Singesaba ukuthi okhethiwe omusha ngeke afane nothando lwakho oludlule. Ngokungazelelwe uzodumazeka? Ngokungazelelwe uzokunika leyo mizwa eyayihlangene nendoda esedlule.
Uyesaba ukwamukela uthando lomuntu, ngoba ucabanga ukuthi uzokhubeka, noma ukhashelwa. Ngenxa yalokhu kwesaba, ngokuvamile ubuhlobo buyehla noma abuvunyelwe ngisho nokuqala. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, abesifazane bavame ukukhetha ubuhlobo besikhashana, obubizwa ngokuthi ubulili. Ngeshwa, ngemuva kokusindiswa kokungathengi komlingani, owesifazane wesipiliyoni usho ukuthi kungenzeka ubuhlobo obusha, besaba ukuthembela nokuvula umlingani.
Kukhona isizathu sokuthi kukhona ukwesaba ubuhlobo obusha. Lesi sizathu sivela ebuntwaneni uqobo. Uma, abazali bebengesibonelo somndeni ojabulayo, owesifazane ufika esiphethweni sokuthi ngeke abe nomndeni ojabulayo noma. Akwenzeki ngisho naye ukuthi ubuhlobo bungaba lula, bujabule futhi bujabulise. Okuhlangenwe nakho kwabazali abangaphumelelanga ekwakheni ubuhlobo, amaphrojekthi ayesaba ukuqala ubuhlobo bawo.
Uma owesifazane akhulela emndenini ojabule futhi onothando, lapho ayezama khona ukufakazela ukuthi umndeni wesibili onjalo emvelo awusatholakali. Lokhu kuholele ekutheni imibono yabesifazane mayelana nomndeni kanye nobudlelwane idluliselwa kakhulu. Futhi uthole umuntu olungile akunakwenzeka.
Uma ubuza owesifazane umbuzo wokuthi ubona kanjani ubuhlobo bakhe besikhathi esizayo, khona-ke, uzoqala ukubhala izimfanelo umuntu okufanele azidle. Umndeni kufanele ujabule, akufanele kube nokuxabana nezimo zokuphikisana. Uma engaqiniseki ukuthi konke kuyoba khona ngale ndlela, kulula ukuba yedwa kunokuba uhlupheke emshadweni ongajabuli. Izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi inkinga enkulu yabesifazane, ebangela ukwesaba ubuhlobo obusha - ukuthi babheka umuntu ukuba abe "ingubo entsha esitolo." Izifiso zakhe kuphela zicatshangelwa. Ekuqaleni, akakulungeli ukunikeza ubuhlobo.
Uma owesifazane ehlula yena, wamukela impilo nakho konke okuzungezile njengento yangempela, khona-ke uyoba nethuba elingcono lokwakha ubuhlobo obuhlala njalo. Ukwesaba kanye nomthelela wezinkolelo-mbono akuzona izici zabantu abadala nabantu abazizethemba.
Ukuphepha kungesinye ukwesaba ubuhlobo obusha. Ukuzihlonipha okuphansi kwenza ukuba owesifazane angaboni ukuthi kungenzeka ukwakha umndeni noma ngisho nokwenza uthando olufushane.
Kulesi simo, kuneseluleko esisodwa kuphela: qala uthando futhi uzethembe.
Abesifazane abanamandla nabanethemba bayesaba ubuhlobo. Kukhona izinkolelo ezikubo, ukuthi amandla ayo kanye nesimo sakhe kuzosabisa noma yimuphi umuntu. Igobolondo lalo lingamandla, ubuhle, ukuzethemba, ukuphakama kwabanye. Futhi, eqinisweni, ngaphakathi kwendodakazi yensimbi ihlala intombazane enesisa enesifiso esilula futhi esihle - uthando.
Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa inkululeko, ukuboshwa izimo zengqondo nezibopho ezandleni nasezinyaweni. Owesifazane unokuphila, indoda ayihambisani niche nhlobo. Kuye kanye nobuhlobo nje asinaso isikhathi, ngoba zonke izinsuku zidwetshiwe ngezinto ezincane.
Ukwesaba okukhulu ubuhlobo obusha buhlangene nabesifazane abanabantwana emva komshado wabo odlule. Kubonakala sengathi izingane ngeke zamukele omusha okhethiwe, noma ngeke akwazi ukubhekana nemisebenzi emisha, ngeke abathande izingane, njengoba ethanda. Kulesi simo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi izingane zizokhula ngokushesha noma kamuva zidale ama-soya omndeni, futhi uzohlala emkhombeni ophukile.