Ama-Simulators nabaqalayo
Kukholelwa, futhi ucwaningo lwengqondo luqinisekisa ukuthi iningi labantu (95%) libalingisi noma izigqila futhi kuphela ama-5% abaholayo. Uma sikhumbula ukuthi kukhona iningi lethu, kodwa u-boss nguye - isilinganiso esinjalo ngeke sikhulise ukungabaza. Ukusatshalaliswa kwezindima zokuhola nokugqilaza - akukubi noma okuhle, kodwa kuphela izinhlobo ezimbili zokucabanga nokuziphatha, ngenxa yobukhona kubantu bezici eziyinhloko nezimfanelo zomholi. Ukunyakaza kuya kohlobo lokuqala noma lwesibili lubekwa kusukela ebuntwaneni. Ukuholela kusho ukusebenza, umholi. Okusemqoka kokuhola kubonisa izinga eliphansi le-conservatism, ukuvinjelwa okukhulu kweengozi, ukujwayela ngokushesha, kanye nezinga eliphakeme lomthwalo wemfanelo. Ukuba yisigqila kusho ukuhlala esikhundleni, ukuthembela nokuvuma, ukunikeza ilungelo izinqumo noma ukukhetha komunye. Abantu abalalile bahlelekile futhi bazimele kakhulu kunezikhombisi-ndlela, bancike ngokwengeziwe kubantu abaseduze noma abaphathi.
Kungani abantu abaningi bakhetha ukulingisa, ukulingisa, ukulandela umuntu? Abaningi bethu babheka ukuthi ukuziphatha kwethu kulungile uma sibona abanye abantu beziphatha ngendlela efanayo. Sizicabangela ngokuzenzakalelayo ukuthi uma abantu abaningi benza okufanayo, khona-ke kumele bazi okuthile esingasenzi. Ngomqondo othile, lokhu kuziphatha kuhlotshaniswa nesimo sokuzivikela. Ngendlela, amandla ethu okulingisa abonakaliswa ngisho nasezingeni lokuphila nangokomzwelo. Khumbula ukuthi isifo esithathelwanayo ngukubona komuntu oyedwa noma ohlekayo. Futhi kunzima kanjani ukumelana nokungamanga noma ukumhleka.
"Ukutheleleka" kunamandla kangangokuthi ngezinye izikhathi kuholela emiphumeleni enkulu. Ngokwesibonelo, ekupheleni kwekhulu leshumi nesishiyagalolunye, abesifazane abasha bazungeza omunye nomunye endlini yaseFrance yokugibela. Futhi bathatha iziqu ngokuphila, ngenxa yesizathu esithile, kuphela i hook ngaphakathi yokugezela. Isifo sokuzibulala saqhubeka kuze kube yilapho othile ecabanga ukuthi uzothatha isilingo esiludongeni odongeni: ngesizathu esithile ezinye izindlela zokufa amantombazane abonakala engenakuthandeka kakhulu, futhi kufanele nethemba lokuthi baphila kuze kube sesikhulile kakhulu.
Ukuphakama komuntu ukulingisa kusetshenziselwa abacwaningi bezingqondo zamazinga ahlukene. Ngakho-ke, abaceli bezobuchwepheshe "bakasawoti" ama-caps nezintende zabo ngezinhlamvu zemali eziningana, okuthiwa sezivele ziphonswe abanye abantu, zisinxusa ukuba silandele isibonelo sabo. Ngokuvamile, lezi zindlela zisetshenziselwa ukukhangisa, zibiza ukuthengwa komkhiqizo ongufashini noma okuye kwavunyelwa abanye abathengi. Emibukisweni yethelevishini, baqopha ukuhleka kweskrini, "okusikisela ukuthi" kuphi lapho sidinga ukuhleka khona. Abezombangazwe ngesibalo esifanayo, naphezu kweminyaka yobuchwepheshe obusha, basathanda izintuthano: isixuku kulula ukufaka noma yimiphi imibono kunomuntu ngamunye.
