Ngubani esikubiza ngokuthi umuntu olula
Lowo ongeke "asithwale" ngezinkinga zakhe, akaxazululi izinkinga zakhe ngezindleko zethu futhi akaziqinisekisi yena ngokwakhe, efakazela ukuthi siyiziphukuphuku. Lesi sici saso esiyinhloko. Futhi kubonakala ngathi umuntu olula ngokwakhe uya kulokho esikuphumelelayo ukulwa nalokho esikufisayo - imiyalo enenzuzo, ukuhlonishwa kwamadoda, ubungane besifazane, indlu yokuhlala phakathi nendawo, indlu olwandle, izingane ezibelethwe kahle kanye noninazala. Futhi siyawuthanda lo mkhuba noma simhalele, singazi nokuthi uyakhokha kanjani nokuthi kulula kangakanani. Kulula ukuxhumana naye, ngoba asizwa izikhalazo mayelana nekusasa lakhe kuye. Indoda elula ayinqamuki isimo sakhe esibi kithi, asixhomeki kithi usizi lwakhe, aluyikushiya uhlangothi lomnyama phambi kwethu, futhi alusabeki ukukhuluma ngokungagwebi, njengamakhoveli kaDostoevsky. "Ukukhanya" komuntu okhanyayo kunomqondo omuhle - unemibono nemigomo, umane nje akafaki imibono yakhe kunoma ubani futhi akavimbeli abanye ukuba baphile njengoba bebona kufanelekile. Umuntu olula unenkani kakhulu - kodwa kuphela ezimweni ezihlukile. Kungaba nobuqili futhi kuyinkimbinkimbi. Kodwa ukusola komuntu olula akungaboni muntu - kuyithinta kanye nezinye izici zabanye abangakwazi ukuzilungisa kalula. Isibonelo somuntu olula nguKsenia Sobchak. Abaningi bathi izuze ukuphumelela okusheshayo emiphakathini yakudala - ubaba wakhe wayenguMeya waseSt. Petersburg. Eqinisweni, umsebenzi kaSobchak ubonakala kulula kakhulu ngoba awufaki ukucindezela abanye mayelana nobunzima obunzima kanye nomthwalo wemisebenzi yakhe "yokwenza umsebenzi wokwenza umsebenzi." Uphothule e-University of Russia ehlonishwa kakhulu - uMGIMO, waba omunye wabaholi abakhulu kunazo zonke kuthelevishini nakumsakazo, wathatha izingxoxo ezibucayi ze-GQ, wabhala izihloko nezincwadi, wahlaziya izingubo emagazini ethi "Ubulili Nomuzi." Futhi konke lokhu kwenza kube ukudlala futhi, njengokungathi, ngendlela. Yebo, uyathanda ukushusisa izilaleli. Kodwa ngubani othi umuntu olula kufanele abe yisibonelo sokuziphatha komphakathi? Akekho! U-Xenia uyazijabulisa ngokuzithandela futhi uziqhathanisa "nesidlo semilenze yamanqamu" esiphundu, esingawuthandi wonke umuntu. Uhleka usulu izingubo ezingenambitheka kanye nezindlela ezihlekisayo zabameleli bezwe elihle laseRussia. Yebo, ingubo ayikhuli esikhumbeni, ungashintsha izindlu zangasese, nemikhuba nayo iyakulungiswa. Kodwa ngokwami, angizange ngiyibambe ngokungahambi kahle ngokuphathelene nezinselele zomuntu noma ngalezo zimfanelo ezingaphezu kokulawula kwethu: ubuzwe, ukuntuleka kwethalenta. Ukuqinisekiswa okuvamile kokukhululeka kwe-Xenia - unabangane abaningi nabangani abahle. Akayena nje abangane nabo, uthatha ingxoxo nabo futhi abhala izincwadi! Futhi lokhu mayelana nokunethezeka kwalowo mlingisi uthi, okufanelwe ingelosi. Amantombazane angathathwa ngokudlala ngothando nocansi. Omunye wesifazane akazibophezeli ngokwakhe, uphendula ngokubekezela nokuphana. Inkanyezi ekhombisa ukungaboni kahle uTina Kandelaki uthi "kulula ukuba umngane no-Xenia" - ukhuluma kahle futhi usiza okuningi. Abakwa-Ksenia abaqashi nabalingani babo abasebenza kahle bahamba kahle. Ngesinye isikhathi ikati elikhulu elimnyama lagijima phakathi kwakhe nonina. Kodwa u-Xenia akazange amtshele ngakho emphakathini. Ukushayisana kwamanoveli abo kwakulula ukwabelana, ukwazi ukuthi imininingwana yothando lomunye umuntu iyathandeka kanjani. Futhi mayelana nezingxabano zasekhaya bekungathuli - kunzima ukukhululeka, ukuphazamisa abanye.
