Futhi yini okufanele uyenze lapho izimbali-izingane zivalwa njalo futhi zihlala ezweni labo? Abaningi bezengqondo baphenya ngezizathu zokuhlukaniswa kwezingane, kodwa abazange baphumelele esiphethweni esisodwa, ngakho-ke kunombono omkhulu wezimvo nezeluleko zendlela yokukhipha izingane ngaphandle kokuzihlukanisa.
Umbono wezici zengqondo
Iningi labacwaningi bakholelwa ukuthi impande yenkinga kufanele ifunwe ebusheni. Noma kunalokho, ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwengane, ngesikhathi sokubeletha kwakhe. Izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi uma umntwana ezalwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi, cishe cishe amasonto angama-33, cishe, kuyoba isingeniso, umuntu ongobugovu. Isizathu salokhu singasebenza njengokuhlukanisa isikhathi eside nosana nomama ngokushesha ngemuva kokubeletha. Iqiniso liwukuthi izingane ezingakabiphi zithunyelwa ku-Kuvez ngemuva kokuzalwa, igumbi elikhethekile lapho umswakama kanye nokushisa okulondoloziwe kugcinwa khona. Lokhu nakho kuthinta ukuqonda kwengane, ngoba esikhundleni sesisindo sokuqala sokuxhumana nomama, uthola isizungu.
Kodwa ukubhala ukuhlukaniswa kwengane kuphela ekungcoleni kokuqala kuyisiphukuphuku futhi kungalungile. Phakathi kwezinye izizathu, abacwaningi bagxila eziguleni zezingane zisencane. Lapho ingane izwa ubuhlungu, inganaki ngenxa yomkhuhlane ophezulu noma nje ukukhathala, uya ezweni lakhe. Lokhu kwenzeka ngoba isimo esisha sakhe asijwayelekile futhi asijabulisi. Ngakho-ke, ungathathi ingane yakho ingane. Ngezinye izikhathi udinga ukukhuluma naye njengomuntu omdala futhi uchaze isimo. Ngaphezu kwalesi sizathu sokuhlukaniswa kwezingane ezincane - isikhathi esifushane. Lapho nje ingane ithola, zonke izinkinga kanye nezinkathazo ngokwabo ziyashintshashintsha.
Isizathu, esibangelwa izinto zangaphandle, sibi kakhulu. Isibonelo, izingane zesikole zingalimaza kakhulu ukuxhashazwa kontanga ngenxa yezibuko, ukugcwala noma ukuphakama okuncane. Kodwa abantwana bezingane zasenkulisa bangakwazi ukuvalelwa ngokwabo ngenxa yezingxabano phakathi kwabazali babo. Empeleni, cishe zonke izazi zengqondo zithi esinye sezizathu ezivame kakhulu zokuhlukaniswa kwezingane yisimo esingathandeki emndenini. Lapho ingane encane ibona ama-scandals emndenini, kunezinguquko eziphawulekayo embonweni wakhe. Inkinga yukuthi izingane zivame ukukhuluma ngabo bonke abangani babo, kodwa abafuni ukwabelana ngolwazi olunjalo, bazifihla ngokwabo, okuyisizathu sokuxoshwa. Futhi, ngenxa yokuphikisana emndenini, ingane ingazithola ingenangqondo, engadingekile futhi ekugcineni ingabe ingabonakali.
Kanti, ukuhlukaniswa ngokweqile kungasebenza njengokuntuleka kokuxhumana noontanga. Ake sithi ucabange ukuchitha imali enkulisa, uma unogogo ekhaya. Kodwa! Ukuze umntwana akwazi ukuthuthukisa ngendlela efanele, udinga ukuxhumana hhayi kuphela nabantu abadala, kodwa okokuqala kunabantwana abaneminyaka eyodwa. Ngabo, uzokwazi ukwenza okulinganayo, ukwabelana ngolwazi oluthakazelisayo. Yiqiniso, ungahlanganyela nogogo wakho, kodwa kuyoba yini impendulo: "Umnichka! Konke kubaba! "Futhi konke lokhu esikhundleni senkulumompikiswano elindelekile, ngoba izinto azikhulumayo zibonakala zibalulekile futhi zibalulekile. Kuyoba nzima kumuntu omdala ukusekela le ngxoxo "ngokulinganayo". Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi kudingeka "ulale" nengane, zama kule minyaka ukuyiqonda njengomuntu omdala. Futhi, ukuntuleka kokuxhumana nabangane kungabangela ukungakwazi ukuxhumana nabo. Futhi akufanele kusimangaze ukuthi ingane yakho ayikwazi ukuthola ulimi oluvamile nezingane, awuzange umnike leli thuba.
