Abahambi nabanogwaja
EbuBuddha, kunesitatimende esiqondile kakhulu: "U-rabbit uzidela ngenxa yomhambi, kodwa hhayi umhambi - ngenxa yogwaja". Sonke sazwa izindaba ezidabukisayo zendlela umfazi ozinikele ngayo umsebenzi wesayensi womyeni wakhe, imikhuba, induduzo, impilo kanye nokuhlala, waphenduka waba i-lemon, i-stinker, i-dray horse, umhlengikazi, futhi lo muntu ovilaphayo akavuka ebhedeni. Kukhona okwenziwe okunye okunye okunye okukhona: okwesikhombisa uqhubekile ebhizinisini lakhe, uyaqhubeka ukuguqula futhi ahambe, aphuze futhi adlale emishini ye-slot, usafuna yena ngokwakhe futhi uthola yonke into engafanele, afunga, afunge futhi akafaki imali enhle ebhange. Uyesaba, uguga, ubheka okubi futhi ugula. Futhi sicabanga: "Yeka ukuthi kuyingozi kangakanani! Owesifazane ompofu, ukuhlwempu okuningi nokuhlupheka - futhi konke okungelutho! "Akayena ompofu. Yena, uxolisa ngenxa yobunzima, kubi, ngoba uzinikela ngenxa yezinye "unogwaja", ngisho nokudabukisayo nokudabukisayo, kodwa akusizi ngalutho futhi akuthandi lutho ngaye nangomuntu. Sinezinhlelo zokuhlelwa ngokwezakhi zofuzo ukuze sizihlasele thina ababuthakathaka. Ngenxa yezingane - ngoba zinamandla kakhulu futhi ikusasa labo; ngenxa yeziguli - kukhona ithemba lokuthi uzobuya; ngenxa yobuntu obuvelele namakhono - kuzoletha ingqondo ngokuhlelekile, ukuthula nokulondoloza izwe, i-firm izovula futhi idale imisebenzi engamashumi amabili. Kodwa ngenxa yamorochek yabesifazane kulesi sigaba ngezikhathi ezithile wehla zonke izinhlobo zokungabi nandaba kanye ne-psychos. Noma abantu abalungile kakhulu, abahlonishwayo bangabaluleki kakhulu kunabo, futhi ngenxa yokuzidela kwabo kungokweqile ukuguqula ama-lats ayikhulu kuya kweshumi.
Ukulinganisa Izisindo
Ngaphambi kokudela, kufanele uhlanganise ingqondo futhi uhloniphe isithunzi somuntu ozimisele ukumdela okuthile. Kumele abe mkhulu kunakho kokuthile noma kukho konke. Uma kungenjalo umhlatshelo wakho uyoba yinto engenangqondo futhi ingalimaza kokubili. Yilokho konke okwenziwe kabi ngakho. Lapho u-Anna Snitkina, umfana osemncane, efika ehhovisi likaFyodor Dostoevsky ngokuthuthumela ukuze amsize emsebenzini, wayekhumbula zonke izincwadi zakhe ngenhliziyo futhi wazi: ungumlobi omkhulu. Phakathi nomsebenzi ohlanganyelwe intombazana yambuka futhi yahlaziya isimilo sayo, yabelane ngokubheka nabangani. Ngangizibuza ukuthi ingabe ingahamba naye. Futhi wavuma ukuba ngumkakhe futhi azinikele kuye ukuthula ngokomoya nokuzihlonipha ngokomoya, hhayi ngokucindezela okungokomoya - uphahla lwalususa uthando, kepha ngokusho kokubala okucabangelayo: "Ukhulu, futhi angisuye." Futhi nenye indaba - umngane wami u-Olga, isisebenzi se-ejensi yokuhamba. Asibonanga izinyanga ezintathu. Futhi ngalesi sikhathi, umyeni wakhe uDaniel washiya umsebenzi ebhange futhi walala phansi. Ububula ukuthi unenkathi enzima yokuqonda okwedlule nokubeka imigomo emisha-impilo idlula, akukho lutho oluzwakalayo, kuhlanganise nokusebenza ebhange. Udinga isikhathi sokuphuma, ukuthula endlini kanye nesandla esithandekayo somfazi othandekayo ebunzini lakhe. Ukuze amenze azizwe kahle, u-Olga kufanele abe naye, enqabe ukuhamba okuthakazelisayo kwebhizinisi nakweyiphi indlela yokukhuthazwa emsebenzini, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo athathe inqwaba yezindaba zezenzo ezizondayo - imali