Kungani kulula kumuntu olula ukuhlala
Uyamjabulisa kulabo abakuzungezile futhi umenywa ukuvakashelwa, ukumenywa ukuba asebenze futhi ahambe ndawonye. Ukukhanya kumvumela ukuba ashintshe masinyane amaqhinga akhe kuye ngokuthi isimo sizuze kanjani impumelelo. Ake sithi awuzange ucele noma yini, ngoba kwakungekho isidingo, kodwa kwakudingeka ukuthi ugcine indawo yomsebenzi ngesikhathi sokubeletha kokubeletha - cela ubuhlungu futhi uqhubeke, futhi akukho lutho kuwe aluphuli futhi aluphuli. Ngangizibheka njengowesifazane ozimele, angizange ngibe nensimbi ezandleni zami, angizange ngifake i-pan yokuthosa esitofu, futhi manje ngithandana futhi ngifuna ukwenza into enhle kumthandekayo wami. Awunyuki emabhodleleni futhi ungadli - "ukuthi mina, nginesizotha kangakanani futhi ngifundiswa, ngincike, nginamahloni, ngensimbi nasekhishini." Uyakwazi ukuthi yonke le mibandela iyadlula. Pho kungani kuphakama? Uthando luzoshintshwa ngothando oluhlala njalo, bese-ke inceku izovela endlini. Noma izohlakazeka, bese-ke indoda izohamba - futhi i-trousers nayo iyoyithatha. Futhi njengabo bonke abantu abulula ongeke ubambelele kulowo ongasebenzi - akeke uhambe. Kuyoba khona omunye. Awulwisani nokuphila - kukuthwala ekusakazeni kwawo.
Ubani oyindoda enzima?
Indoda esindayo isicindezela kithi, kuyimpilo kanzima kuye. Ngisho nekhanda lakhe liphuma kuye, njengoba eqinisa izinkinga zakhe ezingaxazululwa, umbono wakhe omubi wezwe nemizwa yakhe. Uhlale egcizelela inani eliphezulu anikezwa lona. Uziqinisa futhi uzivocavoca ngezinye izindleko ngaphandle kokuzwela nokuzijabulisa. Ngezinye izikhathi uyaphula iqiniso lesibeletho kangangokuthi akukho ndawo ehlala kuyo. Uhlale enenkani futhi ephikelela eyedwa, ngisho nasezintweni ezincane. Xhumana naye - kungathi izimoto zilayishwa. Ngifuna ukuphunyuka kuye futhi ngingalokothi ngihlangane. Ngaphandle kwalokho, umuntu onzima unethalente, uhlakaniphile, unomusa futhi uziphatha kahle. Abagxeki nababukeli basabonga umlingisi uFaina Ranevskaya, bekhala ukuthi kuncane kangakanani edlala indima enhle, uzwela inhlanhla yakhe empilweni yakhe siqu kanye nobudala bakhe obudala obungenakujabula - ngaphandle kwengilazi yamanzi ayengamniki muntu. Basola u-Ranevskaya ngokuba engakhululekile ngengqondo enzima. Kodwa zonke izinkinga uRanevskaya azikho emqondweni okhaliphile, kodwa kusukela esindayo-esindayo, njengesisindo esinamandla, umlingiswa. U-Ranevskaya wayengumngane oqinile nobuhle be-star star uLyubov Orlova, obole imali leyo futhi wadla endlini yakhe. Futhi ngezwi elikhulu: "I-Orlova ingumdlali wezithombe ezinhle kakhulu. Into eyodwa ayiphutha ngezwi lakhe - izwi lakhe. Lapho ehlabelela, kubonakala sengathi umuntu ugoqa endaweni engenalutho. " Izwi lakhe lalibuthakathaka ngempela futhi lishaya. Kodwa akusekho perekovat, ngakho-ke kungani ukhathazeka intombi kulabo abagulayo - ngenxa yegama elibomvu noma ngenxa yomona? U-Lubov Orlova Ranevskaya uhloniphe ngethalente lakhe futhi uthembekile futhi lesi simo sengqondo sasibekezelela, kodwa abanye abangane abavela kuRanevskaya bavutha. Akungabazeki ukuthi umqondisi uzonikeza umlingisi indima enkulu kakhulu uma, ngokuphendula athi: "Faina, usudlile yonke uhlelo lwami