Yini amadoda ayifunayo? Asiqondi i-logic yabo. Bathi bazisa umusa nokucabangela kwabesifazane, kodwa bona ngokwabo baqothula ngemuva kwezidakamizwa ezinzima. Babheka owesifazane ongenabugovu, kodwa bathandane "neqembu-gerl" elinjalo, uthando lwabo lulinganiswa ukuthi kungenzeka ukuba umuntu azalise impilo yakhe noGucci, Maserati, Tiffany. Baphupha ukuxhuma isiphetho sabo nowesifazane okwazi ukuqonda nokuthethelela, futhi ashade nomuntu othanda ukukhuluma naye. Ngakho liphi iqiniso, futhi yini amadoda ayifunayo kwabesifazane?
"Bheka, bukela, ulalele amadoda, kodwa ungakholelwa lokho okubonakala kubonakala ekuziphatheni kwabo. Funda emkhatsini wemigqa! "- ukweluleka izazi zengqondo. Indoda ifuna ukubona eceleni kwakhe owesifazane olalelayo, kodwa engathandi; ukungabi nabugovu, kodwa ukwazi ukubaluleka kwayo; ukuqonda, kodwa ukuba nombono wakhe. Esikhathini "somgibeli" wesilisa kukhona uhlu lwezidingo eziyisisekelo, ukugcwaliseka kwalo okuzokwenza kube lula ukuthola lo mhlaba ophakathi kakhulu futhi kunikeze le ndoda ngokuqondile lokho akulindele ebuhlotsheni:
Ukulala
Emadodeni, kuhlale kuqala kuqala. Ngalokhu awukwazi ukuphikisana nokuphikisana nezwi lezizathu, hhayi izimo. Kungamkelwa kuphela futhi kuxoxiswane. Indoda ifuna injabulo. Owesifazane wesilisa uhlale ewumthombo wokuthakazelisa: ubuhle, ubulili, ngokomzimba. Kungokwemvelo yabo, njengoba nje abesifazane besinezidingo zofuzo kumuntu othola imali kanye nomvikeli ongakwazi ukunikeza impilo yakhe ephephile futhi ephephile yena nezingane zabo. Ukunikeza umuntu ubusuku obuhle kuyisabelo esimnandi somfazi. Indoda enelisekile ngumuntu othobekile. Owesifazane weqiniso uzokwenza ubuhlobo obuseduze ibe ihange, isidakamizwa, umlutha, futhi indoda izophindela kuye kuye enye "umthamo". Kodwa kungani ubuya emuva, uma ungeke ushiye?
Ukuthembeka
Ikhono lokunikeza indoda ubulili obufanele kufanele lihlale liphelele ngokuthembeka. Uma kungenjalo, ngisho nokuthandana okuphezulu kakhulu kuyomuntu okwehlisiwe futhi kuncishiswe ukwaneliseka kokuqala "kwesimiso esisisekelo." Incazelo yalokhu kufanele futhi ifunwe kumuntu wesilisa. Uma indoda ithola injabulo yobulili kumuntu wesifazane, ucabanga ukuthi manje uyenaye kuphela, futhi ufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuthi akekho omunye ozokwamukela lo mnandi kuye. Ngakho-ke, amadoda avame ukuhawukela futhi abhekane ngokugqilaza ngokudlala ngothando nabesifazane babo nabanye "abesilisa". Ukunakwa kwabo, ukumomotheka, ukugcoba okujulile kanye nezingubo zangaphansi ezibizayo abangazibheka njengezici zemidlalo yothando. Abesilisa abavame ukuqonda konke lokhu ukucatshangelwa kobulili besifazane, ngisho nokumomotheka okungenangqondo ekuncoma komuntu kungaba yisizathu sokungabaza ukuthembeka kowesifazane wakhe.
Ukuhlonipha nokuqashelwa
Ubuhlobo obuningi abuyikuhlakulela noma buhlukaniswe ngenxa yokungahloniphi indoda. Abesifazane banganciphisa inhlonipho ebuhlotsheni, ngokungahambi kahle bakholelwa ukuthi sekushiwo ukuthi: "Ngihlala naye, ngakho-ke ngiyahlonipha." Ukwamukelwa kwemfanelo yabantu ngaphambi komndeni, izingane, umsebenzi, umphakathi - umsebenzi wesifazane ongavumelekile. Ngeke uhloniphe futhi uhloniphe lokho umuntu akwenzayo, angaya ukufuna inhlonipho kwenye indawo, hhayi nje omunye owesifazane. Yena, isibonelo, anganikeza ngaphezulu ukusebenza noma ukuhlala nabangane abahloniphayo futhi bayiqaphela impumelelo yakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi - ibhizinisi, ukuzilibazisa, ukuzijabulisa, njll. Ngakho-ke, umuntu kufanele ahloniphe konke okukuyo: isikhathi, izinsiza, amakhono, amakhono. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ungathuli ngakho. Khuluma ngobuqotho, kodwa makungabi ngamazwi kuphela, kodwa izenzo. Isibonelo, uma ufunda ukuphatha ngemali imali ayitholile, uzoqonda ngaphandle kwamazwi ohlonipha umsebenzi wakhe, isikhathi nempilo yakhe. Inhlonipho iveza inhlonipho. Kulula kakhulu ukuthi abantu abaningi abakuboni lokhu njengesisombululo sezinkinga zobuhlobo. Futhi kuyize kakhulu!