iyadingeka. Kuzodingeka anqabe indlela yakhe yokuphila eyintandokazi, ukunyakaza kanye namaqembu, kanye namaphupho wengane. Futhi uzothela amandla akhe namandla abe ngumyeni wakhe, aze abe nokuhlupheka okubuhlungu, ukungabi nandaba nokunganaki konke, kufaka phakathi kwakhe. Umyeni wakhe ngokusobala akayena uDostoevsky. Futhi ngaphambi kokuzidela, u-Olga wafika kimi ukuba acabange ngokuzwakalayo ngalokho abathandekayo bakhe ababekuzuzile iminyaka engu-38. Saqala ukuhlunga uhlobo lwama-diplomas kanye nemiklamo ephumelelayo ayenazo impahla yakhe. Yebo, waphumelela kumantshi e-England, angakwazi ukuhlala endaweni eyodwa yokusebenzela iminyaka engaphezulu konyaka, uyazi ukuthi angayishaya kanjani izinhliziyo zabantu ngezinkulumo nabantu abadala kanye nezingane baya kuye. U-Olga uyakhumbula ukuthi ngokuzithandela wamboza umama wakhe kusukela ekuseni kuze kuhlwe, uhlale ethi uyakubonga ngamabhuluki ensimbi futhi uyamanga ekuseni. Ukubekezela, ukukhuthala nokunakwa kwabathandekayo nakho kwaya enqolobaneni yobuhle. U-Olga wavuma ukuthi ufuna ukuthola ngokubuyisela. Ngempela, senza imihlatshelo ngenxa yenjongo ethile: Abomdabu base-Afrika bashisa imbuzi ngenxa yemvula bese bayigcoba ngamafutha okuzingela okuhle. Ulindele ukusindisa lo mfana ebuhlungu, ulindele ukuthi uzongena futhi amthokoze, avule ibhizinisi elisha, indlu izophinde ibe yikhobe egcwele futhi kuyoba nenjabulo kuyo. Futhi ufuna u-ponychitsya omncane naye, aze angenabantwana. Ngenxa yalokho, u-Olga waya ekhaya ecabangela. Kubonakala sengathi uDaniel unenani. Manje kufanele aziqhathanise nomyeni wakhe futhi anqume ukuthi yikuphi okungaphezulu kwawo. Uma kungaphezu kwalokho akhiphe lutho: akunangqondo. Uma ezokhetha ukuthi yiziphi izingelosi eziqaphayo nezingelosi eziphefumulayo ezilungele ukwabelana naye.
Wena nabanye
Esikhathini sokuqhathanisa, akukho zeluleko ezingaphandle ezisiza. Uyazi, lokhu yisikhathi esicashile kakhulu nesibalulekile: uzihlolisise futhi uqhathanise ngokuzithobayo, oholwa yinto eyodwa. Futhi awulaleli muntu ngaphandle kwakho. Umkami ka-Osip Mandelstam, uNadezhda, wayezicabangela njengomculi ovamile, nomyeni wakhe njengomlobi omkhulu. Wayenamathuba amaningi okuphila impilo ebalulekile neqhakazile naye kunokuba ngaphandle kwakhe. Futhi walahla ukudweba nokunikela ngobuciko bakhe ngenxa yendoda ethandekayo. U-Anna Akhmatova wathola isipho sakhe sezinkondlo esikhulu futhi akazange azithobe ngokwabo ngenxa yenduduzo nenjabulo yendoda yakhe, uNikolai Gumilev - futhi imbongi enhle. Akukhathaleki ukuthi awusiye u-Akhmatova futhi awunawo amathalenta avelele. Akukho lutho olubalulekile, ngaphandle kwemizwa yakho: ungabeka yini ingxenye yakho noma cha. Uma ulungele ukunganaki into ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe - ukuchuma noma ukuziqhenya, umsebenzi noma abangane, iminyaka yokuphila - futhi ungaqhubeki, ubheke futhi uhlabele. Ukungabaza - yeka. Esemusha, ukuzidela ngenxa yomunye kulula, ngoba sinamathuba ambalwa - amathuba kuphela, imikhuba ethile, amaphupho kanye nezinhlelo zekusasa. Futhi isikhathi esiningi esiseduze. Eminyakeni ekhulile, kunzima ukudela: uthola amanani amaningi nezinamathiselo, ufunde impumelelo, injabulo yokudala. Futhi isikhathi sakho sihamba ngesivinini se-crazy, sithola amancane, futhi intengo iya phezulu.
Ingabe kukhona okudinga lokhu?