ngama-antics akho!" Uthi: "Nginomuzwa wokuthi ngigcwele ukuphamba." Ngakho uRanevskaya wakhuluma nomqondisi omkhulu waseRussia uZavadsky. Wayengaziboni ukuthi kwakudingeka ukuba anqobe umlingisi wakhe onzima futhi akazange adonsele phansi ukuze achaze. Umqondisi waqeda ukumemeza wathi: "Phumani emcimbini wezemidlalo!" Waphendula: "Phumani ngobuciko!" Bahlale bebekezelela: umqondisi omkhulu kanye nomdlali we-actress omkhulu baqonda ukuthi babengenakuphila ngaphandle komunye nomunye. Kodwa isilonda sasihlala. Futhi uma uZavadsky engakwazi ukunikeza indima kaRanevskaya, akazange akwenze, ukuze angahlekwa usulu ngaye, ahlukumezwe ngokuphindaphindiwe futhi athunyelwe. I-Viktor Rozov, umlobi odlala umdlalo odumile "Forever Living", owake waqhayisa ngoRanevskaya: "Ukudlala kwami kokugcina kwaba yimpumelelo! Kwakukhona impi yangempela ngaphambi kwehhovisi lebhokisi! "URanevskaya wathi:" Abantu bakwazi kanjani ukubuyisela imali? "Ngaphandle kwalokho, wayenomqondo olula, eqondile futhi eqotho njengengane. Futhi akukho lutho oluthile oluthile olwalubungcweti ekhelini lomunye umuntu olungacabangi. Nginentombi, into efana noRanevskaya. Ngiyazi uma ngidinga usizo, uzoza kimi ngobusuku obubili. Kodwa ngaphambi kokumhlangana naye e-cafe ngokukhulumisana ngobuhlobo, umuntu kufanele agxilise, aqoqe amandla futhi aqinise izikhali zokulwa nokuvimbela okungapheliyo emhlabeni kanye nobuwula bomuntu.
Kuphi abantu abakhanyayo nabanzima
Abazalwa, baba. Ngokusho kwengqondo, sizalwa ngaphandle komuntu nhlobo. Ekuzalweni, kunesimo sengqondo - udlame, njengobunamafutha obuhlungu, noma obuhlungu ngokudabukisayo, njenge-melancholic, fast and agile njengegazi, noma kancane, njenge-phlegmatic. Sithola amakhono nokuthambekela - isibonelo, ukubonga isibhakabhaka nokufunda izinto ezintsha noma ukufundisa nokufundisa. Futhi yilokho konke. Umlingisi esiwuthola ngesikhathi sokuphila. Ngempela, isimilo sethu sengqondo kithi nakwabanye, kanye nemikhuba yethu. Isisekelo sibeke umama nobaba, kuze kube yilapho ingane iphenduka eyisikhombisa. Khona-ke kuthonywa isikole nezihlobo. Abanye bethu bathola ithuba elihle kakhulu kubazali bethu: ingane eqinisekisiwe futhi ethandekayo itholakala kwabanye, ayicindezeli abanye, ayibekeli imibono yakhe kunoma ubani futhi iyenze, njengoba ibona kufanelekile. Futhi abanye bakhuliswa ngokusola kokuthula futhi benganaki umphakathi. Kunoma yikuphi, lapho eneminyaka eyishumi nanhlanu noma eyishumi nesithupha, abanye abantu sebevele besimisa ukuba senze. Futhi sikhululiwe ngokuphelele ethonyeni labanye. Lapha kuyamukelwa ukumemeza: "Okukhulile - okukhulile!" Futhi impilo yami yonke, uma kungenjalo, ukukhononda ngabazali nesikole: Angizange ngifundiswe futhi ngifundiswe. Kodwa empeleni kuyisikhathi esilungile-iqiniso. Lapho uneminyaka engamashumi amabili ubudala, isimo asithinteki abanye - abazali, umyeni, abangane. Umama wendodakazi endala, nayo yonke isifiso sakhe, ayifuni ekuziphatheni kwakhe. Umyeni ngeke amenze azwele, intombi iyasebenza. Intukuthelo yakhe ingashintshwa yedwa ngokwengqondo yemicabango yakhe ngokuphathelene naye kanye nokuphila. Sinikwe ukwenza uhlamvu lwethu lube lula noma lunzima. Ukuzikhethela kungokwethu.
