Ukulinda ukuzalwa kwengane kuhlale kuhlangene nenjabulo, ngoba ukuzalwa impilo entsha kuyisimangaliso esinikezwa umuntu ngokwemvelo. Futhi uma ingane isifiso, akukho ubunzima nezinkinga zezinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye esikhathini esandulele ukuzalwa kwakhe ngeke kuveze injabulo yomama. Noma kunjalo lesi sikhathi singase sibe ngowakhe, lokhu akufani nalokho kuqhathaniswa nemfihlakalo yokuza ezweni lomuntu.
Akuyona into yokuthi owesifazane anikezwe ngaphezulu. Okunye okumele ukwazi, okunye ukuzizwa, okunye okuzokwenza. Kodwa udinga ukubekezela okwengeziwe, futhi, ngoba kunezivivinyo eziningi. Phela, empeleni, akubona bonke abesifazane abaphuma kalula isisu, ngokuvamile akakho ukukhipha isisu okunjalo. Iningi nje alinqobe ubunzima, ubunzima, ukukhathazeka nezinkinga zokukhulelwa. Futhi axhunyiwe hhayi kuphela ukubonakala noma isibalo. Ngesikhathi sokubeletha usana, isidumbu sowesifazane sithwala umthwalo omkhulu, hhayi nje emzimbeni wendiza. Kusukela ezinyangeni zokuqala zokukhulelwa, owesifazane ushintshile kakhulu, kuhlanganise nesigaba somzwelo.
Ngakho-ke, imizwelo emihle ibhekwa njengento edingekayo owesifazane okhulelwe. Basiza ukulwa nokushintsha kwemizwa, okubhekwa njengento evamile kule nkathi. Into esemqoka ukugwema izimo nokucindezeleka, zonke lezo zinto, ezingabangela ukucindezeleka ezinyangeni zokuqala zokukhulelwa. Izazi zokudla zibona ukuthi kuyadingeka uma kwenzeka izibonakaliso zokuqala zokucindezeleka ukuzikhawulela kumnandi, ikhofi kanye ne-tshokolethi, futhi ungabi ngaphezu kwalo, ukushiya isikhathi esiningi sokulala nokuphumula.
Izimpawu ezisakazeka kakhulu zokuqala ukucindezeleka kungaba ukuphazamiseka kokulala, ukufisa ukudla, ukunganakwa, ukucindezeleka, ukukhala, ukufutheka, ukwesaba, impilo embi, ukuqhuma ngokomzwelo nokuguquka. Izimbangela zalesi simo zingaba yizigameko ezingacacile noma ezincane kakhulu, ukunakekelwa okwanele kwabanye, ukuhlukana kumyeni kunoma yiziphi izindaba, ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa, ukuhlaselwa yisicashu, ukuvuthwa okuvamile kanye nokweqa ngokweqile, ukwesaba ukukhulelwa kwesisu nokunye okuningi.
Akekho owesifazane ongavumi ukuthi kanye nokuzwa injabulo ukuthi ukukhulelwa kunika, kunezinsuku ezinzima kakhulu lapho zonke izinto ezizungezile zidwetshiwe ezimnyama futhi, kubonakala sengathi ngeke kube nokuphela. Ngakho-ke umuntu ubhekana kanjani nokucindezeleka, okuyizinyanga zokuqala zokukhulelwa kuthinta abesifazane abaningi?
Ukuze unqobe lokhu okulimazayo komzimba, umuntu angakwazi ukuzimela, futhi umuntu udinga usizo lwabantu abathandayo, izihlobo nabangane, ngisho nongcweti emkhakheni wezokwelapha nezokwelapha. Esinye sezibonakaliso eziyinhloko zokucindezeleka phakathi nezinyanga zokuqala ukwesaba nokukhathazeka kwengane, ngenxa yendlela ejwayelekile yokukhulelwa, ikakhulu uma iqala. Futhi lapha, kangcono kakhulu kunabo bonke izindlela zokuzithokozisa namasu, uthando nokuxhumana nabathandekayo basebenza. Ikakhulukazi nobaba ozayo. Kusukela kumyeni ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa komkami kuncike kakhulu, njengalokhu kulesi sikhathi bonke abesifazane besuke bezwela kakhulu, bezama, ngokuya kwemizwelo ngisho nangenasisekelo. Ngakho-ke, umuntu onothando ngobuqotho ngaphandle kosizo olungaphandle kanye nemithi uyakwazi kakhulu ukuthonya ithonya elihle kakhulu kumkakhe.
Ukuhlukunyezwa kuyanezela futhi isipiliyoni senza okuthile okungalungile: noma ukuwa, noma ukuphakamisa ubunzima, noma hhayi ukuhlala phansi, noma ukuhluleka ukulala phansi, noma ukudla ngokweqile ... Lolu hlu lungadlulela cishe ku-infinity, futhi umuntu ovamile amaphuzu akhe angabangela ukumomotheka nje. Kodwa ukukhulelwa akuyona isimo esivamile somzimba, kodwa ukuhlanganiswa okuphelele kwawo wonke amandla ayo, ushintsho kwisigqi sokuphila sokuphila. Futhi ngisho ne-psyche ayakha kabusha ngokushesha, iyazivumelanisa nezinguquko esimweni somzimba futhi yandisa umthwalo wazo zonke izinhlelo zayo.
I-toxicosis, ephinde ibonwe ezinyangeni zokuqala zokukhulelwa, ilahlekisa impilo yowesifazane, njengento engelutho. Ngenhlanhla, akunjalo, kodwa ukuqaphela lokhu akududuzi kakhulu kulabo abahluphayo. Kanye nokuqonda ukuthi ngenyanga yesithathu ukubonakaliswa kwayo kufanele kudlule. Ngenkathi owesifazane ehlushwa yilo, unecindezelekile, isimo sakhe somzimba nesengqondo asikuhle kakhulu. Ukuze ubalekele e-toxicosis, uma ukholelwa kumakhambi abantu, ungasebenzisa indlela elula - ngesonto ukuhlala kwamanye amajusi. Yebo, akuwona wonke umuntu ongahlala ekudleni okunjalo, kodwa ayikho ama-peas amabili ngesipuni esisodwa. Ufuna ukuqeda i-toxemia, uzoziphoqa.
Kukhona nalabo, ikakhulukazi emantombazaneni abancane, "abavunguzayo" ngokwabo ngenxa yezinguquko ekubukeni nasekuboneni, bekhohlwa ukuthi zombili lezi zenzakalo zesikhashana. Yebo, emva kokuzalwa kuyodingeka ukuthi wenze ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile ukuze uthole ifomu emuva, kodwa akulona nzima, futhi ngezinto ezincane ezijwayelekile ziqhathaniswa nenjabulo ukuthi ngaleso sikhathi izohlala endlini.
Ngikholelwa ukuthi kufanelekile ukuba uzalwe, lesi sipho sikaNkulunkulu, inhlama encane yokuphila, njengoba nje ukhohlwa zonke izinkinga nezinkinga eziye zahlupheka ezinyangeni eziyisishiyagalolunye ezedlule. Kokubili i-toxemia, nokwesaba, nokuntula ukulala ngeke kubonakale sengathi kuyinto encane kakhulu uma kuqhathaniswa nenjabulo engenakulinganiswa oyoyithola. Futhi ukungazizwa okunjalo njengokucindezeleka kuzokubonakala kungenangqondo futhi kuyinto engavamile, engabonakali engenayo indawo ezweni langempela lapho isimangaliso esisha siphelile - ingane yakho.