe umfazi ngobusuku bokulala. Ithuluzi elimangalisayo kulezi zimo - izipho ezibizayo, kodwa yilokho nokuthi imali evunyelwe kangakanani. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuze singaduduzi amadoda abacebile kakhulu, sizokwazisa ukuthi omkabo abajwayele ukunethezeka ngokweqile, ngakho-ke Kubalulekile ukubanikeza lokho abajwayele ukukwenza, ngisho nasemkhayeni wabo womndeni, nasemaphupheni abo. Amaphupho abesifazane abathobekile nabangenalwazi nawo angcono kakhulu. Ngemuva kwalesi sipho sesipho kumyeni wakhe unganciphisa kancane futhi udlale umfazi wensizwa. Uvele engenakho ukuthukuthela uzobona futhi abe nobubele ezindlebeni, aze afunde izinkondlo. Uzobuyela kumyeni wakhe ngaphandle kokumshiya ngokomzimba. Ngamanye amazwi, konke kuzoba njengaphambili, ngaphambi kwalesi sigaba sesithathu sokupholisa. Ngemva kokuthola oshade naye, indoda ehlakaniphile izozama ngandlela-thile ihambisane nomqondo wayo. Phela, wayekade engumuntu omuhle kuye? Futhi wayejabule naye, futhi akazange afune ukuzwelana nabangane bakhe, futhi akafundile amanoveli enothando ... Kukhona amadoda ambalwa angathanda futhi angashintsha. Kodwa ukuzikhumbula wena osemusha futhi ubuya ngaleso sikhathi kuyajabulisa ngisho. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, kuwufanele: injabulo empilweni yakho yangasese ayizange ichithe noma ubani.