Umngane oseduze noma isithombe esikrinini se-movie - ngandlela-thile, ngezinye izikhathi abaningi bethu bakhangwa owesifazane, futhi kudingeka siyivume ngaphambi kokuba sikhulume ngakho. Ubungqingili besifazane, ukuthanda owesifazane nokukhangwa ngokobulili bekulokhu kuheha imibono engaphandle.
Ngaphanga - ngidinga
Emasimweni omama ladies on Net, cha, cha, futhi uzohlangana nokuqaphela ukwethuka: "Ngithandana nowesifazane, kufanele ngenzeni?" Futhi ngokuvamile laba besifazane banabantu abadala, bashadile, nabantwana, bayajabula kakhulu empilweni yomndeni futhi baqaphela kulo msebenzi. "Ngineminyaka engu-29 ubudala, nginomntwana oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala nomyeni wami, sishadile iminyaka engu-7. Futhi manje ngithandeka kakhulu kowesifazane, engisebenza naye emsebenzini. Ngicabanga ngaye ngokuvame kakhulu, mayelana nobungqingili besifazane, uthando lomuntu wesifazane, ngifuna ukuxhumana naye njalo, ngifuna ukukhathazeka, uthando ... "
"Ngicabanga ukuthi ngithandana nowesifazane. Sihlangane kuwebhu, saxoxa nge-intanethi isikhathi eside. Siphila kude nenye iplanethi kusuka komunye nomunye. Manje wagijima, futhi sakwazi ukuhlangana empilweni yangempela. Ngiyakhathazeka kakhulu ngalomhlangano. Futhi kulobubusuku into ethile yangimangalisa: ngesikhathi ngisondelene nomyeni wami, ngokungazelelwe ngabona ukuthi esikhundleni somyeni wami ngizicabanga - yena! "Noma kunjalo:" Umqashi omsebenzi emsebenzini njalo wayebonisa izimpawu zokungibheka, ukudlala ngothando, ukuthinta, ukucindezela ... Ngisanda kubona ukuthi ngithandana naye - futhi ngizizwa ngaleyo mizwa nokukhangwa ngokocansi, engangingakaze ngikubone ngaphambili ... "
Ongajwayele uvame ukwesaba
Futhi ngokwalo - uyesaba kabili: emphefumulweni ojwayelekile, owakhiwe futhi ocolile ngokuzumayo wathola ikhamera elimnyama ngento engavumelekile, ngingenakwesaba kanjani? Ngakho-ke, kaningi asiqapheli ukubiza lo mqondo oyinkimbinkimbi futhi obucayi owenzela owesifazane wobungqingili, uthando lomuntu wesifazane. Siyifaka ezingxenyeni zayo, sifuna ukufudumala komusa, ukuhlonipha ubuhle bomuntu womuntu nobungcweti bakhe bomuntu, isithandwa esingaqondakali esingaqondakali, ekugcineni, nje "ubuwula" kanye nokuntuleka kokushisa okwenzekayo ngonyaka ... Omunye, ngokuhlola ngokuvumelana ne-algebra, ubungqingili besifazane, uthando owesifazane, yingxenye yokwesaba okwesabekayo "Ngathandana nowesifazane" kuze kube phakade. Omunye uphonsela umuzwa phansi kakhulu komphefumulo, lapho uhamba khona nenhlanzi ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho ehlangana khona nento engathandeki. Futhi umuntu unquma ukuya ekupheleni - futhi lokhu kuphelela ngokuxhumana kocansi, ngokuvamile ongashadile, amathuba okuba abe nobuhlobo besikhathi eside.
Ngokwezibalo ezihlukahlukene , ubungqingili besifazane, ukuthanda owesifazane nokulala ngokobulili, okungenani kanye empilweni, kwakunamaphesenti angu-1 kuphela kwabesilisa nabesifazane kuphela. Kodwa-ke, izibalo ezindabeni ezithandana nazo azithembeki kakhulu: abantu bavame ukungathandeki ukuvuma ukuthi bangathanda ukukhohlwa ngenxa yokukhulelwa kanye nokuziphatha kwabantu. Kodwa ulwazi olutholakala, lisikisela ukuthi ukulala nomuntu obhekene nezigaba ezimbili zabameleli besifazane obuthakathaka.
