Ungowami futhi ngowami kuphela!
Umama, owayevame ukusho ukuthi "sinenkinga nge-physics", "siya ekolishi", akunakwenzeka ukwamukela kalula ukuthi indodana manje iyinhloko yomndeni, futhi ngisho nangokwengeziwe ngoba empilweni yakhe owesifazane onamalungelo amaningi kuya esilimini esithi "thina". Futhi kunzima ukusho ukuthi ngubani onxantathu kulomusa kakhulu: indodana noma umfana osemusha ohlala endaweni ephephile. Izinkinga ezingenakuxazululwa emibhangqwana "yendodana yendodana", njengombuso, zikhula zibe yincantathu eyinkimbinkimbi "unina-nendodana-nkhwenyana". Uma uninazala engazange aqaphele ukuthi indodana yakhe ikwazi ukukhula ngesikhathi, ukuzimela, khona-ke umndeni omncane uzobhekana nezikhathi ezinzima.
Amantombazane avame "ukuhlanganisa" nabayeni bawo ngendlela efanayo nonina. Ngokuvamile umama omfana nomkakhe bazenza njengendawo ekhethekile enhliziyweni yomuntu, okungenakwenzeka. Yebo, ukuziphatha komamazala kungaba kubi, kodwa ubudlelwane bomuntu nonina yibhizinisi labo. Kanye nobuhlobo bomyeni nomfazi. Ungafunda kumlingani wakho ukuthi ungasabela kanjani ngokuthula ngesimo somama wakhe noma uzama ukunciphisa isimo sokukhulumisana ezintathu ndawonye ndawonye. Kodwa kufanele sibhekane neqiniso: asikwazi "ukuxosha" umama womyeni empilweni yomndeni.
Udocher nami ngizofundisa
Iqiniso lokuthi ukungafani nokubonakala kwengqondo kwezobudlelwane phakathi komamazala nomalokazana kuphuma ngaphandle, kuyaqondakala. Kodwa, kuvela, futhi isimo esihle sikamamazala singabangela izinkinga.
Sikukwazisa ukuba uchaze ngokuqondile umamazala wakho ukuthi ubona ukunakekelwa kwakhe njengokwethenjelwa ngamakhono akho, ubona emazwini akhe ukwesaba indodana yakho ngisho nokushaya ukuyeka abazali bakho. Ngokuqinisekile uyozwa incazelo ethule, umlalele. Kubalulekile ukuzama ukuthola ukulingana, ukuze nonke nizizwe zibalulekile - ngayinye indima yayo. Ngaphambi kwengxoxo kungaba kuhle ukuqhuba ekubunjweni kwe "I-izitatimende" nezinye izinqubo zokuphikisana.
Angizange ngiye enkantolo
Emlandweni omdala we-movie, isikhulu esiqhaqhazelayo sasinomusa onomusa, kanti uMamma wayengekho. Ubaba wamukela ngenjabulo umuntu okhethiwe wendodana yakhe: akukho lutho olungcolile, kodwa oluhle, ukuhlabelela nokudansa, lungalungisa umgodi ejacket yakhe. Futhi ngalokhu akukho lutho olumangalisa - amadoda ngokujwayelekile abambelela kakhulu kumalokazana bawo.
Kuyinto engafanele ukucabanga ukuthi akuyona into yokuthi umalokazana nomkhwekazi bakhona. Bobabili abesifazane bathanda (noma ngezindlela ezahlukene) umuntu oyedwa - inhlabathi yezingxabano iyona evundile kakhulu. Ikakhulukazi esikhathini sethu, lapho iningi "imindeni eyodwa" ingane. Indodana yedwa yindlela yokusebenzisa yonke imizamo, ukuhlushwa kwazo zonke izinkolelo namaphupho. Futhi manje le ndodana ishada ... Ngokusobala akhethiweyo wakhe ngandlela-thile uphansi kunomfanekiso odwetshwe unina. Ukucasuka kakhulu ngalokhu akufanelekile: okunjalo akunakutholakali ngokomthetho; noma ngabe ukuphi, uzobe usubonakala sengathi uninazala omncane kakhulu noma ogcwele kakhulu, othukile noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, owaziwa kakhulu, njalo njalo. Ingxenye yengonyama yezinkinga ingagwenywa uma uqala ukuhlala ngokwahlukana nabazali bomyeni wayo. Futhi empini ngokulwa nesisodwa esihlala emhlabeni jikelele - ukuzola, ukuqonda nokuzihleka.
Ungakhohlwa mayelana ne-physiology, echaza okuningi. Abaningi besifazane baba umkhwekazi oneminyaka engaba ngu-50 - lesi yisikhathi sezinguquko ze-hormonal emhlabeni wonke emzimbeni. Ngakho ukufutheka okusheshayo, nokucasuka ngokweqile, nokuguquka kwemizwa njalo. Gcina lokhu engqondweni futhi ukhuthaze.
Umkhuba wezingqondo zobuhlobo phakathi komamazala nomalokazana ukhombisa ukuthi umamazala onomthunzi utholakele kubantu besifazane abanenkumbulo enhle: bakhumbula kahle ubusha babo, iminyaka yokuqala yomshado kanye nobuhlobo nomama wabo. Futhi lokhu akuvumeli ukuba abe ijaji le-super-classic, elingenakubekezelela. Uma unomkhwekazi onomemori omfushane, zama ukuqhuba kancane kancane, esikhathini esizayo, futhi uwuqonde kusukela lapho. Ake ucabange ukuthi indodana yakho ishada ... nomkakhe-ngempela, akunjalo, ukuthi ucabangani ngaye!
Xoxa ngemizwa yakho nomlingani wakho. Ungamcela ukuba abe yisihluthulelo phakathi kwakho okwesikhashana, udlulise okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe nokwesaba (futhi ufisa) nakolunye uhlangothi. Ungamcela futhi ngomama wakho bese uzama ukuthola / ukudala insimu evamile nayo. Ngokuvamile inketho yokuphumelela ekuthuthukiseni ubuhlobo ukufunda ngomlando womndeni, mayelana nalawo "amasiko" kakhulu. Ungathathi izenzo ezinjengokunyathelisa ukuziqhenya kwakho - cha, kuyisinyathelo esivamile. Omunye kufanele akwenze.
Umama ongenamsizi
Uninazala, uninazala, uninazala-uthisha ... Okukhethwa kukho okungahambi kahle kuyisisindo. Kodwa mhlawumbe kunzima kunabo bonke - umamazala: umntwana ohlale ekhubekile, engajabuli, edingwa ukunakekelwa okungakhathali. Akulula ukuthola ubuhlobo naye - uqiniseka kakhulu ngezingxabano "ezibulalayo," njengesikweletu "samadodana" kanye "nempilo ebuthakathaka yabesifazane".