Zungisa ama-degree angu-180
Kodwa kudingeka sishintshe? Ekugcineni, akuwona wonke umuntu ongaba ngabaholi? Kuzodingeka sishintshe. Ukuphila kwanamuhla kubangela abantu izinselelo ezintsha, kubakhuthaza ukuba bazizwe futhi benze ngendlela ehlukile. Okokuqala, izwe lilandela indlela yentando yeningi, ukuthuthukiswa komuntu njengomuntu. Isizathu sesibili yishintsho sezesayensi nezobuchwepheshe, futhi ngesikhathi sokushintsha okusheshayo kolwazi umuntu kumele akwazi ukuhamba, ucabange ngokuzimela. Futhi okwesithathu yisimo semakethe. Namuhla, imakethe yezimpahla nezinsizakalo iphezulu. Ngenxa yalokho, yilabo kuphela abahlukile, okukhethekile noma, njengoba kusho ucwaningo, bathi, bayanqoba, bayaphikisana. Abantu bokudala kuphela abakwazi ukudala le nzuzo eyengeziwe - abayena abalingisi, kodwa abaqalisi, abaqondisa ngengqondo yabo, abaholwa. Akumangalisi ukuthi manje eNtshonalanga Yurophu naseMelika kwakukhona izincwadi eziningi, izinhlelo zokuqeqesha, kwenziwa umsebenzi wokwandisa inani labantu abahamba phambili.
Ukwandisa inani lezinyathelo, abantu abazicabangela yizidingo eziphuthumayo zomnotho. Kodwa ingabe ingokoqobo? Mhlawumbe ikhono "lokuzamazama" noma "ukuba nelungelo" kithi linemvelo? Omunye akufanele acabange leso sinyathelo, ubuholi yizimfanelo ezingenasici kuphela. Eqinisweni, nge "i-proactivity gene" bonke abantu bazalwa. Ekugcineni, zonke izidakamizwa ukuze zikhule iqanda kufanele zikhuphuke izinkulungwane "zincintisana nabo". Bese kuqala ukuhlaselwa kwengqondo ku-proactivity ekhona kithi ngokwemvelo. Iyini i-proactivity? Lokhu kuyisimangalo sokuzimela, umsebenzi nomthwalo wemfanelo. Umuntu osebenzayo ufuna ukuthola isihloko, hhayi into yesenzo. Ukuziphatha kwakhe kugcizelelwe yizinqumo zakhe, hhayi ngezimo.
Ukuhlasela kokuqala kwengqondo kwenzeka enkulisa lapho sibheke khona, siphoqeleka ukuba sidle ngesimiso, sihlale phansi ebhodweni ngesikhathi esifanayo neqembu lonke, njll. "Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esidumile saseSwitzerland uJean Piaget, omunye wabasunguli bezakhi zofuzo zengqondo, wathi iminyaka, abantu bathola izinhlelo ezingu-80% zokuphila, okusho ukuthi kuyathinta isiphetho sakhe. Futhi kulesi sikhathi, okungukuthi, enkulisa, ukuthi i-proactivity yethu iboshiwe. Uqale isikole sesiphelile. Abazali bavame futhi bathulule amafutha emlilweni, beqhathanisa nezingane zabo "ngezinhloso zemfundo": "Kungani zonke izingane zinezingane, futhi unento enjalo? "Uma abesifazane bebuza ukuthi benzeni ukuze bangaphindaphindi amaphutha abazali babo ekukhulisweni kwezingane, ngineluleka ukuba ungasho ukuthi" Ungakwenza kanjani! Kungcono ukwakha izimangalo zakho kumntwana ngale ndlela: "Lokhu akufanele kwenzeke ngomfana ohlakaniphile onjengawe!"
