"Akudingeki ufunge, uyintombazane!" - ngezinye izikhathi uyamemeza enye indoda yangempela, hhayi ukuqonda ukuthi ummeleli wesigamu esihle sabantu angasho kanjani "amagama angcolile" omama. Ngezinye izikhathi inkulumo enjalo ingase izwakale kumfazi ohlakaniphile futhi ongaqapheli umlingani. Kodwa ingabe idemoni elibi kangaka, njengoba eqoshiwe, ingabe lo mlingani uyamncenga owesifazane noma intombazane emehlweni abanye? Ake sibone.
Ngakho-ke, okokuqala, ngifuna ukuqaphela ukuthi cishe yonke into ikhonjwe. Umuntu ongavamile owela emlenzeni uyinto enzima, uhlala ethule noma uthi into ehloniphekile ngempela. Ngicabanga ukuthi abaningi baqagela ukuthi yiliphi igama elivela emhlabeni wonke elifika engqondweni lapho ucabanga ngendaba enjalo. Ngakho-ke, bonke "abagcini bokuhlanzeka kwenkulumo," abaphambanisa kabi umlingani emlonyeni wesifazane, ikakhulukazi uma umuntu ophazamiseka yena engowesifazane, kungenzeka ukuba abe nobuqili noma ngobuzenzisi.
Kuyinto enye, uma kunjalo, lapho intombazane enhle, ethandekayo eqala ukubuka, ivuka phakathi nendawo yokudlela futhi iqala ukuthumela umngane wakhe endaweni yamanzi, ihambisane nakho konke lokhu ngamazwi okufunga okukhethayo akuhloselwe ukuzwa kwezingane. Kuzobukeka okungenani kubi.
Njengoba sibonile, izimo zihlukile. Ngakho-ke owesifazane angamukelwa nini, futhi uma ekwazi ukuphazamisa noma yimuphi owesifazane osemncane?
Okokuqala, izingxabano. Lapho ukushisa okukhulu nokushaqeka okukhulu, ungasho nje. Umuntu ongavamile, intombazane engavamile, uzohlala egameni elikhulunywe ngokuqinile noma uphawu lomlayezo. Ngeke sithi ukuxabana kubi, kufanele kugwenywe, njalonjalo. Konke lokhu kuqondakala kahle, kodwa iqiniso lihlala likhona ukuthi ama-scandal akwenzeka, akukho lutho olungenziwa. Into esemqoka kulokhu ukukhumbula igama elimangalisayo lokuthi akudingekile ukubekezelela ukuxabana endlini. Ungafungela kokubili nabangani bakho kanye nendoda yakho, kodwa ungenzi emphakathini. Uzothola isikhathi sokuxabana, futhi amahloni azobe esilenga kakhulu umthwalo osindayo uma kwenzeka uqaphela abantu abajwayele ukujwayela. Ukuhlaselwa koliustroite endaweni yomphakathi, kunethuba lokuthi uzofuna ukuza lapho okuningi.
Okwesibili, isimo nomntwana. Akekho ongabaza ukuthi izingane zingakwazi ukuletha noma ubani, ziphephile kakhulu, ziyingozi, zingenakunyakaziswa njalo njalo. Kodwa uma uqala ukushadelela obala ngokwakho, bese-ke izingane ezingaphezu kwamanye amazwe - uzobona njenge-hamster engahlambuluki engazi ukuthi angabhekana kanjani nezingane. Ngezingane, ngendlela engcono, kungcono kakhulu ukunciphisa ukusetshenziswa kwamazwi angathandeki, kungenjalo bazokuhlambalaza uma abangane bakho abalulekile, noma ekilasini lesikole sontanga / junior, bethi igama ngencwadi ethi "x." Izingane zibuka abadala futhi ziphinda ziphindaphinda konke, ngakho-ke uma unqabela indodakazi yakho noma indodana yakho ukuba ifunge, futhi njalo futhi nsuku zonke unikeze "isibonelo esibi", izingane zakho zizosebenzisa imishini. Ngokuvamile, uma ungakhathaleli nhlobo - sicela ufundise izingane ukuba zifungise, njll, kodwa uma unendaba it th nedumela, zama ukulandela sobstvennoyrechyu nezingane.
Okwesithathu, imisebenzi yamasiko. Akudingekile ukusho ukuthi izwi elihlukumezayo kugalari yesithombe kufana nomuntu obhemayo. Yebo, lokhu kuyindlela nje, mhlawumbe ngamunye walabo abasemakhaya ulahla i-matynaprav futhi ishiya, kodwa lapha futhi manje isimo siyanqabela ukuba sibonakale ngendlela efanele, lokho kungcono nangokwemvelo. Futhi isiko akuyona nje ukubukeka okuhle, kodwa futhi nenkulumo. Ungakwazi ukuhlehlisa ngeso lengqondo iso lomngane wakho into efana ne-matershinous, yebo, uma ungenayo amandla okuzivimbela ngokwakho, ngenxa yesithombe samagama angewona amagama, amanye amashadi, kodwa yenza njengokuthula ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukuze kungabikho muntu ozokuzwa. Lokhu kuyinhlonipho eyisisekelo okufanele ihlonishwe.
Okwesine, i-intanethi. Le yindawo lapho ungasula khona ngokuphepha uphinde ubonise ngaphakathi kwakho. Lona indawo ekhululekile kunazo zonke, akukho okuphoqelekile kunoma ubani, abangane abalingani nabangane abazokubona njengoba ubonakala kubo, futhi kumlingani we-Inthanethi ubheka imvelo ngempela. Enye into ukuthi kufanele kube khona ohlakaniphile okhomba ukuthi bayintombazane, futhi amantombazane akudingeki afunge, kodwa akufanele unake abantu abanjalo. Yilokhu kanye ncamashi kwi-intanethi ongayithumela ngokuphepha ezincwadini ze-trizwlyh. Ukungaziwa kudlala indima enkulu, ngezinye izikhathi ebalulekile. Uma ungafuni ukulimaza idumela lomfazi ohloniphekile empeleni, ungaqala inethiwekhi yomphakathi kwinethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu, lapho uhlela khona ihoradi. Lokhu kusho ngokukhulu kakhulu, akunjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuthi othile ujabule kakhulu lapho bethi amatshani, kodwa noma kunjalo, uma kufanele uzivimbele emsebenzini ngenxa yabasebenzi bakho, futhi ngenxa yabantwana bakho, kufanele uvumele isivimbela endaweni ethile. Lokhu okungenhla akusho ukuthi udinga ukukhuluma amatshina nomaphi lapho uthanda khona, kwamanye amasayithi bavinjelwe ngempela, ngoba lokhu kungavinjelwa. Kodwa endaweni ethile evunyelwe, evumela ukuthi abahlanganyeli bakhulume ngokukhululekile futhi bengavinjelwe. Okuvamile kakhulu akuyona amaforamu ahloniphekile, kodwa lapho kunokuxhumana komuntu siqu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungamakamelo amancane wengxoxo noma amanethiwekhi omphakathi.
Iyini isiphetho kuzo zonke ezingenhla? Intombazane noma owesifazane angasifunga, akuvunyelwe, kodwa kungcono ukukwenza okungenani, hhayi abantu, bese kuthi uma "kulesi sihloko", kungabizwa ngokuthi "izinkomo."