Uma ukholelwa ezichazamazwi ezichazayo kanye nochwepheshe ezindaweni ezihlukahlukene zesayensi, izinzwa yikhono lokubona imizwelo eqinile kunoma yikuphi, ngisho nalokho okuncane, okushiwo. Akukho mzimba okhethekile obhekene nalekhono, kodwa kungcono nakakhulu - ungasebenzisa amehlo akho, impumulo, isikhumba, namafabheji enambitha. Futhi kungcono konke ngesikhathi esisodwa - khona-ke ukuzwa kuzoba okugcwele. Lapha yonke into ifana nokudla: uma ngesikhathi sekhefu ungazithola ubanda kakhulu, ngisho nokudla okumnandi kakhulu futhi okuhlwabusayo ongawaqondi. Uma ukunambitheka okumnandi nephunga le-dish kubonakala njengezintaba zezinambuzane zamazambane, akukho lutho olungakujabulela. Futhi okunye okunye, lapho zombili umlomo, impumulo nomama zijabulela isaladi, lapho imifino ikhula khona, amafutha omnqumo azwakala kalula futhi amaqabunga e-basil aphendulela eluhlaza. Eqinisweni, kuyafana nesigaba esiseduze sokuphila kwakho: ngoba injabulo yokuphelela, akudingeki nje ukuba wenze ukunyakaza okungezansi futhi hhayi kakhulu, kodwa futhi ukulalela lezo zitho zokuzwa ezikwazi ukuphendula. Kuhlala nje ukulinganisela ukuthi yini eyokucasula wena ngokwakho.
Susa izingubo phambi kwekhamera
Ukuba yisibonelo sezithombe ezingcolile kuyindlela enhle yokuziphumula futhi uzame ngokwakho indima ongase uhlale uyiphupha. Futhi ungasheshi ukuxosha le nketho, ngaphansi kwendwangu yokucabanga (noma cha) i-cellulite ne-shyness yemvelo. Ukudubula nomthwebuli wezithombe kuhle kakhulu ukuthi kungathuthukisa ukuzethemba: okokuqala, ngokuqwashisa ngesibindi somuntu siqu, futhi okwesibili, ngenxa yamakheli awenziwe ngezandla ezinamakhono-lokho kuzoba yisiqinisekiso sobulili bakho. Futhi okubalulekile lapha akusikho ubuningi bokungabi namuntu (mhlawumbe ngokwanele, kanye nehlombe elingenalutho), kungakanani ukuzimisela kwesimo kanye nemizwa yakho ngesikhathi senqubo. Uma umzimba wakho kuyinto yokunakekelwa, kuyajabulisa ngempela.
Musa:
- ukwethemba izithombe nge-photographer we-amateur nabangane - kungcono ukubeka phambi kwekhamera esebenza ngemodi yokuzenzakalelayo;
- ukuhlukumeza utshwala ngesibindi;
- ukubeka izibhamu ezikhangayo ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi;
- Gcina izithombe eziseduze kwikhompyutha yomsebenzi noma efonini ephathekayo.
Khumbula ukuthi i-marivanna yayingavumi ukudumisa imizwa yakho yesikole - kulokhu ngeke ubhale umphakathi, kodwa wena. Umsebenzi oyinhloko ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuveza ngamazwi izifiso zakho eziyimfihlo kakhulu. Isazi salolu daba u-Sigmund Freud saphawula ngesizathu sokuthi imizwelo esiyicindezelayo iyasuswa ngokungazi lutho futhi iholela ezifweni ezihlukahlukene nasezintweni ezihlukahlukene. Ngendlela, ukuhlazeka nokuzithoba, okuyinto evame ukulimaza amantombazane amnandi, uyise we-psychoanalysis, futhi, akabheki njengesijwayelekile, kodwa ama-echoes of traumas traumas. Ngakho-ke, faka i-fantasy futhi uye kuzo zonke izinto ezingathí sina (okwamanje - ephepheni). Futhi ungakhohlwa ngezincazelo eziningiliziwe kakhulu zento yonke eyenzekayo: kusuka kumnandi futhi umsindo wezingxube ezinxenyeni ezahlukene zomzimba - esikhathini esizayo, leso sososayensi singase sibe i-aphrodisiac yakho eyimfihlakalo, kusize ukuvumelanisa nokuzizwa kahle ngaphambi kosuku.
Musa:
- cela abangane noma ozakwabo ukuthi bahlole indaba;
- ukushicilela kuyi-intanethi;
- isoka noma isilisa njengesiqondiso sokusetshenziswa.
Enye indlela enokwethenjelwa yokwenza izifiso zabo zizwakale nge-SMS-ngokocansi. Kuyathakazelisa kakhulu kunokwenza amagama, ngoba kuhilela ukuhlanganyela komunye umdlali nethuba lokuthola impendulo engokomzwelo. Yiqiniso, kuzodingeka sigcine izindlebe zethu zivulekile futhi singavumeli ukuthi izincwadi zihambe kahle, ikakhulu uma ziqhutshwa nomlingani ovamile. Yize kunezinzuzo ezingenasisekelo: okokuqala, ngoba lokhu kuyimidlalo, ungenakho ukwesaba ukuveza izifiso ezingaphezulu noma ezingaphansi kwamanje ezingakafiki, futhi okwesibili, ngezinga eliphakeme lokungenzeka, ukukhulumisana okubonakalayo kuzolandelwa umhlangano kanye nomzimba ovunguvunguzayo fantasy.
