Ngifuna ukuba nomntwana, kodwa angikwazi ukuthi ngingaphila? Ukuphelelwa ithemba akufanelekile, ngoba ungakwazi ukuthwala unina wengane.
Umama wokuzikhethela: impilo yengane
Izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye zokulinda, izinkinga ezijabulisayo ezihambisana nokwakhiwa kwekamelo labantwana nokuthenga konke okudingekayo kumntanakho, ukukhala kokuqala komntwana ozelwe nje ... Kubaningi imibhangqwana eshadile, ukuzalwa kwengane kuwumkhuba wokuphila, umcimbi ohleliwe ngemvelo. Kodwa-ke, akuwona wonke umuntu onenhlanhla ukuzwa injabulo yobumama nobaba kanye nesizathu salokhu ukungabi nabantwana.
Ngenxa yephupho ukucindezela ukufudumala, ubisi olunjalo lomdabu nolumuncu luyalela esifubeni, imibhangqwana engapheli isilungele noma yini. Futhi lapho iminyaka yokwelapha, imithi yendabuko, izinyathelo nezinyanga ezinde ezikhungweni zezindlu zingasebenzi, kukhona ithemba lokugcina - umama wokubeletha.
Ukukhetha umama obelethayo
Ake sishiye imibono mayelana nomthetho wokuziphatha nokuziphatha kombuzo wokuzala umama, futhi sizoqhubeka singene enkambweni ngokwayo, okungukuthi: yini okufanele ifakwe ekucabangeni lapho ukhetha umama ozithandayo, ngoba lolu khetho luyonquma impilo yengane yesikhathi esizayo-ingane yakho.
Into yokuqala okufanele uyiqaphele yile minyaka yobudala bomama. Njengomthetho, owesifazane, onomzimba wakhe enganeni yesikhathi esizayo yengane engashadile kufanele akhule, akufanele abe mdala kuneminyaka engama-35-37. Yiqiniso, kukhona okuhlukile (sikhuluma ngokuzala izingane ngezihlobo), kodwa, akudingekile ukuba kudlule umkhawulo wonyaka odunyiswa odokotela.
Okwesibili - umama wokubeletha kufanele ahlolwe ngokugcwele kwezokwelapha. Impilo kuphela engathandekile (kubandakanya impilo yengqondo) ingaba isiqinisekiso sempilo yengane ezayo.
Okwesithathu, owesifazane ohlinzeka ngezinsizakalo zokubeletha kwengane kufanele okungenani abe nomntwana wakhe onempilo okhulelwe ngendlela engokwemvelo. Akuzwakala sengathi kungokwemvelo, kepha ingane yakho enesimungulu futhi enempilo iyinhlobo yephothifoliyo yomama onganamuntu.
Ekugcineni, umama wokugcina, umama kufanele abe ngumuntu owanele, ukuze agweme ukuvela kwezimo ezingalindelekile, kokubili ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kanye nesikhathi sokuvela kwengane.
Izimo zokubeletha ingane ngumama ozithandayo
Uma kwenzeka ukukhulelwa okuphumelelayo, kuyadingeka ukwakha zonke izimo ezidingekayo (zixoxisane kusengaphambili) ukuze uthole ukubeletha okunempilo kwengane. Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ezimweni uma kuziwa ekuthwaleni amawele noma kathathu, okuvame ukwenzeka ezimweni zokuqothulwa kokufakelwa.
Owesifazane owabeletha ingane engabantwana abangenabantwana kumele ahlale ekamelweni elihlelekile, uqiniseke ukuthi uhola impilo enempilo, ulandele zonke izincomo zikadokotela, vakashela ukubonisana kwabesifazane ngesikhathi esifanele, udle ngokufanele, wenze izivivinyo ezikhethekile (ukuvocavoca kwabesifazane abakhulelwe).
Abazali besikhathi esizayo bavame ukubonisa isifiso sokugcina inqubo yokukhulelwa, balalele ukushaya kwenhliziyo kokuqala kwengane yabo, bazizwe bebeletha esibelethweni. Kubalulekile ukuthi imihlangano enjalo yabazali bezakhi zofuzo ithathe indawo enobungane, kucabangela ubuzwe besimo. Umuntu akakwazi ukungazinaki iqiniso lokuthi, naphezu kokuthi umama ozithandayo akabheki nomntwana wakhe futhi uzama ukunamathela kuyo, uma nje ewugqoka ngaphansi kwenhliziyo yabo munye. Ukukhathazeka ngokweqile nezimo ezicindezelayo kungaba nemiphumela engalindelekile, ngakho-ke, uma imihlangano enjalo ingathinteki isimo sengqondo somama wokubeletha, kunconywa ukunciphisa inani labo ngenxa yempilo yengane engakazalwa.
Ukuqapha isimo somama ozayo, abazali bezakhi zofuzo bangasebenzisa izinsiza, isibonelo, umhlengikazi ovakashele noma udokotela ozovakashela owesifazane okhulelwe, aqaphele isimiso sosuku lwakhe nokukhulelwa, ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa.
Mayelana nokudla nokunakekelwa kwezokwelapha, ezikhathini eziningi kuyinakekelo yabazali besikhathi esizayo sabantwana. Ukudla okunempilo okugcwele, izithelo ezintsha nemifino eningi ngokwanele, amavithamini kanye nezinye - wonke lo mama ozithandayo kufanele abe nokuningi okwanele, ngoba kuyingozi kakhulu into engaba yinto - impilo yengane.
Ukuvela kwengane ekukhanyeni yisiphetho esinengqondo
Ukubeletha yisenzakalo esilinde isikhathi eside kunazo zonke, kokubili kumama wokubeletha kanye nabazali bezakhi zofuzo. Ngalolu suku, kufanelekile ukuqala ukulungiselela kusengaphambili, kufaka phakathi ukukhuluma ngokulungiswa kwengqondo kwabazali bemvelo kanye nomama wokubeletha. Uma ngabe umbhangqwana ongenabantwana ukubeletha kwengane, kungakhathaliseki ukucindezeleka, injabulo, ngakho-ke umama obeletha ngokuhlanganyela nomntwana uvame ukuhambisana nokuziphatha okunganele.
Kubalulekile ukuthi, uma kungenzeka, ukuzalwa kwenzeka ngendlela yemvelo ngokubamba iqhaza kwabazali besikhathi esizayo. Okokuqala, kuyinto efiselekayo kakhulu ukuthi izandla zokuqala ingane ezizozizwa ngemuva kokuba udokotela athathe ukulethwa yizandla zomama wakhe wofuzo noma ubaba. Ukuvinjelwa kokuxhumana komama obelethwe nosana osanda kubonakala ngemuva kokuzalwa kuzokusiza ukunqoba umkhawulo wengqondo phakathi komzali wengane nomama wakhe wokubeletha.
Lapho unquma ngokuzalwa komama, khumbula ukuthi lokhu akuyona ukuhwebelana kwebhizinisi, kodwa impilo nempilo yesidalwa esincane. Lokhu kusebenza kokubili kumbhangqwana ongenabantwana, futhi kumama wokubeletha, okumele akhuthazelele ingane yomunye ngokukhathalela okufanayo impilo yakhe yesikhathi esizayo, kanye neyakhe.
Ngifuna ukubeletha ingane, kodwa angikwazi, kepha ngizoba ngumama - yilokho isiqubulo sabesifazane abangenakucatshangelwa.