Uzofika ngesikhathi
Ingabe amadoda aphethe ucingo lwemvelo, isifiso nesidingo sokuqhubeka nomusa wabo, ukunakekela inzalo yabo? Imibono yabachwepheshe kule ndaba yahlukaniswa. Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi ubulili obuqinile bukhona, kunalokho, isitho socansi eshukumisela ekukhiqizeni, futhi ukufakwa "Indoda kumele yakha indlu, itshale umuthi futhi ikhulise indodana" isivele isenhlalo yomphakathi. Abanye bayaqiniseka: kukhona! Le mbono iqinisekiswa yizibonelo eziningi zobaba-izigqila embusweni wezilwane (ngokuqinisekile azifundiswa kunoma ubani ngaphandle kwemvelo uqobo!). Kanti abanye bacacise ukuthi: isimo sokunakekela ubuhlobo sithandwa ngokulinganayo yibo bonke kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili, kodwa kwabesifazane kukhulunywa kakhulu. Phela, amantombazane ekuqaleni ahlose umndeni futhi abe nezingane (ngenxa yokulindela umphakathi kanye nokwakhiwa), ngaphezu kwalokho, umama ozayo unezinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye ukuze ajwayele indima entsha. Ngakho-ke, uma owesifazane enemvelaphi "yomzali" esikhundleni sezinto eziphilayo, khona-ke indoda ivela emphakathini futhi ifika nesikhathi, njenganoma yiluphi uhlobo lweqiniso nokuyiqiniso mayelana nesimo sikayise.
Ukuvuselelwa kobunikazi
Uma isayensi ifakazela ukuthi ukuhlakanipha kukababa kuyatholakala, kungani le nkulumo isetshenziswa ngokuvamile kumongo ongavamile? Abaningi be-anthropologists (uMargaret Mead): "Obaba bayisidingo sezinto eziphilayo kanye nengozi yomphakathi." Kungani, ngokungafani nesimiso somama esikhazinyulisiwe, ubaba usangabaza? Kunezizathu eziningana.
Imibono yendabuko mayelana nezindima zesilisa nabesifazane, ezithunyelwa kumntwana enkambweni yemfundo. "Amantombazane kuphela adlala amadonki!", "Uhlobo luni lobubele bezinwele?" - uma umfana ezwa lezi zinkulumo njalo, cishe akunakwenzeka ukuthi esikhathini esizayo uzobheka "ukuphikisana" nomntanakho ukunakekelwa komuntu.
Ukulindela umphakathi - kuze kube yilapho nje emphakathini kwakukhona isimo sengqondo sokungahloniphi ngabantu abahlala emakhaya nasezingane (babenikezwa ngamagama okuqamba amanga: owesifazane, umgqomo, hhayi indoda). Imodeli ye "papa okhathalelayo" yayingavunyelwe emphakathini, ngakho-ke isisindo sikababa sasivame ukucindezelwa. / I-Dogma mayelana nokubaluleka komntwana okungekho emthethweni ekuthuthukiseni ingane, eyasungulwa ohlelweni lwemfundo. Emphakathini wezentengiselwano (lapho indima eyinhloko kababa engumnakekeli kanye nesondlo), lokhu kwenzeka. Kodwa-ke, ungakhohlwa ukuthi kuze kube sekuqaleni kwekhulu le-XIX, amadoda amaningi asebenza ekhaya (noma esiseduze) futhi athatha ingxenye ekhuthele kakhulu empilweni yomndeni nezingane - kwakukhona kubo ukuthi imfundo (kunokuba ijabulise, njenganamuhla) isebenze. Ngokuvamile, iminyaka eyizinkulungwane, isiko lombhishobhi wachaza ubaba njengomzali ofaneleka kakhulu obhekene nohlobo lwabantu abantwabakhe abakhulayo. Ngakho-ke, zonke izincwadi zokuziphatha "zokufundisa" zokuziphatha ngendlela yokukhanyisa isizukulwane esincane eRussia zazibhekiswe kobaba!
Iqiniso!
Ososayensi bathole egazini lamadoda ihomoni elisebenza ekubunjweni kweqiniso nokuyiqiniso mayelana nesimo sokhokho. I-oxytocin (emzimbeni wesifazane ilawula inqubo yomsebenzi kanye nenqubo yokukhwabanisa). Uma inombolo yayo ifinyelela iphuzu elithile - le ndoda ilungele ukubambisana. Kodwa-ke, inkinga ukuthi lo mzuzwana, njengombuso, ufika cishe eminyakeni engama-35-40 ... Futhi kubadala baba sekuqaleni!
Manje sekuyisikhathi sokuphendukela kumemori yomlando bese kuvuselela obaba isisindo somzali esincane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, i-swallows yokuqala ikhona kakade: obaba banamuhla bavame ukuhlanganyela ekukhuliseni izingane. Namuhla, upapa okhona lapho ebeletha noma ehlezi nomntwana esitatimendeni uqobo.
