Akusikhiphi, kuyisifo
Ngisho nasesimweni esibucayi kakhulu, umuntu uzama ukuthola indlela yokuphuma ngokuzibiza ngokwakhe: "konke kungase kubi kakhulu", "akukho mncane ngaphandle kokuhle, kuzobe ngcono," njll. Kulokhu sisizwa yizinqubo zokuzivikela kwengqondo, ezibandakanyeka ngokuzibandakanya ezimweni ezinzima. Njengoba impilo yethu ivame ukukhula njengoba nje sibikezela futhi siyilindele, akumangalisi ukuthi emva kwesikhathi izimo zishintsha ngempela. Kodwa-ke, ngezinye izikhathi umuntu uhlala ecindezelekile, egcwele ukukhathazeka ngisho nalapho isimo esinzima siphendulile noma singazange siphume nhlobo, futhi isimo sakhe asiqondakali kwabanye. Kulezi zimo, sekuvele kunciphise ubuhlungu, okubizwa ngokuthi ukucindezeleka, okudingekile nje ukuzwelana, kodwa ukwelashwa.
Ukucindezeleka kuyisifo esasakazeka kuwo wonke amazwe, strata social kanye namasiko. Unenkinga ye-5% yabantu bomhlaba. Abesifazane bahlushwa ukucindezeleka ngokuphindwe kabili njengamadoda. Ukuqala kwesifo se-mood ngokuvamile kuneminyaka engama-30-40, ezinganeni akuvamile kakhulu, futhi kulaba asebekhulile kuningi kakhulu. Cishe abantu abangu-12% phakathi nokuphila kwabo bahlangabezana okungenani isiqephu esisodwa sokucindezeleka esiya ezingeni lapho ukwelashwa kudinga.
Ngeshwa, ngisho nasemaphandleni athuthukile, cishe ingxenye yalaba bantu abafuni usizo lwezokwelapha nhlobo - abanye babo bakholelwa ukuthi okwenzekayo kuyisimo sengqondo esibhekene nobunzima bokuphila ngakho-ke udokotela lapha ngeke asize. Enye ingxenye ibheka isimo sayo njengesifo somzimba, umuntu uthemba ukuthi "kuzodlula ngokwayo", omunye umuntu umane nje esaba oxhumana nabo ngenkonzo yesifo sengqondo. Enye indlela, kodwa ama-80% wezinkinga zokucindezeleka ukucindezeleka azibonakali futhi iziguli zihlupheka ngaphandle kosizo. Lezi zindaba zibukeka zingenangqondo futhi zicasula, ngoba uma ukucindezeleka kutholakala ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, iningi lalaba bantu linganikezwa ngosizo olusheshayo nangempumelelo.
Yeka ukuthi ukucindezeleka kubonakala kanjani
Izimpawu ziningi, kodwa izici eziningi. Isici esiyinhloko sokucindezeleka yisimo sengqondo esincane, umuntu angabiza ukudabuka, ukucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka, ukudangala, ukulahlekelwa inzalo ekuphileni, njll. Isimo esinjalo senziwa ngaphandle kwesizathu sangaphandle, noma emva kwesenzakalo esingajabulisi (ukuxabana ngezihlobo, ukuphikisana emsebenzini, ukugula kwelungu lomndeni, ukulahlekelwa kwemali, njll), kodwa izinga nokunciphisa isikhathi sokuncipha kwemizwelo kubaluleke nakakhulu.
Kuyinto engavamile ukuthi uma izenzakalo ezingathandeki empilweni yomuntu zidlula noma zinikezela okuthile okuthakazelisayo, isimo sengqondo asikwazi ukulingana, izenzakalo ezimnandi azitholakali emphefumulweni wempendulo, azijabulisi noma ziqinisa ukudabuka. Umzwelo uvame ukungaqondisi futhi awuxhomekile ekuphumeleleni komuntu. Esimweni sokucindezeleka, wahlolwa, isibonelo, nguJack London, umnqobi weNobel Prize u-Ernest Hemingway, umshiqizi wezimboni waseRussia no-philanthropist Savva Morozov, A.S. I-Pushkin ne-LN UTolstoy, umlingisi ovelele waseMelika u-Rod Steiger nomunye wezombangazwe ezinkulu kakhulu ekhulwini lama-XX, uWinston Churchill.