Kungani kungani ngezinye izikhathi umhlatshelo wethu ungahlonishwa? Sizoveza imfihlo eyingozi: kanengi ngoba siletha umhlatshelo ongalungile nongadingekile. Lapho ngithola incwadi yezinganekwane lapho inhlanzi eyingozi yayinikelwa izintombi. Mhlawumbe, le nsizwa yayizoba usizo kumlandisi. Kodwa yini okumelwe uyenze ngendwangu yakhe - akucaci kahle. Ungalali noma udle - ngenxa yezimpawu zomzimba wakhe. Uyoba namathani amathathu weplankton, okungcono ukuthi asevele ehlungiwe. Futhi uma uzomhlatshelo umuntu, thola, okungenani, ukuthi yini lo muntu adinga! Khona-ke uzongena esimweni sobuwula, okuyinto evame ukuyenza nabazali abadela okuthile ngenxa yabantwana. Indodana yomama ohlukanisile ngeke iqonde ukuthi kungani umama wakhe omncane engekho kuyisipho sakhe futhi kufanele ambulele. Manje, uma zonke ihlobo esikhundleni sokuphumula ogwini laseTurkey zazungeze izintaba kanye naye (okuyinto eyayifisa kakhulu kuye), futhi uma ezinikela isikhathi sakhe samahhala, indodana endala yayiyoyikhumbula ngothando nokubonga. Futhi uma wanquma ukudela okuthile ngenxa yomyeni wakho, cela: "Ufuna ngilinde ukubuya kwakho emsebenzini nsuku zonke futhi ulale? Noma awunandaba uma kukhona umuntu ekhaya, futhi uvele nje uphupha ukuthi ungawa kanjani ngokushesha emceleni? Ingabe ufuna ukuthi ngiyeke umsebenzi wami, shiya indodakazi yami nomama futhi ngihambe nawe ukwakha impilo entsha eNorway? Noma ingabe ungathanda ukuhamba wedwa, uhlele konke futhi usitshele ngane? "Futhi ngeke kube khona idrama yeminikelo engadingekile emndenini wakho.
Umhlatshelo wakho ulungile
Uma lowo osindisa, okungenani ngezikhathi ezithile, okwesikhashana, uvumela yena ukuba asindiswe - uyeka ukudlala njengoDostoevsky, noma iziphuzo njengo-Ozzy Osbourne, uphume ngokudabukisayo futhi akubonga ngemizamo yakho. Uthola lokho ayenakho engqondweni, futhi ukuchuma noma ukuthula kuvela endlini yakho - noma udumo lwakhe nenkazimulo ikuthinta ngephiko lakhe.
Umhlatshelo wakho awunalutho
Isikhathi sidlula, kodwa akukho lutho olushintshayo. Unyaka usuqedile, umyeni wami usalokhu ehlezi nxazonke futhi elinde, elele embhedeni, kuze "iso lakhe lesithathu livuleke." Akagcwala ukubonga kanye nemizwa efudumele ngawe, akajabulisi, akahlabeli futhi akadumisi, akawuthande. Futhi akabizi ingelosi, kodwa i-bitch - ngoba uyamkhuthaza ukuba asebenze futhi acele ukuthi angamhlophe futhi angafungi.
Ukuze ungahambi ngonya
Ngezinye izikhathi othandekayo udlula umkhawulo owawusethe futhi wenza isenzo esingamukeleki kuwe. Khona-ke akukho okumele kwenziwe ngakho - uma kungenjalo uzolahlekelwa ingqondo yakho kusuka ngokweqile noma uguquke ube yincithakalo ecindezelayo. UTatiana Lappa, umkami wokuqala womlobi uMikhail Bulgakov, wasebenza naye esibhedlela saseZemstvo njengomhlengikazi - ukuze angabi nzima, edabukile futhi enesizungu, bese kuthi, phakathi neMpi Yezwe I, waya phambili kuye. Usize umyeni wakhe ekuthunjweni, futhi lapho eshiya izinzwa zakhe, wambamba esifuba sakhe. Wamphulukisa ekulweni komuthi we-morphine, wamelana nakho konke ukuphuza kwakhe nokudabuka. Usizile ukubuyela empilweni evamile. Ekugcineni wabhala "White Guard" futhi wathola udumo olukhulu. Washintsha ngokushesha uTanya kunye neLyubov Belozerskaya, futhi wabe esehlambalaza umfazi wabo abathathu: "Ngangathi uLyuba angaphila kancane nathi? Kuhle? "" Kuyinto engalungile! "UTanya uthe futhi wahlukanisa naye. Akazange amthethelele ngenkani. Wayesekulungele umhlatshelo wakhe - kodwa hhayi kanjalo! UMikhail Bulakov ngaphambi kokufa kwakhe ngo-delirium wabiza ukumbiza ngokuthi uTatiana futhi wayelokhu ephindaphinda ukuthi unecala ngaphambi kwakhe. Futhi uTatiana washada kakhulu okwesibili futhi waphila iminyaka engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye. Yiqiniso, kwenzeka ukuthi zonke izinzwa zizobhekana nokucindezeleka, kodwa impilo izodumazeka, iziphepho ze-hormonal kanye nezidakamizwa ziqala, ukungenakulinganiswa kwemigraines, ukucindezela kwegazi noma izifo ezingokwemvelo. Kulesi simo kubalulekile ukuphathwa, ukwenza okuhle ngangokunokwenzeka ngokwakho. Futhi ushintshe indlela yokuphila.