Kunomthetho onjalo ongaqondakali: ukuphakama izinga lokuthuthukiswa kwezidalwa eziphilayo, lapho isikhathi eside sisebuntwaneni babo futhi okungenakuzisiza lezi zidalwa ngokushesha ngemva kokuzalwa. Ukuhlolwa koososayensi kuqinisekiswa njalo ekusebenzeni, kugcizelela ukuqina kwalezi zitatimende. Kodwa kuphela ingxenye yokuqala. Uma sikhuluma ngokungabi namandla, khona-ke abacwaningi abafanayo babonisa okuphambene nalokho. Ubuntwini bomuntu bucebile ngokomzwelo futhi bunamandla kangangokuthi kubonakala ngathi, abadala, ngezinye izikhathi ezingenangqondo. Akekho kithi oyosinda ezimweni lapho ingane ikhona futhi ikhule. Kumele amelane nokushintsha embusweni wokushisa (kusuka ku-37 ° C uwela ku-20-25 ° C), kusukela emvelweni wamanzi udlula emoyeni, ngemizuzwana ithatha inqubo yokuphefumula, inqatshelwe ukudla okungaphazanyiswa. Futhi konke kuyizikhathi ezimbalwa! Ucabanga ukuthi, kungenzeka ukuthi ababuthakathaka ngokomoya nangokomzimba kumuntu? ..
Ukufuna izandla zothando
Ngeshwa, ngesikhathi sokuzalwa, i-crumb ihlupheka, izwa umuzwa wokuwa okungapheli, ikhanda elibi kakhulu. Uyesaba futhi angenakuzivikela ngesikhathi esifanayo. Kodwa-ke, izazi ze-psychologist ziye zafakazela ukuthi lokhu okungalungile kungashiyi lutho ngokungaqondakali njengenqubo yokuzalwa okuphumelelayo, futhi lapho ingane ithinta isifuba somama othakazelisayo, okhululekile, onothando! Ngakho-ke, ekusebenziseni izivimbela zomhlaba, ukuzalwa kwemvelo kusekelwa ngokugcwele. Amaphesenti ayishumi kuphela kwabesifazane abasebenzayo badinga ukusetshenziswa kwemithi evuselelayo neyama-analgesic. Amaphesenti angama-90 asele akwazi ukubeletha ngokuphepha ezinganeni ezinokungenelela kwezokwelapha okuncane, ezithembele ngamandla abo. Ngesikhathi sokubeletha owesifazane akakwazi ukumemeza, kodwa uhlabelele, ulalele umculo, uphefumule esiswini ... noma yini, ukuze ukhuthazelele izikhathi ezingathandeki ngesimo sengqondo esihle. Phela, imizwa yakhe yengane ngaleso sikhathi isho okungaphezu kokucindezeleka ngokomzimba. Konke lokhu kufundiswa ochwepheshe abanolwazi kwizifundo zabazali besikhathi esizayo.
Ngokuvamile, iqiniso lokuthi izingane, ezifisa ukukhulelwe futhi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, ezelwe ngezandla ezithandekayo, ziqala ukuphila ngokubhala kahle, sekuyisikhathi eside zifakazelwe. Bangabantu abanethemba lokukhulumisana nalabo abanokuzikhethela. Bazizwa bephephile, futhi banokuxhumana okuqinile nabazali babo. Kwenzeke kanjani? Ngosizo lwezenzo ze-psychotherapeutic. Ochwepheshe abaningi baye bafunda okuthiwa "inkumbulo yokuzalwa", eveza izici kanye nezimfihlo zobuntana bokuqala. Ngaphansi kokucindezeleka, umuntu wakhumbula futhi wabika ukuthi kwenzekani kuye ngesikhathi sokuzalwa kwakhe, futhi kaningi emininingwaneni encane kunazo zonke, kuhlanganise nemicabango ayenaye ngaleso sikhathi. Babengalindelekile ngokuvuthiwe, kucacile, kanye nemizwa - ejulile.