Kodwa-ke, umuntu akufanele asole yonke into yesimiso sethu semfundo nabazali, izisulu zokukhuliswa kwamaSoviet. Isilinganiso sama-95% wabalandeli kanye no-5% wabahola phambili siyalondolozwa emazweni amaningi kuwo wonke umlando wesintu. Le "oda" kwakudingeka ukuba kube khona umbuso, owaziwa ngawo, umshini wokucindezelwa nokucindezelwa. Isimo saqala ukushintsha nje nje. Kungenye indaba yokuthi amazwe aseYurophu ahamba phambili e-Ukraine endleleni yokudemokhrasi emphakathini, imfundo yezimfanelo nezimfanelo eziyinhloko zomholi kumuntu. Ngendlela, ubuholi akufanele kubhekwe kuphela kumongo wokuphathwa. Lo mqondo uhlanganisa nokukwazi komuntu ukulawula isiphetho sakhe. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, angaba yisiphi isikhundla. Indoda yokuhlanza, esebenza ehhovisi futhi isifinyelele esiphethweni sokuthi ukuhlanza i-rag yakudala endaweni enjalo yindawo engenaziqhumane i-uncool, uye esitokisini ngenkokhelo encane futhi yanikelwa kumqondisi wenkampani isheke sokukhokha - esivele umholi endaweni yakhe.
Vuka, projectivity!
Ngemva kokuphendula umbuzo owodwa we-classical, "Ubani ongabekwa icala? ", Kubalulekile ukuphendula omunye -" yini okufanele ukwenze? ". Ukwakha inkampani ephumelelayo ngokwezomnotho, umholi kumele enze ngezindlela ezimbili. Okokuqala, ukuthuthukisa izimfanelo zobuholi ngokwayo, futhi okwesibili, kubasebenzi bayo ukuvuselela isakhi esifanayo "sezulu" se-proactivity. (Ngale ndlela, uStephen Covey encwadini ethi "Amakhono Ayishumi Ephakeme Kakhulu" wabiza ngokuthi i-proactivity yezinye izici ezidingekayo zomuntu ophumelelayo.). Lokhu akuwona umsebenzi ongenangqondo: izazi ze-psychologists zikholelwa ukuthi uma izimo ezihle zidalwa, bese kuthi eminyakeni engaba ngu-2 kuya kweyesi-3, umuntu uyakwazi ukushintsha amanani akhe, futhi kusukela esigabeni sabalandeli kuya kubahola phambili. Ngiphinde ngithi njalo ekuqeqesheni ubuholi ukuthi umholi ocela abantu abahloniphekile ukuba basebenze enkampanini yakhe enhle, ngezinye izindlela angase abe mkhulu kunalokho ngokuqondene nobuhlakani, ubuchwepheshe, njll. Futhi unikeza abantu ukukhanya okuluhlaza, ukuze bakwazi ukukhombisa lezi zimfanelo endaweni yabo.
Ngokuqondene nalolu qhinga liphumelele, ungabonisa isibonelo sezindlela ezimbili eziphambene nabaphathi. Ngakho-ke, uMengameli we-39 waseMelika uJimmy Carter wasebenza amahora angu-15 kuya kwangu-16, imibuzo eminingi ayithembeli kumengameli akhe, wazama ukunquma konke. UMongameli we-40 - uRonald Reagan - wenza okuphambene nalokho. Wasebenza kusukela emahoreni angu-10 kuya kwangu-16, exazulula izinkinga eziyisisekelo kuphela, futhi konke okunye kwaphathiswa ithimba labaphathi bezwe abaqeqeshiwe kakhulu, abaceliwe kakhulu kulezi zinsuku eziyisithupha. Kwakuyisenzo seReagan esivumela iMelika ukuba iqhube phambili phambili kwezomnotho.
Kodwa lapha kukhona umbuzo owodwa: kanjani ukuqinisekisa ukuthi lezi zisebenzi zokuqala "azihlali" umholi yena ngokwakhe, futhi wabanikeza ukukhanya okuluhlaza? Umholi, owayehlala "phansi", uyasola. Ngakho-ke, angizange ngibone izisusa zabasebenzi futhi angizange ngizisize ukuba zizisebenzise ngesikhathi, azizange zidale isimo sezulu esishukumisayo. Emva kwakho konke, kaningi siphutha ubudlelwane nabaqalile ngenxa yokuhlakanipha kwethu okuphansi kwengqondo.