Okokuqala, lawa amantombazane amancane, ngokuvamile abafundi besifazane. Bashukunyiswa ukuzifunela kanye nokoma ukuhlolwa, futhi ngokuvamile ukuguqulwa, ubungqingili besifazane, uthando lwabesifazane luqondiswa izimo zokuphila ezincane (amadorobha, izindlu eziqashiwe abantu abaningana). Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubo kuyindlela yokuthola ukuhlangenwe nakho komzimba uma kungumbuzo wobudlelwane nomuntu ovuthiwe kakhulu: khumbula ukuthi ku-"Liaisons Eyingozi" uMarquise de Merthey "uyala" uCecil de Volange osemncane, enganqikazi ukuhamba emfundweni ukuze ayenze.
Okwesibili , bangabesifazane abavuthiwe - ngokuvamile baqaphela ukukhanga ubulili babo emva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu noma engamashumi amane. Indaba yomlingisi uCynthia Nixon (uMiranda ovela ku "Sex and City") uyaziwa, ngemuva kokuhlukanisa nomyeni wakhe waqala ukuhlangana nomfazi, uCristina Marinoni, futhi manje ujabule kakhulu. Akukhathaleki ukuthi ngabe uxhumano olunjalo lwenzeka noma lwaluhlala emcabangweni - yilo mzwelo okungazelelwe osikhathazayo kakhulu. Yiqiniso, ukulandela okushiwo kwenhliziyo nokubhala kabusha incwadi yokuphila kwakho ekhasini elihlanzekile kunesibindi futhi kufanelekile ngenhlonipho. Kodwa kuthiwani uma ngingathandi ukucubungula izintandokazi zami zobulili, ukuchitha umndeni wami futhi ngiqale impilo entsha kusukela ekuqaleni, okubonakala sengathi iyayilinga, kodwa ingenathemba? Intombi yami, eyayinezinkinga nentombazane ebusheni bayo, ngandlela-thile yavuma ukuthi iningi labo ekuxhumaneni okunjalo lidambisa ithemba labo. Futhi akukhona ngisho nangesimo sengqondo esivela emphakathini obekezelayo emibumbano yobulili obufanayo, kunalokho-ngokuqonda ukuthi ukuxhuma okunjalo kungenye nje kokuthandana nendoda, futhi ukwakha indaba entsha yothando engavamile kuhluke ngokuphelele. Futhi uma uqonda, ubungqingili besifazane, uthando ngowesifazane akunjalo? Zikuphi lezi, kude nemizwa yobudlova ngomngane evela?
Injabulo yilapho uzwakala khona
Uma ucabanga ngokucacile - ukuthandana nowesifazane sinamathuba amaningi kunomuntu. Kwenzeke ukuthi cishe yonke imigwaqo yobuhle ihlotshaniswa nomzimba wesifazane: kwakuvame ukumelelwa abaculi, izimbongi zacula, abathwebuli bezithombe bathunjwa. Khumbula i-cinematografi yakudala: ezimweni eziningi, ama-actress ayadingeka ukuba abe ubuhle bamehlo, futhi kusukela kubalingisi besilisa, kwakwanele ukubukeka kancane njengemonkey. Manje lesi silinganiso sishintshile, kodwa uma ungaboni ngokuqondile, izithombe zebesifazane abakhulu zingatholakala nganoma yisiphi isikhathi esingenakuphikisana ngaphezu kwamadoda ahlakaniphile. Ungamelana kanjani nenqwaba yobuhle obunjalo? Futhi-ke ungakwazi futhi udibanise ukuzwakalisa ngobungqingili besifazane, uthando lomuntu wesifazane.
Kodwa akuyona nje imizwa yobuhle. Ubulili besifazane buhlukile kakhulu besilisa, futhi ngomqondo wokwaneliseka sitshala ngaphezu kwenani lama-orgasms ngesikhathi ngasinye. Ukwaneliseka ngokobulili wesifazane kunokweneliseka ngokomzimba nokuthi ukwaneliseka okuthiwa, okuwukuthi, ukwaneliseka ubudlelwane, ukuthola okuvela kumlingani inani elanele lothando nokukhathalela. Owesifazane angajabula emshadweni, ngisho noma enganelisekile ngokomzimba, uma enelisekile okwanele. Futhi uma engekho noma enye - izama ukwanelisa isidingo sokunakwa ohlangothini.
