Kanjani ukukhohlwa othandekayo ngokushesha?

"Ungahlanganyeli nabathandekayo bakho ...". Le kholi yenkondlo inqweneleka kakhulu ukufeza, kodwa impilo iyashintsha futhi lokho okwakubonakala sengathi ayinakunyakaziswa izolo, njengezwe ngokwayo, namuhla kungabhubhisa. Usuku lufikile lapho umuntu kufanele ahlukane nomuntu onomndeni wakhe ongakabi khona lapho muva nje!

Abantu abahlukene banezinqubo ezahlukene kule nqubo. Umuntu uhamba ngemizwa futhi ehamba ngokuzethemba efuna injabulo entsha, omunye ushiya, kodwa uhlala umngane othembekile wokuphila. Kodwa kuthiwani uma kungenakwenzeka kulezi zinto? Ufuna ukuthola amathiphu wokuthi ungashesha kanjani ukukhohlwa othandekayo?

Yiqiniso, kudingeka sibheke izinto ezibucayi - siyakuqonda nokuthi ukukhohlwa othandekayo wakho ngokuphelele, akunikezwa muntu, kodwa ukuphuma ebuhlotsheni bothando futhi uziphazamise emicabangweni eyinkimbinkimbi yokwazi ukukhumbula okwedlule njengokungavamile ngangokunokwenzeka, ngempela.

Indlela elula, mhlawumbe, izongena emsebenzini ngekhanda. Yiqiniso, kunezinzuzo kulokhu kuchitha isikhathi. Isibonelo, uma ukwandisa umthwalo womsebenzi, iziphathimandla, ukuhlola intshiseko yakho, cishe, izokwandisa umholo wakho, noma ibuye iphakame ehhovisi. Kanti futhi, isikhathi sokungena emicabangweni enesithunzi futhi samoyedstvuyuschee nabo ngeke nje bahlale! Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, umzimba wakho, kanye nezinzwa, hhayi insimbi namabutho ayo kukhona umkhuba wokuphela, ngakho-ke uyiphathe ngenhlonipho futhi ucabangele ezinye izinketho.

Sekuye kwaphawula ukuthi isikhathi esibucayi sokuphila, kanye nalabo abajabule, sihlangene kangcono ndawonye! Zama ukuchitha isikhathi esincane ngangokunokwenzeka yedwa. Hlangana nabangani, sebenzisa isikhathi ndawonye bese nikhuluma ngezihloko ezingabonakali. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuyeka ngokushesha yonke imizamo yokuthola ukuthi kwenzekani, ikakhulukazi uma ungakhululekile ukukhuluma ngakho. Vele uxwayise wonke umuntu ukuthi awufuni ukukhuluma ngakho futhi uzobonga uma le nkinga ingaqhubeka iphindaphindwa. Ngendlela, indlela enhle yokukhulumisana ngokuhlanganyela iyisithangami kwi-intanethi! Thola isayithi elihlobene futhi ngesibindi ungene esithangamini. Zizwe ukhululekile ukutshela indaba yakho, ulalele abanye ... Ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbe omunye wabo uzohlangana lokho okuzokwenza ukholwe ukuthi, empeleni, konke akukubi kakhulu kuwe.

Akuyona inketho embi, futhi, yenza ukuzifunda. Bhalisela izifundo ezithile ezithakazelisayo. Funda ukushayela imoto, ukhulume isiShayina, u-macarame weaveve ... Okukhethwa kukho ngempela akubalanga futhi bonke baqaphela iqiniso lokukhohlwa lowo muntu owenze ubuhlungu!

Iyaqhubeka. Cabanga ngento yokuzilibazisa. Qala ukuqoqa okuthile. Yiqiniso, ukuqoqa iqoqo lamadayimane angavamile kungaba mnandi kakhulu, kodwa masibe ngeso lengqondo, le ndlela yokuzilibazisa isesikhwameni sezinyunithi, kodwa iqoqo lezintambo, amagundane esiqandisini, ngisho namabhodlela we-shampoo, uma nje kulungele injongo yalo futhi kusize ukuba ukhohlwe ukuthi ubani ongacabanga ngakho abafuni. Uma le ndlela yokuzilibazisa ibuye ibonakale i-banal, cabanga ngokwakho, ekhethekile, eqondakalayo kuphela kuwe. Cabanga ngemifanekiso yezilwane emafwini, uqoqe i-herbarium, yakha eyakho, akekho owazi ulimi futhi ukhulume nayo. Lapha, njengempi, zonke izindlela zilungile.

Abantu abaningi benza iphutha elikhulu bezama ukukhohlwa othandekayo ngeziphuzo ezinamandla. Ngizosho ngesikhathi esisodwa - le ndlela ayiyona into efanelekile, kodwa kufanele isuswe ngokuphelele! Ngaphansi kwethonya lokudakwa ngokweqile, abantu bavame ukwenza izinto ezingenangqondo. Kuyinto eyisiphukuphuku ikakhulukazi uma, ngemuva kokudakwa, umuntu uqala ukubiza umlingani wangaphambili futhi akhubekele ngolimi lwakhe ezama ukuthola ukuthi kungani enza lokho. Ngikholelwa, akukho lutho ngaphandle kwesihawu ku-interlocutor aluvuki. Kodwa akudingeki sizisole, akunjalo? Khona-ke umsila uyisibhamu futhi uqhubeke!

Ukwedlula umgqa wokukhahlela. Isaga esivamile? Kungani ungazisebenzisi futhi uzame ukuhlangabezana nokuthanda kwakho okusha, okujabulisayo? Bheka nxazonke. Mhlawumbe, eduze kwakho kunomuntu oye wazama ukukhombisa ukuthi awunandaba naye? Ngakho mnike ithuba!

Futhi, ekugcineni, okokugcina. Ufuna ukukhohlwa ngokushesha othandekayo wakho? Bese uzithanda wena, ekugcineni, futhi uyeke ukuthanda! Yiya salon beauty, shintsha isithombe noma ngisho umbuthano wokuxhumana, ikakhulukazi uma kuhambisana nawe. Jabulela ukuphila. Futhi emphefumulweni wakho lapho ngeke kube khona indawo yokucindezeleka.