Isibonakaliso esilandelayo sesimo sokucindezeleka singenasibindi, esibonakala ekulahlekelweni kwezintshisekelo zangaphambili kanye nekhono lokujabulela izinto noma imisebenzi eyayijabulela injabulo enjalo ngaphambili. Umuntu uhlala njengokungathi yi-inertia noma ngesidingo, uzizwa ephelelwe amandla ("njengelimon elicindezelwe"), ulahlekelwa isisusa sokusebenza futhi ngokujwayelekile ukwenza noma yimiphi imizamo. Ukunciphisa umsebenzi, amandla, ukuphuza imoto nokukhathala okwedlulele, okungakaze kubonwe ngaphambili. Umuntu uba engasebenzi, angasebenzi, angenamandla, ulala kakhulu. Ngokudonswa okujulile, lokhu kubonakaliswa ukuwohloka komsebenzi wezobuchwepheshe, ngokudonsa okujulile, ukugcwaliseka kwemisebenzi ejwayelekile yasekhaya kuyinkinga. Ngokuvamile, abantu abakhuthele nabashukumisayo bayeka ukwenza kuphela ibhizinisi, kodwa ngisho nokubukeka kwabo. Kunzima ukuziphoqa ukuba uphume embhedeni, ugqoke, uthathe ukudla, ucingo, njll.
Izimpawu ezengeziwe
Ukucindezeleka kubonakaliswa nenani lezimpawu ezengeziwe. Ngokuvamile kunciphisa ukuzethemba, umuzwa ongenangqondo wecala nokulahlekelwa ukuzethemba. Umuntu uhlale ezwa kabi, engenakwenzeka, engenamsebenzi, engasiqiniseki ithemba elibhekwe kuye. Kuba nzima ukwenza izinqumo - ngisho nokusebenza okulula noma umsebenzi wekhaya kuyakhula ibe yinkinga engenayo. Umuntu uzizwa ephelelwe amandla, egcwele ngokweqile, ecindezelwe yinqwaba yezenzo nemithwalo yemfanelo, engasakwazi ukubhekana nayo.
Ukuzethemba okunciphile kubonakala ngokucacile ekukhulumeni nasekuziphatheni okungelona amazwi - lowo muntu ukhuluma ngokunganqikazi, ngezwi eliphansi, engaqondakali, esaba ukuheha abanye, uzama ukugxila ekhoneni futhi athathe isikhala esincane ngangokunokwenzeka (podzhatye imilenze, bheka phansi, ugweme ukubuka amehlo enye). Lapho elele embhedeni, uvame ukuthatha ukuma kwesibindi, noma "umbungu we-embryon", eceleni kwakhe, eguqa phezu, ebopha izingalo zakhe phezu kwesifuba sakhe, enezinsizwa zakhe phansi.
Ukubonakala komuntu esimweni sokucindezeleka kuyisici: ubuso obunamabala, abafundi abahlanjululwayo, ukubukeka okungapheli, isikhumba esomile, amahlombe amancane, ama-grey and black colors, ukuntuleka kwezimonyo nezinhlobonhlobo, ukungahambi kahle nokungafuni ukubonakala komuntu. Okubi kakhulu ukucindezeleka, kukhulunywa kakhulu lezi zibonakaliso.
Esinye isibonakaliso sesimo sokucindezeleka siyashesha, sicabange kanzima, kunciphise ekukhiqizeni kwengqondo. Ukunakwa komuntu kuhlakazekile, kunzima kuye ukugxila ezintweni ezithile, ukulandela inkambo yokucabanga, ukuqonda incazelo yefilimu, indaba noma lokho okushiwo yi-interlocutor. Imicabango ekhanda incane, ngokuvamile iqukethe okuqukethwe okungajabulisayo futhi i-peppery ihambisana nezinsizana ezincane.