Siya kuphi , uma singatholi ukunakekelwa okwanele kumngane wakho, uma singenalo ithuba lokukhuluma naye, xoxani ibhizinisi, nikhale ku-vest? Kulungile - kumngani. Uma kungenalo isiko lokwelashwa kwengqondo, intombazane iba yilapho engumtholampilo wokuqala. Futhi ekutholeni ukunakwa nokuqonda kwakhe okudinga kakhulu, siphumule futhi sinqume ukuthi asikwazi ukuthola umuntu ozwela kakhulu ekuphileni. Ukuthembela - isisekelo sobudlelwane - ebuhlotsheni bamangane ababili abaseduze kunentuthuko engcono kunanini ngaphambili. Inkulumo yalesi sithemba ivame ukuthinta, okuyiyona kakade iningi ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwethu. Esikhathini senkambiso yabesifazane, ukumbumbana, kisses, nokuthinta kuthathwa njengamukelekile kunomuntu wesilisa - ngakho-ke amantombazane asevele esesemusha usekulungiselela izindima zomama, okudingeka bakwazi ukugcina ukuxhumana okuthinta ingane.
Futhi lapho uxhumano oluxhumene khona - lapho nokuvusa ucansi. Umzimba womuntu awuboni ukuthi uthintana nobani - owesilisa noma wesifazane. Ngisho nasegumbini lokubhunga ngaphansi kwezandla zomchwepheshe ungazizwa ujabule, ungakhulumi ngesisa kumngane osondelene naye, esimethembayo. Ukuziphatha ngokobulili okuvusayo kwesigamu sokulala kuzama ukuthola ukuthi ubani ozoyithumela - futhi uthola owesifazane omuhle futhi othandekayo eduze kwalokhu okuthinta khona kithi. Futhi silwela ukuxhuma lokhu okungewona umgomo, eqinisweni, isifiso sokukhanga kumuntu othize, nakuba empeleni akusilo ngempela, umzimba ukhululekile futhi usabela ngokuthandana.
Empeleni, ukuthandana njengomzwelo , okunzima futhi okunzima, akunawo ubulili. Ungathandana nomuntu kuphela, kodwa futhi nento, ebhizinisini, edolobheni noma ezweni ... Omunye umbuzo wukuthi akuzona zonke izinhlobo zalesi simo ezamukelekayo emphakathini. Isinqumo sokuxhumanisa impilo nomuntu omusha ngokuzenzakalelayo sihumusha ukuxhumana kwethu ezingeni lomphakathi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyayithanda noma cha. Ubudlelwane, ngokuyimfihlo ngokuyimfihlo, yizinhlelo ezihlangene zesikhathi esizayo, nokucabangela njalo izithakazelo zomlingani, nokwabiwa kwesikhathi esiningi kuye ... Uma ungakakulungeli lokhu - futhi akunandaba ukuthi uluhlobo luni lobuhlobo okhuluma ngalo, nendoda noma nomfazi-ke, mhlawumbe, indlela yokuphela yodwa kuyoba ukukwenza umuzwa wakho igugu elizogcinwa ebhokisini elide lenhliziyo yakho. Abesifazane ngalokhu bacebile kunamadoda: Kulula ngathi ukuba siphile amanoveli kuphela emcabangweni wethu, futhi sikwazi ukuhlukanisa okuningi kunemibala yemizwa. Futhi mhlawumbe lokhu kuyimizwa engaziwa - nje "ibell" ofuna ukushintsha into empilweni yakho, ukuthola indlela yakho siqu? Kuphela futhi ukuyihlola kuyadingeka, ngokuqinisekile, hhayi embhedeni.
Kunoma yikuphi, ubudlelwane besifazane ababili bangathuthela esiteshini esisha kuphela uma enye yezintombi iqala ukuxazulula futhi ikhululiwe - ngoba, isibonelo, unolwazi olufanele. Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi ama-lesbians avulekile, ngokungafani namadoda amaningi, ngokuvamile akha umkhuba wokuthandana ngokuqondile "ohlelweni" lokubambisana "ukwethemba - ukuthintana ngokomzimba - ubulili", futhi bazizwa kahle ukuthi yiliphi owesifazane okudinga ukusekelwa okwamanje. Futhi bangaba abangane abahle - nje ungafihli izinhloso zabo zangempela.
