Uma ungazi ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukudlala ngothando, ungabona ukuziphatha kwabantu ababili abanobudlova njengoba benganele. Phela, kusukela ohlangothini kubonakala ukuthi babonisa isithakazelo, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo abakusho lutho ngemizwa yabo. Futhi kubonakala ngathi laba bangabantu ababili abangavamile, abahamba ngezinyawo endaweni eyodwa - bese behleka ngokuhleka, bese behlalisana ngokuncoma. Bangaki abantu, bangaki imibono mayelana nokudlala ngothando, kodwa ngokuvamile, ukudlala ngothando, kusho olunye uhlobo lokuxhumana phakathi kwabantu ababili. Lolu hlobo lokukhulumisana alusho njalo uhlobo oluthile lokuqhubeka futhi luholela ekuguqulweni kwesigaba esiseduze, kaningi nje ibhanti enobungane.
Umuntu ngamunye ngaphansi kocansi usho okuhlukile. Wonke umuntu unombono wakhe siqu kule ndaba. Lapha, isibonelo, intombi yakho ihlanganisa nabanye abantu. Kulokhu akukho lutho olwesabekayo, yebo, uma lungaphumi kwemingcele yokuziphatha. Phela, owesifazane osemncane, odlala ngothando, angakwazi ukuzakhela amehlo akhe kanye nokumomotheka, futhi enye - okuningi kakhulu, uziphathe kahle futhi ukhuthaze ebuhlotsheni obuseduze.
Yini eyenza intombazane isifiso sokudlala ngothando? Yini azama ukuyifinyelela?
Cabanga ngalesi simo. Uke ubona intombazane yakho isikhathi eside. Uya kuma-movie, amathilomu, amaqembu kubangani futhi uvakashele. Intombazane yakho izama ukubuka 100%. Ukwenza lokhu, wenza izinwele zezinwele ezimnandi, izimonyo, ubeka izingubo ezinhle kakhulu, ubukele isithombe sakhe, uya esikoleni sokuzivocavoca, uvakashele izibuko zokuhle. Ngokuvamile, ufuna ukukubheka okuhle kakhulu. Futhi konke akuzwa kuwe, lokhu "okuncane" kubukeka kuhle "! Lapha ubheka lawa magama amahle futhi amnandi ngokudlala ngothando nabanye abantu. Uma ezwa, uzokwanelisa ukuzethemba kwakhe, uzoqonda ukuthi usemnandi futhi "unamafutha emakhaleni". Futhi-ke uzoqhubeka ekuthanda, ngoba uyakuthanda ngempela, ulahlekelwa ukunakekelwa kwakho, amazwi amathenda, ukubonga ubuhle bakhe. Madoda othandekayo, ukhohliwe ukuthi ungatshela kanjani amantombazane ukuncoma okubalulekile kithi, abesifazane. Abathandekayo bakho bazama wena kuphela. Banike amazwi omusa, babonise izimpawu zokunaka, bazokwenza konke okukuyo, futhi ngeke kudingeke bathande abanye.
Ngokuvamile, amantombazane ahlukile, nge-quirks kanye "namaphere ekhanda lami." Isibonelo, intombazane yakho ithi uyayithanda, futhi ihlanganisa nabanye abantu ngesikhathi esifanayo. Futhi wenza ngisho nangaphambi kwakho. Kubonakala sengathi kungani efuna lokhu? Emva kwakho konke, utshela izincomo zakhe, uzinika isikhathi, uyamgcwalisa ngezipho, ngokujwayelekile, ufeza konke okwenziwe ngakho. Yini enye ayidinga? Yini engenayo? Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngenxa yalokhu awujabuli ngezigcawu zomhawu, awuphuli ikhanda lakho odongeni noma ubuso bomuntu othile, kodwa nje udidekile ngokuthula. Ngakho yilokho okuyinhloko yenkinga! Kubonakala sengathi akanalo umona wakho okwanele. Futhi ufuna ukumvusa, lokho kudlala nabanye abantu. Futhi akanandaba nhlobo lokuthi ungumfana ovamile, ozimele, othembekile futhi othembekile. Ufuna isiphepho semizwelo nezinkanuko. Yebo, uyayithanda. Mhlawumbe, ungomunye wamantombazane angathandi ukuxhumana okuvamile, okwethenda, nokwenyama. Udinga ukwenza izinto zibe yizintambo, isibhamu ebusweni, ukukhala nokukhala, khona-ke uzojabula. Kodwa wenzani nalokhu? Kudingeka ukhethe, noma psyche enempilo, noma intombazane ejabule. Noma mhlawumbe isimo esifanayo, intombazane kuphela ibonisa umhawu, ukuthi uyazivumela ukuba uthandane nabanye amantombazane. Ngakho-ke uzama ukukubonisa indlela ongayithandi ngayo lapho othandekayo wakho, omthandayo kuze kube seqophelweni lokungcola, uhlanganyela nabanye, nakuba ethi uyakuthanda. Lokhu akuyona into engathandeki kuphela, kepha kungase kuhlazeke, ngoba amadoda ngokuvamile aboni ubuso obungafaneleki ukuthi ungadluli kuwo, bese uthola isimo lapho kunesizathu sokuthi "Ngiphuze okuningi, ngiyaxolisa".
Yiqiniso, kunamantombazane anjalo awakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kokudlala ngothando. Lokhu kungenxa yabo njenge-balm yomphefumulo. Abacabangi ukuthi ukudlala ngothando kuyinto engafanele noma engalungile. Zisetshenziswa kakhulu kulo. Bathanda ukudlala namadoda kule geyimu, futhi kubo ukudlala ngothando kungumdlalo. Uma bethandana, lokhu akusho ukuthi sebekulungele ukwenza ubugebengu noma bazimisele ukwenza kanjalo. Lawa mantombazane nasemuva kokushada avumela ukudlala ngothando namanye amadoda. Yiqiniso, benza lokhu, njenganoma yimuphi omunye intombazane, futhi ukuze baqiniseke ukuthi basakhanga abantu, ukuthi basesebancane futhi banomusa. Hhayi kuye ngokuthi ngibazisa yini noma cha, nakuba ngokwemvelo badinga futhi bayabathanda. Bajabulela inqubo yokudlala ngothando, hhayi kumuntu abathandana naye. Ngemuva kokuthola umthamo wokunakekelwa nokwesekela, bayakhohlwa ukuthi lesi simo ngokuvamile kwakuyindawo okufanele ibe kuyo.
Kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi akukho lutho olungalungile ngokudlala ngothando. Konke kuncike enjongweni esetshenziswa ngayo. Ngale ndlela, intombi yakho ingakhetha kalula umuntu omusha, kahle, uma intombi yakho ihamba ngezimoto noma ilahlekelwe yithakazelo kuwe. Ekuphileni, konke kwenzeka, ungaphumuli, kodwa ungawunaki kakhulu. Okokuqala, khuluma naye ngokusobala futhi uthole isizathu sokuziphatha kwakhe. Ngokuvamile lesi sizathu silula kangangokuthi ngeke kube khona ukulingana nokulandelana.