Ukuze ususe, udinga ukukala kancane
Kunomzuzwana onjalo empilweni lapho sisendleleni phambi kwesithiyo. Yini okufanele ngiyenze ukuze ngilinqobe: ukuze ngibe lula futhi ngiphakamise ngaphezu kwayo - noma ngibe nzima futhi ngigwebe igebe kuwo? Ukuze ukhule, udinga ukuphonsa i-ballast. Futhi ngale ndlela kuyabuhlungu kakhulu. Kufanele ngiyeke imikhuba eminingi enhle enhliziyweni yami: "Ngivame ukuphuza", "Ngiphuza itiye kuphela izithelo", "Ngivuka ekuseni ekuseni." Futhi yeka ukuthi ifu lezimiso ezinamanzi eliwela igazi lilingani esigabeni se-ballast: "Ngihlale ngitshela iqiniso", "Ngivikela ubulungiswa", "Uthando luhlala lungile!". Ngesikhathi esifanayo ulahlekelwa amathandabuzo enhliziyweni ngemikhaya yasekhaya: "Sasihlale sigubha uNyaka Omusha nomndeni" noma "Umndeni omkhulu iyinhlangano enkulu". Ucabangela ngokucophelela izilo zakho zangaphakathi - isibonelo, isifiso sokwenza ukwesaba kwabanye futhi ujabulele. Futhi ucabanga ukuthi ngabe lesi silo sifihlekile esihlakalweni ukuze singesabi noma ubani, noma ngabe singayigodli intamo yakhe. Okokuqala kunzima, okwesibini akunakwenzeka. Okokugcina, ulahlekelwe konke okungenakuqhathaniswa, ukulungele ukuthola imikhuba emisha nokubona izimiso zabanye abantu, ukwazi ukubuka impilo kusuka emibonweni ehlukene, awusabesabi ngokunye nokungaphumeleli kwakho. Futhi, njengengelosi, uhamba ngaphezu kwezwe futhi ubona: akudingeki ukuba uqinisekise noma yini kumphathi wakho kulo msebenzi - yisikhathi sokubheka okusha, futhi akukho lutho olungakhuthazwa nomngane - yisikhathi sokumthethelela ngephutha lesingozi. Futhi-ke ungaphakathi ehhovisi elisha lapho uhlonishwa kakhulu, futhi intombazane exolelwe ifinyelela ehlombe lakho futhi ikufungela ubungane obungunaphakade. Ukuze ukhululeke kufanele ukhokhe ngokuthi uzihlakulele futhi uvuselele njalo. Ngezinye izikhathi usubuhlungu obukhulu ngakho konke okwephula. Ngisho noma kuwumkhuba omubi ukubhema phezu kwekomishi yekhofi. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi, ngemva kokuyeka ngokweqile, uzizwa ukhathele futhi ufinyelela kuZen egcwele, uma kubonakala sengathi akukho lutho olubalulekile. Futhi kubalulekile ukuxabana nomunye umuntu ukuze ube nzima. Izimfanelo zakho ezimbi, ezifakwe esifuba esingokomfanekiso, ekhoneni lokuqaphela, ngezikhathi ezithile zidinga ukuhoxiswa, futhi kufanele ubambe iqinile ukuze ungaphumi, uchithe amandla akho nezinzwa zakho, okwenza kube nokudabuka nokunganakwa ngezikhathi ezithile. Futhi-ke kufanele ukhulule "i-monster" yakho inkululeko, ukuze ungaqhubeki ukucindezeleka. Ngakho-ke, omunye wabesifazane abakhulu kunabo bonke engake ngibone empilweni yami, intando yeningi kanye nezinganekwane, ngezinye izikhathi uzivumela ukuba kukhanye lokho okungalungile ukuthi izindlebe zakhe zishise ezindlebeni zomuntu wonke. Yiqiniso, ukhetha ukufakaza kuphela labo abathembekile futhi abanamandla okwanele ukulwa nokufutheka kwakhe futhi bangadangali kuso. Obuthakathaka, onamahloni futhi othandana naye akutholaki.
