Lapha sikhuluma ngenkululeko yomuntu ebuhlotsheni (umshado), kodwa iningi lethu lawa magama amabili awahambisani. Kusukela ezikhathini zasendulo kwakucatshangwa ukuthi uma owesifazane nomuntu beshadile emshadweni womthetho, ke bangabanye. Yiqiniso, emshadweni kubalulekile ukuzwa ukuthi ungomunye umuntu. Ngempela, umshado wadalwa ngokuqondile ukuze kuxazululwe izinkinga zomhlaba. Khumbula, eminyakeni eminingi eminingi edlule futhi owesifazane wayebhekwa njengendoda yomuntu. Ngakho manje, le nkolelo ihlala cishe ngamunye wethu. I-Patriarchate ikhona engqondweni yethu kuze kube manje.
Ubuhlobo obujabulisayo phakathi komuntu nowesifazane, umshado nenkululeko yomuntu ezweni lanamuhla banomhlobo obuseduze. Isilinganiso ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane sithando kanye nenkululeko. Ngokuqinisekile inkululeko!
Uma kungekho uthando, ukukhululeka komuntu siqu ebuhlotsheni phakathi kowesifazane nowendoda kungahle kube yinto efana nokuziphatha okubi ngokweqile, ukuhlukumezeka kanye nentando yeningi. Futhi ngaphandle kwenkululeko, uthando ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lukhula lube ngumsebenzi nomsebenzi, umqondo wokubambisana nomqondo wobunikazi. Futhi, uNkulunkulu makwenqabe, kungaba khona ubugovu nobudlova ebuhlotsheni! Ngokuvamile imbangela yenkinga ebuhlotsheni bomlingani ukungabi nenkululeko emndenini.
Ngeke siphile ngaphandle kwenkululeko yomuntu, isici saphezulu sobukhona bethu. Ngokungaqondi noma ngokucophelela, sifuna inkululeko. Ngezinye izikhathi lolu cwaningo luphela ngesehlukaniso noma olunye uhlobo lobuhlobo.
Umuntu ngamunye unesifiso esihambelana nenkululeko yomuntu siqu. Abanye baveza inkululeko yabo ngokuziphatha kwangempela kanye nezingubo. Abanye - ubudlelwano bobulili obukhululekile. Kodwa lokhu kubonakala kwangaphandle kwenkululeko kungumphumela wokungapheli kwangaphakathi.
Yiziphi izimo ezidingekayo ekuthuthukiseni inkululeko yomuntu kanye nokukhululwa kwangaphakathi? Ngemuva kwalokho, ukukhululwa kuyosinika ithuba lokuthola inkululeko yangempela ezweni lanamuhla elisizungezile. Isilinganiso sokucabanga, isifiso somuntu sokuthuthukiswa okuqhubekayo, ukuqaphela, ukubonakaliswa kothando kanye nokungabi khona kwezinkimbinkimbi - leyo yindlela efanele yokufeza umgomo.
Uma kuqala ukubeka lesi simiso ekusungulweni komshado, ngisho nokuvela kobuhlobo, khona-ke isifiso sokwenza umlingani impahla yaso siyophela. Khona-ke inani lehlukaniso lizokwehla, futhi uthando luzoqina (inkululeko ikhulisa imizwa yothando). Isikhala sothando sizokhula futhi izingane zakho ezijabulayo zizokhula kulo.
Futhi uma wenza okuphambene, gcina umlingani wakho eqinile, khona-ke umshado uzofika ebuhlotsheni. Kungani umuntu engasebenzisi ukusindisa othandekayo oseduze: bazivumelanisa, babekezelele, baziphule, bazihlaze, balahlekelwe ukubukeka kwabo. Kodwa lezi zenzo ziphoqelela izinto ngisho nakakhulu. Izwe, njengoba liyaziwa, alimukeli ukhetho. Futhi lowo ozama ukuhlukanisa ingxenye ethile futhi ahlale ecaleni kwalo ngokungazelelwe uyalilahleka.
Uthola kuphela owazi ukunikeza!
Yiba njengabantwana bakho - bathanda ngobuqotho wonke umuntu (ngaphandle uma abazali behlupha ingane yabo)! Khumbula, izingane zivame ukuphindaphinda ukuthi zithanda lo muntu noma lowo muntu. Abazali besaba futhi bacabanga ukuthi izingane zabo azizithandi. Ukuphoqa ingane ukuba ithande yona kuphela, ngakho-ke ihlwanyela "imbewu" yezinkinga zezingane zabo esikhathini esizayo. Lezi zimbewu zizozibonakalisa hhayi emndenini kuphela, kodwa nasembusweni womndeni ozayo wengane. Izinkinga eziningi zobuntu ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane zivela ebuntwaneni.
Inkululeko ivela ekhanda lethu! Kusemqondweni womuntu ukuthi inqwaba enkulu yokungenasidingo iqoqiwe. Gcwalisa umhlaba ngokubuka umhlaba wonke, khulula ingqondo kusuka kudoti endala! Imithetho ehlongozwayo yokwakha umndeni izokusiza ukuqeda ukukhohlisa futhi ugcwalise amandla amasha enkululeko. Jabulela!