Ubumnandi besithelo esivinjelwe
Ukuthinta isifundo esinjalo esibucayi, umuntu akanakusiza kodwa akhumbule isimo sengqondo esivelele sabesilisa nabesifazane abesilisa nabesifazane abesilisa nabesifazane abesilisa nabesifazane abathandana nabo ngokuqondene nesimo sobulili abancane. Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi ezinye izikhulu zijabule ngama-movie we-pornography nezigcawu zesithandani, ngaphezu kwalokho, ngezinye izikhathi azibheki ukukhaphela umlingani, uma ezinike nomfazi. Yebo, labesifazane ngokuvamile banesithakazelo kumasiko wezinsizwa, funda omagazini abafanelekile, ubukele amabhayisikobho. Kukhona ngisho nohlaka oluphelele lwezincwadi ezise-intanethi ngaphansi kwegama elijwayelekile le-slash - le mibhalo ngokuphathelene nobuhlobo bobulili obufanayo nobuningi bezigcawu ezithandanayo, ngokubamba iqhaza kwabalingiswa okwakhiwa ngumlobi noma owaziwa kakade. Abaningi besifazane bayabhala futhi bafunde, futhi bavame ukuvuthwa, ngemindeni nezingane. Kithina kithi ukukhanga ubuhlobo bobulili obuhlukile bobulili obuhlukile?
Ukukhangiswa kwezigcawu zesithandani kubomzimba obuqinile kunomhlobo ofanayo nokujabula kwabo lapho bebukela ukushaya indlwabu. Izigcawu ezinjalo - lokhu kuyimfihlakalo yowesifazane yobungqingili besifazane, uthando lomuntu wesifazane, ngokuvamile evunyelwe amadoda. Ukubheka, ngokusobala noma ngasese, indoda ibona injabulo, okuhlale sinokuthile okuphathelene nezinto ezivinjelwe. Ukuze angeniswe endaweni yesehlakalo yabesifazane ababili, lo mfana akanayo ithuba, futhi akukho okunye okuholela labo abazingeli kanye nabahlukumezi njengengenakulinganiswa komgomo.
Kodwa kulabo abathanda izincwadi namabhayisikobho mayelana nabalingqingili, isisusa sihluke ngokuphelele. Kukhona abesifazane abaningi abangajabuli ngokwabo, ngemizimba yabo. Ngakho-ke, ukuthanda izigcawu ezihilela abesifazane abathandekayo kubangele bangajabuli. Ubuhlobo phakathi kwamadoda amabili amahle, okukhona othandweni, nokuthandana, nokukhanga okuhehayo, banikeze konke abakujwayele ukutholakala ekufundeni izincwadi nokubuka amafilimu othando - kuphela ngaphandle kokubamba iqhaza lomncintiswano ongase abe khona. Ngiyengeza ukuthi uma ngibheka izithombe ezingcolile zobulili, abesifazane bavame ukuziveza endaweni yendoda ngayinye, okubenza banikeze ithuba lokuzizama bona futhi "indima" futhi "esebenzayo" - ekubambeni kobulili obucanshangelwayo ngokobulili akuyona njalo.
Isiphetho esinokuqaphela ukuthi ukuthambekela kwethu ukuhlonipha ubuhle besinye owesifazane, ukuzwa ububele nokumdumisa, kufakazela ukuthi sijabule ngokubukeka kwethu nokuheha kwethu ngesilinganiso esifanayo, asizizwele umona futhi sifisa ukuqeda lo mphikiswano. Uma-ke, ukukhangwa kwabesifazane akuhlobene nokudumazeka kwamadoda, njengoba kwenzeka ezintweni eziningi abesifazane nabesifazane besifazane. Ngokuvamile, owesifazane ozithandayo yena nabanye, abameleli abakhulu obuhle bobulili bakhe, abhekana nokunye okufana nokwehla othandweni - okufana nokuthi uhlinzeka impilo ngokujwayelekile. Ubuhle besifazane buyingxenye ebalulekile yobuhle bezwe. Ngakho-ke kungani ungaphumuli futhi ungawuhloniphi nje - ngaphandle komhlane?