Inkinga enkulu yendoda enzima
Akunakwenzeka kunoma ubani. Futhi ihlaselwa njalo abanye abantu. Umuntu okhanyayo wabaleka phezu kwabo futhi, uma engafuni ukwenza ngenhloso, akazange amthinte noma ubani, futhi indoda enzima yayidinga ukuhamba ngayo. Kusobala ukuthi abantu bathukuthele, banamathele, beka izinti zabo esiteshini, ukukhathazeka. Futhi umuntu onzima njalo ulwa nomuntu noma uvikelekile kumuntu. Ngezinye izikhathi indoda enzima ibonisa abanye ubunzima nobuqili bobuhle bayo: "Ngimbi futhi nginesihluku" -kuziqhenya ngokukhethekile: "Ngeke ngihambe ngenxa yobuntu bami" - futhi ulindele ngasese ukuthi izilo zakhe zithande naye. Kodwa siyizilwane zasemzini, njengomthetho, abangenabubele. Sinezethu. Futhi sigwema abantu abanobunzima.
Owesifazane njengo-champagne - amathumba, kodwa akafudumali
Ayikho impendulo engacacile yokuthi yiluphi uhlobo lomuntu olungcono. Mhlawumbe, ngoba lona wesifazane konke okufanayo kuyadingeka kalula. Ngomuntu siqu, kubonakala kimi ukuthi isilonda esinzima siyamukeleka kakhulu kumuntu futhi angakhululekile kowesifazane. Indoda enobudlova obunzima, i-zanudlivo-engathembeki-enamathele - noma enobunzima-engokwemvelo-enobuqili, njengoDkt House, mhlawumbe emsebenzini uyaphumelela, futhi siyahlonipha, abangane - bayakwazisa. Owesifazane uzofika kuye, ozozivumelanisa naye, futhi uyojabula ekuphileni komkhaya wakhe. Futhi mayelana nothando lwendawo yonke - indoda ayinasithakazelo kuso. Futhi kuwesifazane kufanele kube nokukhanya, okukhazimulayo: weza, waphefumulela wonke umuntu, ekhanyisiwe, ekhanyisiwe - futhi wagijima. Futhi abangaphansi bayo abaphefumulelwe abanebuso obukhanyayo basebenza usuku lonke. Owesifazane okhanyayo ulungele ukuhola abalandeli, abangane nezihlobo ngesandla sakhe, ukudansa, ukukholisa nokuthokoza. Amadoda afana nalawa besifazane, abangane babo badonsela kubo. Futhi ngathi kubaluleke kakhulu - ukuba sithande ... Siningi kakhulu kuningi. Imvelo enzima yowesifazane kuyisithiyo esiyinhloko emshadweni. Futhi akukho ubuhle obumxephezelayo, ngoba abantu abavumelani nabesifazane. Bayasikhathalela - endaweni ethile. Futhi-ke konke, ukuhlukanisa noma ukunakekelwa. U-Naomi Campbell - ubuhle be-panther-ayengadingekile kunoma ubani, ngoba uhlamvu lwakhe lunzima futhi aluphelelanga: waphonsa ifoni ephathekayo ibe yizinceku, i-paparazzi yamshaya ngesikhwama, yazama ukukhipha amehlo akhe emithwalweni elahlekile. Angikaze ngishadile, nakuba sengishintshile kakade iminyaka eyishumi, hhayi ngoba angifuni - kungukuthi akekho owenzayo. Ngaphandle kokuba uMninimzi waseMoscow uDorinin ahlangane naye - futhi awubeke endlini ehlukile kancane kancane.