Kulungile-ke. Izizathu zichazwe, manje kuyafaneleka ukubona ukuthi ingane yakho ivaliwe ngempela noma ingumcabango wakho wendawo. Mhlawumbe ungumuntu othanda ukukhulumisana, uthathe izivakashi, iqembu kanye nezinto ezinjalo. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi ingane yakho kufanele ifane ncamashi. Uma ejabula ngokuya esikoleni, kodwa engenabo abangani abangamakhulu lapho futhi ehambela ngokucophelela ukhetho lomngane wakhe, lokho akusho ukuthi uvaliwe. Kumele uqonde ukuthi bonke abantu bahluke ngokuphelele, izimo ezihlukahlukene, abalingiswa, ukuziphatha, ngakho indodana yakho noma indodakazi yakho ivele ingabonakali njengawe, kodwa ayivaliwe nhlobo.
Kungenye indaba uma inkinga ikhona futhi ingane yakho yenqaba ukuya enkulisa, ngoba ayinabo abangane nezithakazelo lapho. Khona-ke udinga ukuqhubekela phambili kwimisebenzi esebenzayo. Indlela engcono kakhulu ukuya engqondweni yengane yengane ezosiza ingane yakho ukuzimela ngokweqile ezingeni lobuchwepheshe.
Kodwa, lokhu akusho ukuthi zonke izinkinga ungakwazi ukuhamba ngokuphepha emahlombe ochwepheshe. Phela, esinye seziphakamiso zesazi sengqondo siqinisekile ukuthi sizoba ngumsebenzi wakho nengane. Singasebenza kanjani nengane futhi siyilahle ngokuzimisela inkinga yokuzihlukanisa, sizokhuluma ngezansi.
Ukulwa nokuhlukaniswa kwengane ekhaya:
1. Ungalokothi ubeke ingcindezi kumntanakho, ungafaki. Ake ucabange endaweni yakhe, ingabe ungagwetshwa ngombuzo othi: "Kwenzekani nawe? Kungani uhlale uthula? "
2. Izingane ezinjalo zibhekwa yi-conservatism, ngesikhathi lapho zidinga olunye ulwazi olusha! Zama ukwehlukanisa impilo yakhe, shintsha isimiso sokulala nokuzijabulisa, ngezwi, ukuzama!
3. Ungakhohlwa ukudumisa ingane. Kumele azi ukuthi wenza okuthile okuwusizo umphakathi okuwudingayo.
4. Zama ukumnaka kakhulu. Ungesabi ukuyiphatha ngothando, ungazitholi zonke izifiso.
5. Hlela amaholidi bese umeme abangani bakho! Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, inzalo yakho izokwazi ukujwayele umphakathi futhi ikhululeke ngokwengeziwe.
6. Konke ngangokunokwenzeka, thatha umntwana ukuba avele ekukhanyeni, wenze ubungane nabangani nezingane zabo. Yenza kucace ukuthi uyaziqhenya ngaye. Lokhu kuzokwengeza ukuzethemba nokuzethemba.
Ngakho-ke, izizathu zicatshangelwa, iseluleko sinikezwa, sisalokhu sisebenzisa konke lokhu kumntanakho noma indodakazi yakho ethandekayo. Into eyinhloko, khumbula ukuthi ukuphela kwengane kusezandleni zakho, futhi uma ungamsizi ukuba aphume esimweni sokuzihlukanisa, khona-ke impumelelo ezweni lanamuhla ayikwazi ukufezeka!