Ngokwezibalo zengqondo, iningi lezinkinga eziphakama phakathi komama nomkhwekazi zihlotshaniswa nezinkolelo eziqashelwa isikhathi eside. Kodwa uma ungazitholi umoya ngaphambi kwesikhathi futhi ungabi nesimo sengqondo sokuzonda - konke kungaphuma ngokuthula. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kukhona amathiphu kamamazala womqondo wengqondo. Okuhle kakhulu, ngisho nokuvimbela okuyingqayizivele yokuxabana, ukuthi umndeni omncane noninazala bahlala ezindlini ezahlukene, izindlu, izifunda noma imizi engcono kakhulu. Futhi uma lo mbango usukhulile kakade ohlelweni lokuhlala ndawonye, udinga ukusabalalisa ngokuphuthumayo. Izihlobo ezithandanayo ezikude zilula kakhulu.
Psychoanalysis yalesi simo
Kungani abanye ngezinye izikhathi abantu abathandekayo bethandana ngokuzonda okuvulekile? Konke mayelana nezimo. Isiphetho esihlanganisa intombazane le nsizwa ihlinzeka ngomshado olandelayo, ngenxa yalokho, le nsizwa inomfazi futhi, ngokufanayo, uninazala. Intombazane, ukushada futhi ngokushesha kokuba nengane, ingacabangi ukuthi ukushintsha impilo yakhe, iyashintsha impilo kamama ngaphandle kokumcela imvume. Ngakho-ke, owesifazane ngezinye izikhathi oneminyaka engamashumi amane ubudala futhi efuna ukuzizwa njengomkakhe othandekayo futhi aphile impilo yakhe ephelele, uba umkhwekazi nonina. Kodwa injongo yokuphila kwakhe akuyona nje indlela yokuthola impilo yakhe yansuku zonke yabazukulu bakhe ngenkathi indodakazi yakhe nomalokazana bakhe behlela impilo yabo. Indodakazi yakhe, eyayikude kakhulu futhi iyakuthanda, yamthanda ngenhliziyo yonke, yayitshala imali yakhe emfundweni nasemfundweni yonke amandla, ngokungazelelwe yaba umfazi womuntu.
Ukusebenzisa umuntu omusha
Ezimweni eziningi, umama kanzima ukujwayela indoda entsha, indoda esendlini yakhe. Ngemuva kwalokho, usengumuntu ongaphandle kuye. Akumangalisi ukuthi ngokusho kocwaningo, umkhwekazi uhlasela umkhwenyana wakhe izikhathi ezinhlanu ngokuphindwe kasithupha kunalokho akwenza kuye. Indima enkulu kulo mncintiswano wezigaba ezimbili zesisindo ehlukene udlalwa ngumatasa ohlangothini olulodwa lendodakazikazikazi, okuyinto enzima kakhulu kule simo. Uma ethatha uhlangothi lomyeni wakhe, uzothatha intukuthelo nokucasula kanina, uma esekela umama, kungenzeka ukuthi ingxabano nomyeni wakhe. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukuthi athathe ukungathathi hlangothi okufudumele, okuzosiza ekusunguleni noma kubuyiselwe imali emndenini.
Isikhungo sokuhlanganisa - indodakazi
Umndeni uyindlela eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu futhi kungomunye wamalungu ayo kuphela ukuqala ukuziphatha ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele, hhayi njengangaphambili, ukuziphatha kwamanye amalungu omndeni nakho kushintsha ngokushesha. Kodwa-ke, imindeni eminingi yaziwa lapho umamazala nomalokazana behlala ngokuthula futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nangokuthula.
Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi laba bantu ababili bayizidalwa ezivela kumaplanethi ahlukene: bangabesifazane abahlukene, ngokuvamile bahluke kakhulu eminyakeni, emisebenzini, ekuthandeni, emsebenzini, izahlulelo, okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukile kokuphila, imibono ehlukene empilweni nasezindleleni eziphathelene nokuphila kwemagugu. Njengomthetho, umuntu oyedwa ohlanganisa laba bantu ababili abahluke ngokuphelele ngumfazi womunye nendodakazi kwenye. Futhi cishe cishe umzabalazo phakathi kwabo kungenxa yethonya elikhulu kuwo.
Kwezinye izimo, imbangela yalokho kwenzeka noma ukungenzeki kwezingxabano kuchazwa yilokho okubizwa ngokuthi umndeni osungulwe. Uma uyise womkhwenyana wayenebudlelwane obunzima nomamazala wakhe, kungaba yinto evamile kakhulu yendodana enjalo ukuba ibe nesimo sengqondo esinjalo nesimo sengqondo sokucwasana nomamazala osinikeziwe kakade. Bonke usizo kumama omthetho neseluleko sakhe kuzokuxoshwa ngokushesha noma kubhekwe njengesihlamba esiqondile. Uma, ngokuphambene nalokho, umkhwe wakhe unobungane obukhulu bokuthula noninazala, khona-ke indodana ngeke iphathe umamazala njengesitha.
Inketho yokungathathi hlangothi yilapho umkhwezala engenawo umkhwekazi. Kulokhu, izinkolelo zomuntu siqu zakhiwa embonweni kanye nangolwazi lwabangani abashadile. Kodwa ukusetha, okwakhiwe ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye, kutholakala kalula ekulungiseni. Ukuthola umkhwekazi ohlakaniphile, obona umndeni omusha wendodakazi yakhe njengomndeni omusha ozimele, nomyeni wakhe, umkhwenyana wakhe njengenhloko ephelele yomndeni, ngenkathi bengalingi ukuhlasela impilo yabo, le nsizwa ithola umama wesibili noma okungenani umngane kumamazala. Futhi izinkolelo zakhe zizobonakala zihluke kakhulu.
Amathiphu kumama-in
Izazi zengqondo zeluleka uninazala ukuthi angangeni ngokushesha kuma-bayonethi okhethiweyo wendodakazi yabo. Okokuqala udinga ukuyibuka ngokucophelela bese uzama ukuthola okuthile okukulo. Kuyafaneleka ukuqonda, ngoba yini ngempela eyathandana nendodakazi yakhe? Kumele ukwehlisa ukwehlisa okungawuthandi. Ngosizo lendodakazi yakhe, ungazama ukumsiza ukuba asuse lokho okucasula ngokukhethekile kuye. Uma kusukela ekuqaleni kwaqala umsunguli wobudlelwane obusondelene wayengumkhwenyana, khona-ke ungazama ukuvumelana naye. Yiqiniso, uma engeyena utshwala, hhayi umlutha wezidakamizwa, uhlakaniphile ngokomqondo futhi akaxhunyiwe nezwe lobugebengu. Indoda evamile kaningi ngaphandle kwesizathu ibonisa ukuhlukumezeka kuphela uma engakaze ithole imizwa engafanele kwenye indawo futhi ingaboni ukukhathala. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ungaphenduli lapho ushukunyiswa khona. Iseluleko sezinqondo: uma siphinda njalo, zama ukuzitholela ukuthula, ulalele izimangalo zakhe bese uveza izimpendulo zakhe ngendlela efanele. Kwezinye izimo, lokhu akwanele, futhi ubuhlobo buba nzima kakhulu. Khona-ke udinga ukuqonda okuzoba ngcono: ukwehlisa noma ukuqhubeka nokuqhubeka. Kufanele sihlolisise zonke izinzuzo nezindleko futhi sithathe isinqumo esifanele kunazo zonke. Lezi zincomo zengqondo yezokwelapha zifaneleka kakhulu kubantu abahle kahle futhi abanengqondo.