Ngokuvamile, abesifazane, amantombazane, amantombazane akhonjelwa ukwelashwa okungahambi kahle kumadoda. Kungaba njengenhlamba yamuntu kumuntu, ngakho into ebi kakhulu udlame. Amadoda angabantu abesilisa abafuna umhlatshelo ukuze banelise ukuthanda kwabo. Futhi kaningi akukhathaleli ukuthi ubani, nini, futhi kuphi. Yiqiniso, akuzona zonke lezi, kodwa kunezinhlobo zokuziphatha okubi kakhulu ezingafani nomqondo wesithunzi nesithunzi.
Ungakugwema kanjani ukudlwengula? Futhi kuthiwani uma kwenzeka udlame olufanayo, ukuphuma kanjani kulesi simo? Okokuqala udinga ukubheka indlela intombazane eziphatha ngayo emphakathini, uma ebukeka ehlambalaza futhi eziphatha ngendlela efanayo, ingenye yeyokuqala ingawela ezandleni zomdlwenguli. Ngokuvamile, amadoda anjalo akhethwe ukulala ngokocansi. Kunemithetho embalwa elula yokugwema lesi simo:
Gqoka ngokuzithoba, ikakhulu uma uhamba ebusuku;
Enkampanini engajwayele ukuziphatha ngokuthobeka;
Uma ubuyela ekhaya ebusuku noma kusihlwa, kuhle ukuba othile ahlangane nawe esitobhini sebhasi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uthathe itekisi noma uhambise;
Ungazijwayele ubuntu obusolisayo emgwaqweni, ezokuthutha, enqabeni;
Ephaketheni lakho, kufanele uhlale unento yokuphepha kwakho, noma ibhodlela legesi noma i-perfume noma i-déodorant, ukuze lapho ekuhlaseleni unganciphisa umhlaseli; (kulesi sikhwama ukuthi le nto kufanele ilale, ngoba ngenkathi usufuna ekhwameni lakho, usuvele udlwenguliwe);
Ungahambi kuqala ekungeneni, uma ufuna ukuya nendoda engaziwa, kungcono ukuwudlulela phambili, lokhu uzokuzivikela ekuhlaselweni okuvela ngemuva. Lapho umdlwenguli ehamba phambili, kuzoba lula kuwe ukuzimisela indlela yokuziphatha okuqhubekayo;
Ungahlali wedwa ku-elevator nomuntu osolisayo.
Nansi imithetho ye-banal yokuthola inhlonipho nokuphila komuntu siqu, ekubheka ukuthi uzothola ithuba lokuphuma kulesi simo, noma ukungena kuwo.
Uma usungena kulesi simo esingathandeki, ungesabi ngokushesha. Izisulu zomdlwenguli ngokulingana, uyesaba, lokhu kuyakhe futhi kuphakamisa, ukwesaba kwakho kanye nokuhlangana kwakhe kumnika i-adrenaline. Nalapha futhi kukhona amathiphu ambalwa amancane.
Uma unezinzwa ezinamandla, ungakwazi ukuzolahla ukucindezeleka amazwi omdlwenguli, kaningi kunokuba kungenjalo, baphunyuka emva kwalokhu;
Uma ubamba umdlwenguli emnyango, kufanele ushayele yonke indlela, omakhelwane bazophuma. Nakuba abaningi bephikisa ukuthi omakhelwane manje sebesaba ukuhamba, kodwa awunayo enye indlela. Futhi, ungesabisa umdlwenguli, angase futhi abaleke.
Uma umdlwenguli ephethe ummese esandleni sakhe, ke uqaphele, noma yikuphi ukuhamba ngokweqile kungadlala kuwe. Into esemqoka ungesabi. Ngokujwayelekile umdlwenguli uhlaselwa ngemuva futhi ubeka ummese emphinjeni wakhe, khumbula ngokushesha ukuthi yini ephaketheni lakho, yini engayenza ukuze unciphise umdlwenguli. Uma usezithendeni, ungabetha kanzima emlenzeni womdlwenguli ngesithende.
Uma umelana naye, futhi ekusongela ngomese, ungamkhahlela emkhatsini wemilenze yakho bese ugijimela emgwaqweni, phansi phansi bese ugodla kuwo wonke umnyango. Ungalokothi ugijimise, lapho angakuthola khona.
Kukhona enye indlela yokuphuma kuleso simo, kodwa isebenza ngokweqile kakhulu. Ungamtshela ngokuqondile ukuthi amadoda angakujabuleli nokuthi ungumlingani wesifazane noma owesifazane obandayo.
Futhi uma usadlwengulwa, ungabulawa ngakho. Abantu abaningi bazibulala, baphambuka ngalesi sigameko. Awu, lokhu kuyisiqephu empilweni yakho, okumele uyikhohlwe futhi ngokushesha kungcono. Ekuphileni kunezigameko eziningi, kepha kusadingeka baphile impilo ejwayelekile. Futhi akudingeki ukuthi uphindiselele kumdlwenguli wakho, akukho muntu ongatholakali, futhi uzothola impindiselo kuwe kakade lapho kufanele khona.