Inombolo yabaxhasi bokuzalwa ngokuhlanganyela iyanda njalo ngonyaka. Abesifazane ababeletha nabayeni babo, futhi ochwepheshe bathi ukutholakala komuntu othandekayo kunikeza isimo esihle, kunxusa umama olindele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma owesifazane okhulelwe eqala ukukhathazeka ngokweqile, umyeni uzomsiza ukuba aqinisekise ukuthi uzoxhumana nabasebenzi bezokwelapha. Ukubeletha kuyinkqubo ephazamiseka kakhulu, futhi umuzwa wokuthi othandekayo uhamba naye unikeza owesifazane ithemba. Qaphela: Ubaba ekamelweni lokulethwa akuyona nje umbonisi onesihawu. Izindlela zokusiza ngokwanele: kusuka ekusikeleni kwe-massage nokufunda ngokuzwakalayo izincwadi ezithandekayo noma omagazini esikhathini eside sokulwa kuze kube sekuhlanganyeleni ukuphefumula ngokuhlanganyela ngokwesikimu esikhethekile nemizamo. Yebo, futhi ubeke isikhathi esithile ihlombe eliqinile, lapho ungakuthola khona umzuzu obuhlungu kakhulu, futhi kusho okuningi. Ukuba khona kukapapa kudlala indima enkulu kulomntwana osanda kuzalwa. Ngokwengqondo, kukhona umqondo wokuthi "ukushicilela", okungukuthi, ukuphrinta.
Ochwepheshe bathi imizuzu yokuqala engu-30-40 ngemva kokuzalwa kwengane isesimweni esiphuthumayo. Ufunda, empeleni ubamba iqiniso elizungezile. Lokho umuntu omncane okuzobona futhi akhumbule kule ngxenye ebalulekile yehora, kuthonya umbono wakhe oqhubekayo wezwe. Kukholelwa ukuthi izinsana ezithathwe obaba zakha ukukhulumisana okungajwayelekile ngendlela emibili nazo, futhi azidluli noma kuphi esikhathini esithile, kodwa zihlala phakathi kwazo zonke iminyaka ezalandela. Ngokuqondene nabapapa ngokwabo, abaningi babo ukuba khona kokuzalwa kwengane yabo ne-sakramente yokunikeza iziphi izinto ezingenakuqhathaniswa nento. Ngokuvamile le mcimbi uhlala ibaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwabo.
Cabanga ngama-nuances
Naphezu kwazo zonke izici ezinhle zokuzalwa okuhlangene, izazi zixwayisa: lokhu kuyisinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu ebangeni ngalinye. Lesi sinkinga sidinga indlela eyodwa kuphela. Phela, uma omunye wabalingani engakalungeli kuye, zonke izinzuzo zokubeletha okunjalo ngeke zibe yinto ebalulekile, kodwa imiphumela emibi yomndeni wonke ingaba yingozi.
Uma owesifazane engakaboni ngokwengqondo ukuba khona komyeni wakhe (isibonelo, uye wafihla izinkimbinkimbi), lokhu kungaqinisa kakhulu futhi kuphoqele inkambo yokubeletha.
Kwamanye ama-papa, ukuba khona kokuhlupheka komkakho kubangela umuzwa onobuhlungu kakhulu wecala, okwamanje kunzima ukuwuqeda. Okuhlangenwe nakho kokuzalwa komlingani kungathinta kakhulu ukukhangwa kocansi kumlingani wakho.
Ingabe unqume ngokuqinile ukwenza lokhu ndawonye? Khona-ke ungesabi. Kuyaziwa ukuthi inkinga enjalo ivela kuphela uma isinqumo sabazali besikhathi esizayo sasingacatshangwa kahle. UPapa, ofuna ukuhlanganyela kulolu hlelo, kodwa engaqiniseki ukuthi uzobhekana nokuvivinywa okunjalo, angase akhohlise: abe nomkakhe esikhathini eside kakhulu futhi esibuhlungu kakhulu phakathi nokulwa, futhi ulinde izikhathi eziphazamisayo kakhulu emnyango wegumbi lokudiliva. Ungakhohlwa: ekuhlanganyeleni, nasekubelethweni kwendabuko, into esemqoka umphumela. Lokhu-ke, ingane enempilo futhi ithandana abazali abanakekelayo. Ngakho-ke akukho lutho lokukhathazeka ngokuthi uma ngesizathu esithile awuzange uhambisane nesikhathi sokubeletha ndawonye kusukela "kuya" kuya ku "I". Phela, kunezikhathi eziningi ezimangalisayo ngaphambi kokuthi uzohlala nomndeni wonke!