Yini okufanele uyenze kahle endleleni eya kumholi? Ungasondelana kanjani nomgomo wakho? Kuyoba yini iseluleko sengqondo kwengqondo ekuthuthukiseni ubuholi? Ikhwalithi yokuqala eyisihluthulelo kuyoba yi-intelligence. Thuthukisa i-erudition yakho, ulwazi, uthole imfundo enhle, ukuze uqonde ukuthi yiziphi izinto eziyinhloko futhi ube uchwepheshe ebhizinisini lakho. Ngemuva kwalokho, umuntu ongazi ukukhethekile kwakhe uzolahlekelwa umsebenzi wakhe futhi angeke akwazi ukunqoba inhlonipho yabantu abaningi, kodwa abe ngumuntu ofundisiwe. Funda kwabanye, njalo ubeke okuthile okusha. Akumangalisi bathi ukufundisa kulula. Ukuzithuthukisa yizwi elibalulekile phakathi kwezimfanelo zobuholi. Kuzo zonke izinto kudingeka sithuthukise futhi sizithuthukise kuzo zonke izindawo.
Enye iphuzu elibalulekile endleleni eya kumholi kuyoba ukuzethemba. Uma ubona ukuzethemba okuphansi, ezinye izinkinga zivumelane nawe-iya kumculi wezengqondo, uzihlole, ulungise lo mbuzo. Umuntu onokwethenjelwa okuphansi kunzima kakhulu ukuba ahlukane nabaholi futhi athuthukise izimfanelo zobuholi. Kumelwe uzifunde kahle, wazi ingqondo yakho namakhono akho, uhlole ubuthakathaka bakho futhi uzihlaziye kahle, mhlawumbe uzothola indlela yokuziqeda.
Ukuxhumana kungenye yezikhundla ezihola. Kumele ithuthukiswe kahle futhi ifakwe ezingeni elisha, ngoba liyingxenye ebalulekile yezimfanelo zobuholi. Ukuzivocavoca ekukhulumisaneni nabantu, yenza abangane abasha, abangane - bahlale bekudinga. Funda izincwadi ezikhethekile, futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, unqobe konke ukwesaba kwakho, ungesabi, ungabi namahloni okukhuluma nabantu abasha, zizethembe. Zenza okuningi kulokhu, futhi uzobona ukuthi kungekudala ngeke kube khona ukulandelela kokwesaba. Ukuzibandakanya nakho ukukwazi ukukhuluma kahle, ukuveza imicabango yakho kahle. Hlola izindlela ezengeziwe zokuxhumana, zama ukubeka abantu kuwe. Into esemqoka yisifiso nokholo, khona-ke uzophumelela.
Iphuzu elibalulekile futhi ukuzethemba nokuqina komuntu siqu. Kubuye kwenzeke ukuthi umuntu uhle ngokuzihlonipha, unamandla kakhulu futhi akanamahloni kakhulu, kodwa akanakho ukuzethemba okwanele. Lokhu kuvimbela kakhulu ukuthuthukiswa kwezimfanelo zobuholi, ngakho-ke, kungcono ukunqoba izimo ezinjalo. Uma usuvele unqume ukuba umholi, finyelela umgomo wakho - lahla noma yikuphi ukwesaba futhi uzuze ukuzethemba, ngoba ngaphandle kwalokhu ikhwalithi akunakwenzeka ukucabanga noma yimuphi umholi. Ikakhulukazi ekuziphatheni kwengqondo kubonakala ukuthi indlela oziphatha ngayo, indlela oziveza ngayo, ngakho abantu bazokuqonda. Uma uzizwa ukhululekile, qhubeka uvumelana ngokuqondile nawe, qiniseka futhi uziqaphele ngokwakho - abanye bazozizwa futhi bazokuphatha njengoba uzenza wena.
Esinye iseluleko esibalulekile - zithemba wena futhi ungesabi ukwenza amaphutha, ngoba amaphutha enza konke, futhi ufunda nje. Isivivinyo, ungayeki endleleni yakho, yenza ukukhuthazela kwakho.
Hlonipha amandla namandla okulinganisa. Ukuzikhandla kuyisici esitholakala ngokuphelele futhi kulula kakhulu ukuphuma. Into eyinhloko ukuthembeka nokuqinela wena ngokwakho, ungaphazanyiswa yizicathulo futhi ungavumeli ubunzima. Izinhlekelele zenzeka kuwo wonke umuntu, futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, zifunde ukubhekana nazo.
Uma ungatholi lokho ofuna ukukwenza-into eyinhloko, ungaphelelwa ithemba futhi uqhubeke uzama, ngoba uzophuma ngempela. Ukuqina, ukukhuthazela, ukubekezela kanye nokubekezela kufanele kube enye yezimfanelo zakho eziyinhloko. Siyazi inqwaba yezigidi uma kwenzeka umuntu engakwazi ukuthola lutho, kodwa uyaqhubeka nokusebenza, ephikelela futhi engalahlekelwa ukholo - konke kwenzeka, njengoba efuna. Ungabeki iphunga lakho, ungagudli izandla zakho, ukholelwa empumelelweni yakho. Ukunqoba ubunzima obuningi kuphela, umuntu angathola umholi kuye. Zifundisa kuphela futhi zithukuthele.
Umholi ngumuntu olawula imicabango yakhe nezenzo zakhe. Kumelwe wazi kusengaphambili mayelana nezimfanelo zakho ezinhle nezimbi. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuba uvivinye, isazi sezengqondo, umndeni, i-psychoanalysis, kanye nombono wabangane abahlukahlukene nabajwayelene nabo. Gcina ulwazi olubalulekile mayelana nawe, zama ukuziqonda. Okubalulekile, izimfanelo ezinhle zigcizelela, bese uzama ukuqeda amabi noma uzame ukunciphisa. Lawula ukuziphatha kwakho, uziphathe ngokwakho kanye nokuphila kwakho, uzikhandlele imigomo ecacile, iphupho elilindeleke futhi ulifeze ngamandla akho onke. Lungisa ulwazi lwakho namakhono ngendlela efanele, bese umsebenzi wakho uzoba ngokwengeziwe ngokwakhayo.
Kuyoba yini iseluleko sengqondo kwengqondo ekuthuthukiseni ubuholi? Konke okungenhla, ngokungangabazeki, kuzokusiza, futhi sekuvele kube yisibopho esihle kakhulu sempumelelo. Kodwa ifomula lobuholi linesidingo esinamandla kakhulu esizosheshisa inqubo futhi ikusize ngazo zonke izindlela - ikholo. Ungalokothi ulahlekelwe ithemba, ungafaki isifiso sobuholi namandla, kodwa hlakulela zonke izimfanelo zokuziphatha nezici ezinhle zomuntu okudingayo. Ukusebenza ngokwakho kuhlale kuwumsebenzi onzima, kodwa uzobona ukuthi uletha umphumela omuhle kakhulu. Yenza umsebenzi wokuzikhandla kwakho nolwazi, ngcono ukubonakala kwakho - futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo uzojabula kakhulu ukwazi wena futhi ube ngcono. Uma ungaphumeleli ekubeni umholi omkhulu, ungaphelelwa ithemba, empilweni wonke umuntu unendawo yakhe ebalulekile empilweni, futhi ukuziqhenya kuyisinyathelo esikhulu kakhulu esizayo nakakhulu esikhathini esizayo.