Imfundo yezinzwa
Ukuvusa ucingo lwemvelo kubathandekayo bakho akukaze kube sekwephuzile kakhulu. Mhlawumbe, ngesikhathi sokuqala, kufanelekile ukuyihlolisisa. Indoda futhi ayikhombisi "ukubeletha ingane ngokushesha", kodwa ukushisa kubhekisela ezinganeni zabanye kanye nezidalwa ezincane eziphilayo ezifana ne-puppy-puppies? Futhi emcimbini, ogcwele izingane, ujabule ukwenza izingwenya ezivela emapulasitiki noma emabhokisini? Impela indoda yethu!
Isinyathelo esibalulekile esibalulekile ukukhulelwa. Obaba balindile futhi! Ngisho noma ungabonisi ingqondo yakho. Uma owesifazane okwamanje eqinisa kahle ubudlelwane (imibono ephakamisa imibuzo, izinkathazo kanye nenjabulo, utshela imizwa yakhe), lo muntu ulungiselela kancane kancane indima yakhe entsha. Kuyabisa ... kodwa ngiyazibuza kanjani! Funda izincwadi ezikhethekile, lalela ukushaya kwenhliziyo yomntwana, uzizwe ukuhamba kwakhe kokuqala ... Maduzane upapa uvuthwe - kunzima ukusho. Amanye amadoda azizwa njengabababa kusukela ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, abanye baguqulwa, okokuqala ngithatha ingane ezandleni zabo, omunye uzodinga izinyanga ezimbalwa ngalokhu.
Ukuze kuvuse ukuvuka kwesimo semvelo sikababa, kuyadingeka, ngokusho kwezazi zengqondo zaseMelika, ukugcina imithetho eminingi.
Isiqalo sokuqala: ekuqaleni ubaba uzohileleka ekunakekeleni ingane, ngcono. Ukuthembela empumelelweni: ingabe umama uyazi konke? Kodwa akayena kuphela ochwepheshe ophethe umthwalo wazo zonke izici zobomi bomntwana. Kubaba ngoba okuthile kuvela kangcono - ukugeza, ukuhamba, ukuvocavoca okunamandla nokunye okunye.
Ukuvuleka ekuboniseni imizwa yabo: ukwesaba, ukungabaza, ukudumala - lokhu kwenzeka kuwo wonke umuntu. Kubalulekile ukuxoxa konke ndawonye, kodwa hhayi ukugcina ngaphakathi. Ukufunda ingane: isipiliyoni sithola inqubo yokuxhumana.
Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ukuba upapa - ukuba nje abe khona futhi ... wenze! Lapha kanjalo!
Ngokomphumela wezifundo eziningi ezisekelwe eqinisweni naseqophelweni eliyiqiniso ngokuphathelene nesimo sokhokho, izingane, hhayi ukunakwa kukayise, zifuna ukwazi futhi zivumelanise ngokushesha emphakathini. Bavame ukumomotheka, bahlanganyele ngamathoyizi ngokuzithandela futhi bawasebenzise ngendlela enengqondo. Ngokusobala, amadodana abathandayo nabababa abathintekayo enkambweni yemfundo, ekhulayo, ngokwabo bafana. Futhi uma uyise ebanda? Akunandaba: lokhu kuvame ukuvuselela inqubo yokubuyisela umfana, futhi esikhathini esizayo ufuna ukuba ngubaba ongenalo, futhi ephupha ngalo.
Abazali abayisibonelo
Abazali abanakekelayo emvelweni ophilayo - into ejwayelekile kakhulu. Abama-penguin baxosha izinkukhu ngokuzenzekelayo (izinyanga ezimbili!) Futhi ngisho nokudla izingane (ijusi elikhethekile elikhiqizwa esiswini nasesiswini). I-Papa-sea igqoka amaqanda emlonyeni, kanti amasonto amabili ngaphandle kokudla nokuvala umlomo (!) - ngokuzumayo othile ovela ezinganeni ushaya ngokungazelelwe? Kukhona ngisho nobaba abayingqayizivele abaye ... banazo izingane! Isibonelo, i-seahorse yesilisa ibherelela i-caviar esikhwameni esikhethekile se-brood, lapho ama-embungu ahlakulela ngenxa yezakhi ezivela egazini likababa, bese evuthiwe, aphule isikhwama ngaphakathi.
Ngendlela , esiklasini "esiphakeme" sezilwane ezincelisayo ezinakekela obaba abanakekelayo, yebo, okuncane kakhulu (uma kuqhathaniswa: phakathi kwamapulangwe anjalo - 90%). Okuphezulu ukuthi i-monkey-dad ingakwenza ukudlala nezingane noma ukuthola ukudla. Futhi abanye obaba bayingozi, isibonelo: ngokuba ingonyama-ubaba (njengobhere, i-tiger, amafiya), ukubulala ibhuloho ekufeni ekusebenzeni (noma ngenxa yomhawu) kuyinto evamile.