Ngisho nezinsizakalo eziyisisekelo esimweni sokucindezeleka buthaka amandla - izinzwa zobulili, ukudla, injabulo yokudla iyanyamalala, ngakho isisindo somzimba sinciphisa. Eyaziwa yi-disorder yokulala ngesimo sokuvuswa kokuqala - umuntu uvusa amahora angu-2-3 noma ngaphezulu ngaphambili kunokujwayelekile futhi angeke esalale. Lezi zinsuku zasekuseni zinzima kakhulu kuye - akukho ukulala, isikhathi sihudula kancane futhi akukho nomuzwa wokuthi uphumule. Futhi ngisho namaphupho awaphuphi! Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi ntambama noma kusihlwa isimo sengqondo sithuthukisa kancane-kukhona isifiso sokwenza okuthile, umsebenzi wanda, ukuthanda ukudla kubonakala, njll.
Umuntu obhekene nokucindezeleka uhlangabezana nokuzwa okungajabulisi okuvela ezingxenyeni zangaphakathi - ubuhlungu noma ukucindezeleka esifubeni, ukuphazamiseka komzimba, ubuhlungu besisindo, umuzwa wokuthi umzimba ugcwele ubuhlungu obukhulu, ikhanda, isicashu, umlomo owomile, kunzima ukuchaza ukuzwa okungathandeki enhloko, isisu noma izitho. Ukubonakaliswa komzimba okuningi kokucindezeleka kuhlotshaniswa nokwanda kwethempelini yengxenye ezwelayo yesimiso sezinzwa ezizimele. Ngezinye izikhathi kunezibonakaliso eziningi zomzimba zokucindezeleka okuba yizinto eziyinhloko zezikhalazo zesiguli futhi ufuna usizo oluvela ku-cardiologist, i-neuropathologist, i-gastroenterologist kanye nabanye ochwepheshe abangatholi izifo zomzimba ezichaza izikhalazo. Okokugcina, esinye sezibonakaliso ezibonakalayo zokucindezeleka kucatshangwa ngokungafuni ukuhlala - kusuka ekukhungathekeni kanye nokukhathala okuvela empilweni kuya kumapulani ahlukene okuzibulala.
Kungani ukucindezeleka kwenzeka?
Izimbangela zalesi sifo ziyacwaningwa ngokujulile yizingcweti zemikhakha ehlukahlukene amashumi eminyaka. Zihlukene kakhulu futhi ngendlela ejwayelekile kakhulu zingahlukaniswa ngamaqembu amabili - izimbangela zezinto eziphilayo (izidakamizwa, izakhi zofuzo, njll) kanye nezimbangela zengqondo (ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo, izici zobuntu, ukucabanga nokuziphatha komuntu, ubuhlobo bakhe nabanye, njll) .
Kuhlelo lwezinto eziphilayo (i-biochemical), imbangela yezimo ezicindezelayo ukuhlukunyezwa kwe-metabolism ebuchosheni bezinto - izidakamizwa zemiqondo yezinzwa, ikakhulukazi i-serotonin ne-norepinephrine. Ngokucindezeleka, okuqukethwe kwalezi zinto kuyancipha ekuhlanganiseni kwamaseli we-nerve - ama-synapses. Uma kukhona izimpawu ezihambisanayo, izindlela zokwelapha ukucindezeleka zingahluka - kusuka emithini eya kwengqondo (hypnosis).
Njengezinye izifo eziningi, ukutholakala kokucindezeleka kuhluka kakhulu phakathi kwabantu - abanye baze bakhuthazelele kakhulu ukulimala kokuphila, kanti kwabanye, ukucindezeleka kuqhubeka isikhathi esingenasidingo noma ngokugcwele impilo enhle. Lokhu kungenzeka ngenxa yezimpawu eziphawulekayo ze-metabolism - i-neurotransmitter nama-hormone - ebuchosheni, kanye nangezici eziphathelene nomthethosisekelo. Idatha evela ezifundweni zofuzo ibonisa ukuthi izihlobo ezingaphezu kwegazi zabantu abaye bacindezelekile, futhi ngokusondelana nezinga lobuhlobo, kuphakamisa amathuba okuba umuntu ahlakulele le disorder ngesikhathi sokuphila. Kodwa-ke, ukutholakala kwefa akuyona into ebulalayo.