Ukubonga nokubonga
Abesifazane abaningi bakuthola kunzima ukukuqonda, kodwa ukubonga akubaluleke kakhulu kunombhede. Ngeke abe nobuhlobo nendoda, uzohamba emfuna ehlangothini. Ngeshwa, ikhono lokubonga nokubonga, njengomthetho, lihambisana nobuhlobo obusha. Ukuhlala ndawonye iminyaka, yenza noma yimuphi umsebenzi. Indoda yakha indlu, itshale umuthi futhi ikhulise indodana, kodwa ungayithathi kalula. Indlela enjalo ayiphutha ngokuyisisekelo! Amadoda afana nezingane, kufanele adunyiswe nge-porridge edliwe (ikakhulukazi uma ingeyona impumelelo namuhla), ngiyabonga ngokulalela (ukukhipha udoti, uthenge umkhonto, uthatha umkhwekazi wami e-dacha) futhi ngiyayithanda impumelelo (idwebe ucingo, ivikela isingeniso, ithole isigidi). Asikho isisusa esikhulu somuntu kunokubonga nokubonga okuqotho. Lena imilingo yangempela. Hlola!
Ukunakekelwa nokunakwa
Into esemqoka lapha ukuqonda ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwakho ngendoda yakho kuyini. Ngamunye wabo unemiqondo yakhe siqu mayelana nokubonakaliswa kokunakekelwa nokunakekelwa kwabesifazane. Omunye ukwanele ukuthi owesifazane othandekayo uphuza ikhofi njalo ekuseni futhi akakhohlwa ukuphonsa ucezu kasawoti lapho, njengoba umuntu ethanda; umuntu angeke aphile ngaphandle kokushintshwa kwamashekeli nsuku zonke embala wehembe ephaketheni lesifuba sesebenzi; kanti amanye amadoda, mhlawumbe izinga eliphakeme lokunakekelwa kuyoba ukuhlinzeka lo wesifazane nomndeni ngenkathi esekhefu lokubeletha nengane. Noma kunjalo, kodwa ukugcinwa okunamandla kwalezi zinsuku zansuku zonke, amasiko noma izenzo zemihla ngemihla kwenza ubuhlobo bube othandweni.
Ukusekela
Indoda enesibindi, ephumelelayo, eqinile futhi enobudlova idinga ukwesekwa. Lapho edala ubudlelwane nowesifazane, uyathemba ukuthi ngomqondo ongathà sina wamazwi lawa ma-cinematographer azoba "ekudabukeni nasenjabulo, encebweni nasebumpofu, ekuguleni nasempilweni." Uzoxhuma impilo yakhe nalowo wesifazane, noma ngabe izwe lonke liphikisana naye, uyokuma ngemuva futhi amnike amakladidi. Ungaba usizo kumuntu, umkhuthaze ngokuzethemba, uhlinzeke ngenkathi ewudinga emoyeni, futhi uzokwenza konke okunye nakakhulu kuwe nobuhlobo bakho.
Amanani omndeni
Umndeni wamadoda amaningi iyinjini yezimpumelelo zawo. Indoda, ngokungafani nowesifazane, ibonakala kakhulu ezweni langaphandle - yenza umsebenzi, iphumelele ukuzimela kwezezimali nokuqashelwa njengomphakathi. Esikhathini esithile sokuphila kwakhe, lapho ebeka isisekelo, akadingi umndeni. Kuphazamisa. Kodwa ingabe udinga okuningi? Cha, akunjalo. Izimpumelelo ezintsha ziqala ukulahlekelwa incazelo, nokuqaphela kwangaphandle akusamniki ukugcwala kwangaphambili komqondo wokuphila. Izibalo aziqambi amanga lapho zithi amadoda omndeni ahlala isikhathi eside. Unomuntu ongaziphilisa. Ezinganeni, emkhatsini wabo, ngokuphila kwabo okuhlangene, bathola incazelo ejulile nokuqaphela izimo zabo zasendulo. Ukuheha umuntu ngemindeni yomndeni, ubonise izinzuzo zokuphila komndeni, kumenze ancike othandweni lwakho, futhi uzohlala nawe kuze kube phakade.