Igama elithi "ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo" phakathi neminyaka engama-90 ekhulwini leminyaka elidlule laziswa nguMelika Daniel Goleman. Ukuhlakanipha komzwelo yikhono lomuntu ukuhumusha imizwa yabo kanye nemizwelo yabanye ukuze basebenzise ulwazi abatholile ukuze baqaphele imigomo yabo. Ngemva kokufunda izinkampani ezingaba ngu-500 emazweni ahlukene iminyaka engu-15, wachaza ukuthi isimo somholi, ukwakhiwa kwe-microclimate enhle eqenjini kuhlobene ngokuqondile nomkhiqizo wabasebenzi kanye nokuthi inkampani isebenzisa abantu abahlakaniphile abadala abangakwazi ukudala inani elengeziwe, okukhulunywe ngenhla.
Ukunyathela Ekuholeni
Indlela yokuthuthukisa amakhono obuholi kuwe? Ukuze ube umqambi wokuqala, kufanele uqale ukumba ngaphakathi komphefumulo wakho. Udinga ukuthola imbangela yokungalondeki. Isinyathelo sokuqala ukubukeza isipiliyoni sangaphambilini esakuholela kuleli zwe. Lokhu kungaba buhlungu kakhulu. Isinyathelo sesibili ukusetha umgomo ohlakaniphile. (I-SMART isifingqo esakhiwe kusuka ezinhlokweni ezinkulu zamagama esiNgisi: okuqondile, okulinganiswayo, okufinyelelekayo, okuyiqiniso, okuphelile .Leli gama lichaza enye yezindlela zokwenza imigomo esheshayo). Ubhala ephepheni ukuthi yikuphi okufunayo ukufezekisa nokuthi yimaphi amagama. Ngenxa yalokho, wena, njengokungathi, uzihlela ngokwakho ukufeza lo mgomo. Futhi isinyathelo sesithathu ukuhamba ngaphezu kwemingcele yendawo yakho yokududuza. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukuzichazela ukuthi usulungele ubunzima.
Ngokumangalisa , ukuzihlela ngokwakho ukufeza umgomo osebenzayo. Kungenxa yokuthi umuntu uqala ukufuna izindlela zokuwusebenzisa. Futhi ngenxa yalokho, kubonakala amathuba amasha. Njengoba bethi, bamba futhi uzovulwa.
Kodwa ngokukhuliswa kobuholi, izimfanelo zokuqala, udinga ukusekelwa kwangaphandle, isimo sengqondo esihle salabo abakuzungezile. Umuntu "isibalo esiphakathi" sabantu abahlanu abasondelene nabo. Ngakho, bheka ngokucophelela okukuzungezile. " Ngendlela, ngenxa yesizathu esifanayo, kuneluleka ukuba uhlale kude ne-losers kanye ne-whiners, kungenjalo kuzodingeka ukuthi kufakwe "kwisibalo sabo sesilinganiso. Kodwa-ke, ukushintsha imvelo yakho, ukuqoqa abantu abazokusekela futhi bakucindezele, hhayi ukudonsa phansi, umsebenzi awulula. Ngempela, hhayi kuphela esikukhethayo, kodwa nathi. Ngakho-ke, ukuze uthole abantu "abalungile", kubalulekile, okokuqala, ukushintsha wena.
Futhi "izitini" zokugcina ekwakheni izimfanelo zobuholi ezizimele ngokwakho ukufunda ngokufanele, ukuhlanganisa okulindelweyo nezimangalo. Kalula nje, ukuze ufeze umgomo omkhulu, udinga ukuziqhayisa kancane, ukungabi nalutho, ukuphawula. Uma kungenjalo, ubuholi obunjalo buyaguquka, futhi ekugcineni, buqala ukulimaza umuntu. Akusizo ngalutho ukuthi bathi bonke abantu abakhulu ngempela balula. Futhi uma sibambelela kuzo zonke izincomo, khona-ke ngamunye wethu uzokwazi ukufinyelela eziqongweni zethu.