Izimbangela zokucindezeleka ezimweni eziningi ziyizici ezingokwengqondo - izimo zokuphila ezibucayi kanye nokushonelwa: ukugula nokufa komuntu othandekayo, ukulahlekelwa kwesimo sangaphambili sezenhlalakahle, izinkinga zezezimali, izingxabano ezingathí sina, ukuphikisana ekufinyeleleni imigomo yokuphila, njll. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi akuzona zonke izenzakalo zokuphila ezingathandeki eziholela ekucindezelekeni, kodwa kuphela lezo ezithinta ezibaluleke kakhulu, ezibalulekile ohlelweni lokuphila kwamanani omuntu othile. Ngakho-ke, esinye isenzakalo esifanayo (isibonelo, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi noma umhlalaphansi) kungabangela ukuhlupheka nokucindezeleka komunye, futhi omunye - hhayi ukulimala nhlobo.
Imicabango emnyama iyingozi!
Kukhona kakade ubuhlobo obuseduze obuveziwe phakathi kwemizwa nemicabango yethu. Ngakho-ke, lapho isimo somuntu sinciphisa, engqondweni yakhe, ngokwayo, imicabango engalungile nengenangqondo engalungile kanye nezigwebo eziphathelene nokwabanye (imicabango engafanelekile) ivela. Ukucabanga ngomuntu esimweni sokucindezeleka, kunezici eziningana:
• isimo sengqondo esibi ngokuzibona - umuntu uzibheka njengomubi, engafaneleki, engakwazi, engakwazi ukukhubazeka, ogula ngokungapheli, njll, hhayi kuphela kule ndawo ngesikhathi esithile, kodwa nasemiphakathini yonke;
• ukuchazwa okungalungile kokuphila kwakhe okwamanje kanye nokuphila kwakhe kwamanje - kubonakala kumuntu ukuthi izwe elizungezile kanye nabantu abakuzungezile yizidingo ezingekho emthethweni, ezikhona manje, zenzelwe kuphela ekudaleni izithiyo ezingenakunqotshwa kuye, kunoma yiziphi izenzo zakhe, ngisho nokuphumelela nokuphumelela, bheka ukuhluleka kanye nokulahlekelwa kuphela;
• isimo sengqondo esingalungile ngokuqondene nekusasa lakho - umuntu ubona ebumnyameni obunzima, njengochungechunge lwezinkinga ezingapheli, ukwehluleka nokuncishiswa.
Zonke ezinye izimpawu zokucindezeleka, ngokusho kwalo mbono, zichazwa njengomphumela wezinto ezingavamile ezichazwe ngenhla. Ngalolu hlobo lokucindezeleka kwezimpawu, kungaba khona izindlela eziningi zokwelapha. Imicabango emibi ishintsha ukuziphatha komuntu nobuhlobo bakhe nabanye (okuwukuthi, isibonelo, ukuzibheka njengomuntu okhishiwe, umuntu ugweme ukuxhumana nabantu futhi unesizungu). Lokhu, kuholela ekunciphiseni okunye ukuhlushwa kwemizwelo, okuholela ekucabangeni okungenangqondo nakakhulu - ukuvunguza kokucindezeleka kuyathuthuka ngokwengeziwe.
Kukholelwa ukuthi ukuthuthukiswa kokucindezeleka kubangela ezinye izici zobuntu bomuntu - ukwandisa ukugcina isikhathi, ukuzikhandla ngokwakho nokungawaneliseki njalo ngokwakho, ukuzama ukuphelela kukho konke, kufaka phakathi imininingwane encane. Futhi, lokhu kuholela ekusebenzeni okuzenzekelayo, ukuthambekela kokubona kukho konke ukuphutha kanye nezinhlangothi ezingalungile, ukungakwazi ukujabulela impilo yansuku zonke nokubeka ubudlelwane obufudumele nokuthembela nabanye. Yiqiniso, ukucindezeleka kungase kwenzeke nakwezinye izitolo, kodwa ukuba khona kwalezi zici kubunjwa balezi zici kukwandisa ukutholakala kwalesi sifo.