Ngikhetha izwi lomama
Ingane ithola izwi lomama isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuzalwa, ngakho-ke emva kokuzalwa kulula ukuhlukanisa nabanye. Esinye sezivivinyo sibonise ukuthi kunamathele kangakanani evikini lomama. Yenziwa yi-psychologist waseFrance u-Anthony de Caspe. Izingane ziphuza isifuba sezinyosi ngezingubo ze-silicone ne-pacifier ezixhunywe kwidivaysi yokulinganisa ijubane lokuncelisa, wahlanganisa ukuqoshwa kwetheyiphu yenkathi efundwa ngabomama kanye nabanye besifazane. Ngokushesha nje lapho omunye wezingane ezwa izwi lakhe lakuleli zwe, waqala ukusondla ngokushesha futhi ngamandla kakhulu. Ucwaningo lwezinsuku ezimbili lwavumela isosayensi ukuba iphethe: izinsana ziyazi kahle amagama omama (kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zikhuluma isiNgisi noma isiJalimane). Ngokungafani namazwi abanye besifazane. Lokhu kusho ukuthi i-crumb iyakwazi ukubamba isigqi senkulumo, inkulumo, ushintsho lwezingcingo futhi, eqinisweni, nje ukugcina inkumbulo eyodwa, ethandeka kakhulu futhi eyomdabu, izwi elazwa ngaphambi kokuzalwa. Ithelenta enhle kangaka kumele isetshenziswe futhi ithuthukiswe. Izingane zihlala zikulungele ukukhuluma noMama. Wena ngokwakho ngokuqinisekile uqaphele ukuthi ingane eneminyaka engu-2-3 ubudala ikuphendula kanjani ngosizo lokuhamba ne-agukaniya. Futhi akagcini nje ngokuthola amathuba ezwi lakhe, kodwa futhi uthola kule nkhulumomphendvulwano nawe injabulo engenakucatshangelwa.
Ilinde ukuthinta
Ingxoxo yomzimba iqala ukukhulumisana isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba ingane ikhule ngokugcwele futhi ifunde ukulawula ukunyakaza kwayo. Ukubeka umntwana ezandleni zowupapa omncane, bese ehamba ngokurekhoda kancane kancane, ososayensi bafinyelele ekutholeni okumangalisayo okuhlotshaniswa nezici zobuntwana bokuqala: inyane likwazi ukuhamba nge-synchronism nomuntu omdala. Ekubukeni kwakubonakala kahle, ukuthi i-crumb iphindaphindiwe bonke abadade bokuhamba. Kuthe nje lapho uyise egoqa ikhanda lakhe, umntwana welula ikhanda lakhe kuye. Lokhu kwenzeka izikhathi eziningana. Ngenkathi isandla sokunene sikababa sasuka eceleni kwakhe, isandla sesokunxele somntwana sasilokhu sisuka ngakwesokunene - sibheke. Izazi zengqondo azikwazanga ukukholelwa ukuthi i-synchronism enjalo ingaba kanjani. Futhi baphinde banxusa abazali ukuba bazi kahle ubuciko bokubopha - ukuxhumana ngokomzimba, isixhumanisi esingabonakali esikuvumela ukuthi uzwisise ulimi lomntwana kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala. Ukubambisana kungaba yisisekelo esihle sokudlala, ukuthanda kanye nokusondelana ngokomzwelo esikhathini esizayo. Ingane ilungiselelwe lobudlelwane obuseduze futhi ilindele okufanayo kuwe. Ungamlahli!
Ngifuna ukwazi konke!
Izingane ezisanda kuzalwa ngempela umuntu. Uyakwazi ukuziveza. Ukutholakala kwesayensi yanamuhla kuye kwafakazela ukuthi usana luyisimo senhlalakahle. Angakwazi ukuxhumana, bakhe ubuhlobo obuseduze. Ingane esanda kubonakala, ilungele ukuthola ulwazi olusha futhi, ngokuncane kakhulu kwamazwi akho, iyaqonda ukuthi yenzeni nayo. Ngakho-ke, uma ukhulumisana nengane ucabangela izici zobuntana bezingane, uzothola umuntu othuthukile, umuntu onethalente futhi ohlakaniphile. Ungakhathaleli umnyashek wakho omncane - athuthukiswe kakhulu kunalokho ucabanga!