Musa:
- nomyeni ophilayo uhlela i-SMS-ingxabano nomunye umuntu;
- thumela imilayezo kumlingani nomunye umuntu noma inombolo yomsebenzi;
- gcina ukuxhumana lapho umuntu emhlanganweni webhizinisi noma ngokushayela.
Izinqubo zamanzi ezinjalo zisebenza ngokushesha ngezimbalwa eziningana: ukukhulula ukucindezeleka kwemisipha nokuqina, ukunikeza ukuzwa okungavamile okungokwenyama (ikakhulukazi uma amanzi epholile) futhi negalelo ekuthuthukiseni i-adrenaline, evame ukuhambisana nokuvuswa kocansi.
Musa:
- ukugeza ezindaweni ezingavamile futhi ezingavunyelwe, ikakhulukazi emehlweni abantwana nebekhulile.
Kumantombazane ahlala kude nolwandle, imifula namachibi angasese, ukuzijabulisa okunye kuyakhelwe: ungafaki izingubo zangaphansi zangaphansi zangaphansi. Ungakhubeki: ngokusho kwezibalo, abesifazane abangaba ngu-10% basesimweni esibukwayo, kanti ucwaningo lwe-Americanistologist uCharlotte Casp luye lwafakazela ukuthi ukubonisa umzimba womuntu kusiza ukuqonda ukuvuswa kobulili ngisho nalabo abanenkinga ebusweni obuseduze. Ngakho-ke, uma wazi kuphela ngokuntuleka kwelineni, asikho isizathu sokukhathazeka ngempilo yakho yengqondo.
Musa:
- hamba ukuhamba ngaphandle kwelineni ngenkathi ebandayo: ngeke ujabule, kodwa ungakwazi ukubamba kalula umkhuhlane;
- ubalekele ezokuthutha zomphakathi, ikakhulukazi uma unquma ukuya ekukhanyeni ngaphandle kwama-panties.
Ukubamba ezandleni zakho zobuchwepheshe obuseduze futhi uzibheke kokuthile okuzuzisa, akudingeki ukuba udideke "esitolo" sesifunda kubantu abadala. Eyanda kakhulu eMelika naseYurophu, amaqembu emakhaya ayamenywa intombazane enomngane ophethe i-suitcase egcwele yemikhiqizo emisha evela embonini yezocansi kusukela ezimonyo kuya emadivaysi kagesi angahlelwa eRussia. Manje kukhona izitolo eziningi ze-Inthanethi ezihlinzeka ngaleyo nsizakalo. Ngakho ungaqoqa ngokuphepha abangani bemibuthano yasekhaya futhi ujabule, ucabange izici, funda okuthile okusha, futhi uhlele noma yiziphi izinto ozithandayo kule nkulumo. Vumelana, kukhululekile kakhulu kunokuhlola izinga elifanayo esitolo sangasese esivamile.
Musa:
- ukufihla izintombi isihloko somcimbi.
Ochwepheshe kwi-psychology of sensations bathi noma yiliphi isici sengqondo, kungaba ikhala, indlebe noma ulimi, ingaqeqeshwa ngokuzivocavoca njalo. Ngakho kungani ungaqeqeshani ezindaweni ezihlukumezayo? Ehlome ngeziqhwa, izimpaphe, izinwele zoboya, izintambo, ngokujwayelekile, noma yiziphi izesekeli ukuthi, ngokusola kwakho, zingaba nomuzwa omuhle, futhi zifunde ngokuhlelekile izingxenyana ezahlukene zomzimba wakho. Lo msebenzi othakazelisayo ngeke usize nje ukuba uchithe kusihlwa, kodwa futhi uzilalele, uqaphele izifiso zakho uphinde ufike ngezikripthi zemidlalo eseduze yesikhathi esizayo. Futhi ukwenza umphumela ubonakale nakakhulu, zizungeze ngehle: vula umculo omnandi futhi uzihlanganise nento ehlanjululwe - njenge-caviar noma i-cream-brule. Ngakho weluleka ukwenza isazi sezengqondo seCanada esaziwayo nomlobi wezitolo eziningi ezithengisa kakhulu uLiz Burbo. Uqinisekile ukuthi akusiyo nje izinzwa ezithintekayo ezidinga ukuthuthukiswa, kodwa futhi nombono, ukuzwa, ukunambitha, ngoba nazo zengeza ukugcwele imizwa, kufaka phakathi ngesikhathi socansi. Ngendlela, le ndlela ayikho ukulinganiselwa kanye nokuphikisana, futhi ifanele ngokuphelele wonke umuntu nomuntu wonke.