Le ncazelo inikezwa yi-psychology, futhi emcabangweni wokuziphatha - ukuziphendulela, kuqondwa njengombono ohlukile wobugovu. Ngifuna ukucacisa ukuthi ubugovu kumqondo wokuziphatha ukuziphatha, ngokusho ukuthi yisiphi isithakazelo somuntu siqu esithathwa njengento ephakeme. Ngakho-ke, ukuziphendulela nobugovu kunezincazelo ezihlukile, njengoba kuboniswa ulwazi olunikezwe ngenhla. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi phakathi kwalezi zici ezimbili zingalandelwa ubuhlobo obuseduze. Luhlobo luni lokuxhumana, olubonakala luxhuma imiqondo emibili ehluke ngokuphelele. Kodwa empilweni kunezimo lapho izizathu zokuziphendulela zibukeka zifana nobugovu. Okunye okungafanako kungabonakala kumnqopho wesaga esithandwayo - kusukela othandweni ukuzonda isinyathelo esisodwa. Lapho abantu abanokuziphatha okungenakuqhathaniswa komakhelwane babo babonisa uthando olukhulu, lokhu kuyithando.
Ngakho-ke, kwezinye izingxabano zokuziphatha okungazi lutho, ukuziphatha okungenandaba nokuziphatha kuyinto evikelayo. Futhi ngaphansi kwezinqubo zokuvikela e-psychoanalysis kuqondwa izenzo ezingenzi lutho ezivikela ukuhlaselwa okuvela empeleni nokuthula kwangaphakathi komuntu. Kule ncazelo, umqondo wokuhlasela kusho, isibonelo, umona, umhawu, iphutha, iphupho, ukunganeliseki nokunye. Ngakho-ke yiziphi izimo ezizokwenza kube yinto yobugovu? Ukuziqhenya kuyoba ubugovu ezimweni lapho ukulinganiswa, imfundo esebenzayo, ukuxhaswa okungenakuqhathaniswa, ukulahla okungenakuqhathaniswa nokuthandana kwemvelo kuyokwenzeka. Ngingathanda ukuchaza kabanzi ngalunye ngokuningiliziwe. Umqondo wokulinganisa unencazelo elandelayo: kuyisichazo somuntu wezenzo nemicabango evumela ukuba aqonde futhi afihle isisusa sabo sangempela. Okokuthi, umuntu ngokucophelela ukhetha izincazelo ezithile ezinengqondo zezenzo ezithile ezifihla isisusa esihluke ngokuphelele kuye.
Umqondo olandelayo wokubunjwa okusebenzayo kusho ukususwa kwemicabango engathandeki noma ukufaka esikhundleni sabo ngokunye okulula kakhulu ekuphileni. Isibonelo, izingane, phakathi neminyaka yabo esemusha, zibonisa ukuhlukunyezwa kumama wazo, zivame ukuthambekele ekutheni zibheke kulo. Laba bantu babhekene nokuzikhandla, ukuziphatha kwabo kufana nokubonisa. Ukuhambisa okungenasisekelo ukuhambisana nokuvumela abanye ukuba babe nesimo somuntu siqu.
Isibonelo sokuziphatha okunjalo yibesifazane abangakaze babe nabantwana babo, baphathwa nge-hyperopeak kubantwana bezihlobo, abajwayele. Ukuzithoba okuphazamisayo kuwukuphikisana okuphelele nokulahla okunamandla. Lokhu kuziphatha kuyingqayizivele engxenyeni yesithathu engxenyeni yenxantathu yothando, lapho abaphikisanayo beba khona, bazinikele kakhulu. Futhi umqondo wokugcina uluthando olungathandeki, okusho ukuthi ukuziphatha komuntu akunamkhawulo futhi njalo kunika abanye uthando, ngokuphendula ukuthi ufuna ukuthatha isimo sengqondo esifanayo. Abantu ababhekene nalokhu kuziphatha badinga uthando, bavame ukuba nenjongo ekuphileni kwabanye. Ngakho-ke, ngingathanda ukudweba umugqa ngaphansi kwakho konke okushiwoyo bese udweba ezinye iziphetho. Ukudweba iziphetho ezivela ngenhla, ngokuzibandakanya kuvela engqondweni ngombono wokuthi phakathi kwe-altruism kanye nobugovu kuyisinyathelo esisodwa. Lesi simiso sokuziphatha singatholakala empilweni yangempela nsuku zonke, kuhlanganise nezihlobo zethu. Ngithemba ukuthi lolu lwazi luzosiza ukugwema ukungezwani okungase kuphakame.